What is a Trauma Bond? | Sheleana Ayaiana

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It takes so much courage to get up and leave. But when you do, you grow as a person exponentially.

Kika

This is why emotional abuse is probably the worst to heal from…the way it changes your brain is so insidious & unseen but has real impacts that last a lifetime.

nicolesteward

It's crazy how true this is to me

VeronicaVengance

I resonated w this. I came from very abusive toxic family and although was never physically assaulted much verbal n mental abuse.

truenorthtarot

Not only physical abuse, also mentally

jacqibiesler

I remember thinking during the abuse..why can't I leave him? It felt like an invisible chain attached me to him. I basically believed that if I stay I will die because of the abuse and if I leave I will die because I can't function without him. Looking back now I was so mentally unhealthy, took me 3 years to regulate after I did finally escape.

haliec

It’s always relatable to trauma bonding in this context.
Thank you for your service ❤

CreativeSoulsVibe

I believe that. The best thing is to stop identifying with being abused and it will no longer exist without attention. Put attention on a faithful loving caring attentative and always together forever committed forever relationship only. What you resist persists, so it's the best thing to completely forget it by stopping identifying with abuse and abusive relationships. Forget it, and it will stop existing.

KingsleyRich-ewrq

I'm a dv survivor and for me? I did grow up in an unsafe area. Also, with my situation (and this happens a lot), my ex acted wonderful up until things got serious. He was loving, sweet, charming, everything was great. And then the mask came off. Abusers do this and they blame the victim for their actions. So you have this mental aspect of 'if I do this' or 'if I don't do this' then things will be good again. I asked others for help and the attitude I got was "well you made your bed, so you can lie in it". I did get out on my own, though. It's an overwhelmingly awesome feeling

Mcg

It’s always about commitment. Once you decide to marry the person you can’t leave just like that. People keep hope that he or she will get better if both starts to have conversations. If after many conversations and you don’t see change then you must leave it’s not about commitment but a help beyond you can provide is needed.
If abuse is about instant damage, like physical violence then space is a must. Abandoning without conversation is actually a commitment problem…BUT TAKING SPACE IS A MUST.

thupjinpa

When one accepts the abuse as normal, they cause an injury to instinct. When one's instinct does not work, one cannot detect abuse anymore and gets on a downward spiral without seeing the way out, like being pulled in a water drain - that's why people stay in such relationships.

carmenlux

Love is beautiful but you don't want no one to abuse your your love. . An abuse person can affect you physically and mentally.

marievilsaint

You’d be surprised how quickly humans adjust to conditions. It’s how we were able to evolve, survive, and conquer the world.

akumasdeception

That may be true for most but I went through a horrible life with my parents, my husband who are all now gone, and I have been single for almost 20 yrs because I am afraid of attracting another abusive person. I want just the opposite. I'll stay single until I find it.

PrettyMamaPatchwork