Pt. 2 Emotional Neglect in Childhood - Parental Abuse in Autistic or Highly Sensitive Children

Last video hit 3k in 3 days this is wild! So, to thank you, here are MORE tips & tricks for FINDING YOIR VOICE as an adult and TRUSTING YOURSELF after a childhood of abuse, trauma, or invalidation. (I also have Part 3 filmed but it takes nearly an entire day to upload a video this long on a $10 wifi pass so stay tuned!)

In this video: I list a few MORE things that signal you were abused as child, I open up about a lot of personal topics- a lot of which I haven’t even told my PARTNER, as well as tips and tricks for overcoming specifically childhood trauma!

For the first time, I publicly talk about how my family used everything they could for manipulation, humiliation, and as a result- CONTROL! They also seem to almost intentionally sabotage ALL holidays and family gatherings?? Did/does your family use these same tactics? This stuff is WHACK AS HECK and I’m about go BLOW the doors off at least this corner of the internet! Wanna come??

In part 2 I expand further on why I never trusted myself and why I could never seem to choose a decent partner. Now I know it was because I never saw any solid examples as a child.

We have a CRAPPY PARENT EPIDEMIC in the world today and I’m gonna let HER blow the whistle this time. In this photo of 5 year old me, I just imagine them saying “Quit crying and smile for the camera.” like i have many other memories of. Being forced... Forced to smile, forced to wear this, eat this, and locked in a room alone when i cried. Regularly. With a lock on the doorknob that could only be opened from the outside.

Or when the radio got turned up to drown out my screams, instead of anyone asking what was wrong. I learned from a young age: “My feelings don’t matter.” And I was continued to be treated like this until adulthood, only more severely. This lack of a voice ultimately lead to other behaviors that I used to communicate that I was miserable and needed help. These behaviors were serious…. Self-harm, eating disorders, substance abuse.

I think parts of my brain were damaged in those moments that might never be normal/healthy. But thats okay. We still have power NOW to live a healthier life. We can validate ourselves and each other.

Not for sympathy, for AWARENESS and healing for others. Don’t even come at me… unless you want a little shout out video from me like the others. I got no problem. 💅🏻✨ (insert whistleblowing emoji) CHEERS FRIENDS

You’re not alone! ♡*:･ﾟ✧

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[francisr]

About the Christmas thing; "You're spoiled. You should be greatful." GREATFUL FOR WHAT? THEY *LITERALLY* GAVE YOU *NOTHING* .

[takke]

Yo calling you cinderella as a joke and not understanding how that makes them the literal villian of a disney movie, literal disney villian levels of evil is wild! Like, how much delusion do you have to swallow until you think you being the evil stepmother is a flex.

[khristopherlawrence]

Girl, that final story... I'm speechless and so angry.
Well I just discovered you by watching the last video and now this one, and nodding my head through both... I'm 33 and just now I've begun untangle my mess of emotional childhood neglect and my late autism diagnosis. It's such a wild ride. I hope all the best for you Twyla, you seem like a super fun person to hang out with so I'll keep listening to what you have to say! Hugs!

[SrTido]

26 year old who moved back with my parents after graduation for a brief period of time and barely ever left my room. It's just exhausting having to defend every action and decision I make. I'm done defending my existence, my relationship with myself is more important than my relationship with my parents.

[_kyt_]

I'm so glad I found a spouse that is just as neurodivergent as I am. Our living room is more like a giant two person office - and in the house we're buying we're planning on doing exactly the same thing - and turning one of the small bedrooms into a cozy theater room instead. I'm not saying finding a fellow neurodivergent person solves everything, because it doesn't, but it is a step in the bare minimum direction towards being someplace you feel comfortable, understood and respected.

[The_Mim]

Teacher's abuse neurodivergent kids too. I remember I was in girl scouts and in middle school our troop had the opportunity to go to Ireland....we had to get 3 or 4 letters of recommendation or whatever and my 1 teacher wrote such an atrocious letter and I couldn't go on the Ireland trip.

I'm still traumatized by that, and I am 35 years old 😪 😔.

[Long_May_They_Raine]

The last video helped me a lot. These little convos are so comfy.

I don’t speak to either of my parents anymore, and with my mother being as abusive as she is in multiple ways, I’m nervous about having to go back for Thanksgiving. I want to see my siblings and my grandmother, but I’m afraid, truly, that she’ll destroy my documents when I ask for them.

I’m 24. The reduction in stress that I experienced, the weight loss, the mental clarity that came with removing them- it’s just so obvious that my life is better without them in it.

[maskedzafiro]

This is what I'm living right now. My diet and sleep schedule is fucked, I struggle to feel hungry or have motivation to prepare a meal and I can easily forget or ignore my bodily signals and needs. I told my mom my doctor said I show signs of severe anxiety and her first instinct is to blame me for it. Mind you, she's the main source of my anxiety. 😐

[Stuffyluffy]

Im 35 and physically disabled so Im just now coming out of my abusive situation and just learning who I am. Its extremely daunting task but Im just glad to be out of the hell honestly.

[PixieNixxArt]

Thank you so much for sharing <3 I got my autism and ADHD diagnosis at 30, I'm no contact with my abusive parents too. It's extremely validating hearing you use your voice so confidently and astutely. Here's to the journey of gaining a sense of self! Thanks again :)

[Becca-kh]

I also have to say, I freaking love that you hug the camera!

[stephenie]

Twyla, if I was your aunt, I’d have made sure you had some pjs to open on Christmas. Wouldn’t have been a second thought. How ridiculous.

[Becca-kh]

I’m 43 and just now discovering who I am.

[nicomputerservices]

Can't wait for part 3, 4, 5, 10. Thanks so much for making these.

[Imagination_lives]

Twyla, I still maintain that you are one cool dudette. Good for you for making the decisions and life changes that you have!

I am 56, and I felt that isolation all my life until finding out that I am autistic and that there are others like me out there in the online autistic community. I have met and been exposed to some of the most beautiful, kind, and inspiring people after seeking out other autistic people. I mean, they let me be me and still love me even when I am being the real me. What an unfamiliar but wonderful feeling! I didn't even know it was possible.

So empowering to hear people like you validate the feelings that so many of us have had. I wish my parents could have heard the part where you talk about staying in your room so that maybe instead of shaming me for it, they would have tried to figure out why I never wanted to come out. Keep up the great work, young lady!

[Experiment]

I never leave comments but I love your videos, they really speak to me as a late diagnosed autistic woman

[juliav]

Thank you for being so candid. This validated a lot of my feelings about my upbringing

[jakebailey]

Hey more power to you on your journey!

Going no contact with my family was one of the most empowering things I’ve ever done, it’s amazing how fast you can grow when your no longer been cut down.

If you’re the designated family scapegoat nothing you can say or do will be “enough” to break you out of that role in their eyes. Dysfunctional families need a punching bag to vent off their own collective shame, to make themselves feel superior. Fuck that game, nobody deserves that shit and we always deserved better. Mad respect for the authenticity

[emilysnyder]

I had 2 lovely teens just knock on my door and invite me to a Trunk or Treat at their church. My trauma surrounding the holidays or any gathering makes even being invited anywhere anxiety producing. It's hard to have a good time because you're waiting for something to go wrong.

[Sarahmint]

Love you, Love yourself. Surround yourself by people who love you.