What I learned from 100 days of rejection | Jia Jiang | TED

Jia Jiang adventures boldly into a territory so many of us fear: rejection. By seeking out rejection for 100 days -- from asking a stranger to borrow $100 to requesting a "burger refill" at a restaurant -- Jiang desensitized himself to the pain and shame that rejection often brings and, in the process, discovered that simply asking for what you want can open up possibilities where you expect to find dead ends.

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[Ajithkumarm]

Rejected Continuously in 28 interviews....just to be a Software Developer in 29th Interview..Happy that I didn't Give Up...

[bluethan]

6 years old he walked out of a classroom crying from rejection

30 years old he walked out of a classroom crying from acceptance

[nicedog]

Rejection hurts because it makes us doubt ourselves but the worst thing is ‘inaction’. As long as you are moving forward, you are doing ok.

[maii.]

"Most successful people do not let rejection define them. They let their reaction to rejection define themselves." Amazing TEDTalk!

[elleste]

if burger refill becomes a thing, it's because of this guy

[sevenaries]

"Never reject yourself before they reject you"
- Me 2021

[Mr.Chickn]

wow I just asked a girl out she turned me down and this was the first video in my suggestion feed. thanks YouTube.

[grepgrok]

1. Don't run. Stay engaged.
2. Ask "Why?"
3. Relate to their emotions and mentions their doubts
4. Just ask for what you want
5. Embrace rejection

[KellyWakasa]

wow i've watched a lot of ted talks and this is my favorite one. he's so genuine, his story is so relatable and i want a burger refill

[jerodapidap]

I like how he turned a serious matter in life into humor

[JinjiSayson]

Please also take note of this lesson he imparted: “And then, I learned I could fulfill my life dream by asking.” That is an underrated statement. Learning how to advocate for yourself, because you know you deserve the best is a very important life skill.

[sushantmanandhar]

Jia: Can I do a Ted talk about being rejected?
Ted: Sure thing bro
Jia: (wtf dude you're supposed to say no)

[tommyfunn]

I'll never forget being 8 yrs old in the drive-thru w/ my dad telling me that rejection is nothing to be afraid of (he IS an amazing salesperson), and then proving it by asking for a FREE large order of fries at the drive-thru speaker at McDonalds. He joked with the cashier for a second, then asked again. She laughed and said "I don't think that's possible, " and my father said, "We would love it if you could do it!" and pulled forward.

What do ya know...the girl hands us our order. NO fries. Then she turns to grab something else...THE BIGGEST BAG OF FRENCH FRIES I'VE EVER SEEN. It was. an. entire. bag. of. fries. All these employees start laughing. My face must have lit up. To this DAY, I've never seen that many french fries at one time. These people EMPTIED the stockroom to make this thing. Laughter abounds. A lesson learned...
And somewhere, a lost french fry rests silently beneath the seat of an '88 Ford Taurus...

AWESOME VID!

[georgehiggins]

This is possibly one of the most inspiring ted talks I've ever seen.

[LauraGammack]

That was a fantastic use of 15 mins of my time. This guy is funny, inspirational, and I needed that. Feeling so rejected lately and have been forgetting to see it as opportunity for growth.

[rqh]

This guy should totally start a career of stand-up comedy! He's got a natural and effortless sense of humor around him

[ClemensAlive]

Yes, yes and double yes!

Here's a little story from my life:

When I was 17, I was the most bullied kied in school - BY FAR!
I then saw that something like a community on that new platform called "YouTube" was building. (It was 2010)
So I also started making videos....
I got laughed at by a couple of HUNDREDS of students EVERY DAY...but I didnt quit. I thought: "When you all hate me anyways, there's no point in quitting."

5 years later I had one of the most successful YouTube channels in Germany. (It's this one :) )

Then I retired from beeing a YouTuber and started as a consultant for social media strategies in 2017.
I got rejected exactly 68 times until I signed my first customer for 200$ (lol).
Today I have clients all over the world. (Silicon Valley, Atlanta, Berlin, ...you name it)

Don't let rejection define you. It is nothing personal.

In fact, If I would not have been rejected that often, I would not have known what my niche target group even needs...I would just sit there and call myself a failure all the time.

[valrystar]

This talk is so amazing! I laughed the entire time but then I cried at the end because I realized how much Ive let my fear of rejection control my life. I felt overwhelmed thinking of the instances Ive let my fear stop me from chasing my dreams. I intend to take back control of my life. Thank you for this life changing talk!

[traveel]

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
-Michael Scott

[GhostToLane]

Im gonna ask for a burger refill at every burger place now. Thank you