What To Say When Someone Dies

At one point in our lives, we've been in a position where someone dies. In this episode, I'll talk about specific things on what to say when someone dies.

00:00 Intro & Summary
00:36 Is There A Right Or Wrong Way To Do This
02:46 What Word Should You Not Overuse
03:58 What Tense To Use When Saying Something
06:20 What To Avoid Asking When Someone Dies
09:36 What To Say When Someone Dies

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[miffedcuttlefish]

I tell people that "there's nothing i can say that will make you feel better, but if you need a shoulder, mine is wider than it looks."

[rachelfaith]

My Dad passed away last year and my siblings didn’t want my mom’s family to know (they were divorced and they were jealous of my dad’s fortune). Well it still pains me that only a handful of people knew and we received just 3 condolence cards. No real closure or support. 😞

His neighbor cried when she found out and she gave us a card, flowers and wrote a favorite memory about an interaction with him and her son which made her son look up to my dad.

[jenniferminzey]

Thank you so much for this. I really appreciate your helpful insights into this very sensitive situation.

[mereiriz]

I lost a baby, and the absolute worst was to hear “it’s okay, you’ll have other babies, God needed a little angel.”

[littlewing]

I feel I need to let you know that I personally met and worked with your son after losing my own son who passed near the same age. Ironically they shared the same name..
Your son was so kind and allowed me to just talk which I needed to, be angry, vent and sometimes cry with no judgement or advice. I just needed to express even the ugliest feelings I struggled with towards God.
He went out of his way to not only listen with empathy but then went one night to help me clean my son's grave and then had your talented daughter do a drawing of my son from a photo, which he and his sweet wife presented to me, something I will forever cherish. I will never forget his beautiful and loving support he gave and didn't need to do. I commend you and your sweet wife for raising such an exceptional young man. I realize now that God knew I hated Him at that moment so He sent a piece of Himself in your son. It took me a while but I eventually made my peace with my creator.. Thank you for all you do Dr. Paul. 🙏

[saragraysonruiz]

Thank you. In a very sad situation like this, your respectful suggestions are very considerated.

[dinero]

My wife and I had many....many miscarriages, my favorite thing ( NOT) people have said is " Well at least you get to try again, right?😁" 😐😔

[kaymack]

You are such a blessing to so many. Thank you for all you do. I just started your book Pathologically Positive and am enjoying it immensely.

[ELITEGAMER.]

I've recently lost 2 uncles on different sides of the family within 14 days i definitely needed this video.

[AishaMBudgets]

The present, perfect tense is really useful! Thank you so much for that.

[NC-gmlb]

Will you do a more detailed video on this topic and/or one on children who are grieving?

[christinalw]

I remember when my poor Dad committed suicide in 1973. I have been missing him so much lately, and I am 70 now. My cousin John has been the only one who expressed sincere condolences. He is a worthy friend and relative. 🙏🏼😘❤️

[natalianegritto]

Dr. Paul you crack me up! When you go into the role playing - such a serious matter but funny and so real world.

[katc]

Thank you . The present, perfect tense is especially helpful.
I have come across a co-worker who absolutely do not want to bring up their recently deceased loved one. Like he's still alive. It is so uncomfortable to be around them when they act like everything is perfectly fine. But it isn't fine with them because they don't want to acknowledge it. I don't expect them to talk about it with everyone... But not to acknowledge it is something else entirely. poor thing.

[findideaaboutphotography]

The fact i don't feel the same emotion but i want to pretend that I feel makes it worse

[baetheistbaetheist]

Thanks for making this i just had a death in my extended family

[strawberryme]

We need this more now than ever. Deaths are picking up!

[fiat]

This is very helpful! Thank you! God Bless you✝️

[freedbyhisgrace]

My son passed away suddenly in May this year. It was very hard for all of us, and for me most of it was very surreal. He was rushed to the hospital in the early hours of a Saturday morning, and died late Sunday night. It was so unexpected and devastating. The funeral home was where the reality of it all hit, though. There were so many people, and we were all just kind of milling around and hanging in small groups. I really didn't know most of the people there, and wasn't interested in striking up a chat with anyone except within my own family.
I do think what gets said by others, will largely depend on the circumstances of the death. The suddenness of my son's death left no time to reflect on anything. I kinda felt sorry for everyone, because we all seemed a little lost, and no words could have remedied that. The one take away I had after we all left the funeral home that night, was that all of the people that came, knew and loved my son. That alone, spoke volumes.

[LeahTackles]

The present tense is so helpful. I just heard this within the past year and I’ve already found it helpful. Thank you