How Anxiety Affects Your Marriage

When my anxiety was THROUGH THE ROOF, my husband was unphased. The news, the panic, the noise… none of it was affecting him like it affected me. So when I asked him if he struggled with anxiety, I was honestly wondering if he even knew what anxiety felt like.

I have struggled with anxiety since I was 6 years old. Anxiety has had a noticeable impact on my life, and my marriage, for decades.

In this video, I want to share with you how anxiety affects you, your marriage, and what you can do about it.

Sometimes, the issues in a marriage are an extension of issues happening in your own life (like anxiety).

It affects your quality of life… and with continual anxiety, it also affects your body. It can increase your stress levels (which increases cortisol which can wreak havoc on your hormones and lead to issues sleeping, issues with energy, and issues with your body being able to function normally.)

On top of that, when you don’t feel good, you can’t think well. And when you can’t think well, it’s difficult to act well in your relationships.

For example...
-It can stop you from engaging with your spouse
-It can become the only thing you talk about with your spouse
-Or, maybe your marriage is all you are thinking about and worrying about

Let me ask you a question… What are you anxious about right now? Do you need to be anxious about it? Is your fear based on emotions or facts? And even if it is based on facts, is it controlling you?

Here’s my encouragement to you- it is possible to take control of (even overcome!) your anxiety. And it’s even possible to change your thoughts. The best thing that you can do for yourself and for your marriage is to not let your anxiety control you- and to get help if you need it! Remember that you can only control you, remember to breathe, and focus on the good. And always get the help and assistance from a licensed professional or medical doctor.

If you need help for your relationship, we can help! If you don’t know how to calm your nerves, stress, and anxiety, we do. At Marriage Helper, our workshops, online courses, and marriage coaching have touched the lives of over 275,000 people… we use research-proven principles combined with experience-driven techniques that we know work.

THOUSANDS of people have told us what they learned from Marriage Helper calmed their anxiety, saved their marriage, and made their relationship better than it was before.

And we want to help you, too! We have Workshops, Coaching, and Online Courses that can help you fix your marriage.

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[scraig]

I'm so glad that there's a marriage helper video on anxiety and how it affects marriage. So surprised that with over 4k views, there are only 111 likes. I'm sure many more liked the video and just didn't click the like button.

[Kickerworks]

My wife's anxiety I believe has played a huge role on why she doesn't want to work things out. She's always thinking of the negative things as if she feels more comfortable being in that state. Makes me feel useless that after 10 years of trying to help her.

[amybostic]

I can guarantee that my anxiety has been absolutely assisted by MH and their resources!!

[melodykubiak]

I have an anxiety disorder which keeps me from being comfortable enough to get a driver's license. Yet, I don't generally worry. I stop and pray. My nerves are keyed up and mostly managed with BuSpar. I have hand tremors which were triggered by a nervous breakdown years ago. I have a positive attitude. I live with chronic pain/illness, which has given me patience. I don't feel sorry for myself or let myself wallow in misery. I only have a certain amount of energy in a day and if I expend my energy on negative emotions by getting into an argument, for example, it wastes my physical energy. I live in an emotionally safe place, where I'm used to being treated with kindness and gentleness. It makes a big difference.

[phillipjones]

I am the husband, with a physical disability myself, of someone with Anxiety, with the Corona Virus situation and with Menopausal symptoms, quadruple whammy.

[crystalslade]

I’m struggling with what I think is relationship anxiety from a hug that felt off from my husband I’m thinking 24/7 if I should leave has the love gone etc horrible place to be horrible
On both people
Has anyone had this

[jeremykermott]

I have dealt with mild anxiety much of my life. Then, long-term difficulties at work caused me to develop severe anxiety. I know that it hurt my marriage, because almost the only thing I could talk about was what was bothering me.

I felt like I needed validation from my wife, but instead of telling her what I felt I needed, I simply withdrew.

When I finally got help, I was diagnosed with anxiety (and also with Inattentive ADHD). My treatment came too late, we are divorced now, but I'm not giving up my hope that we might remarry someday. I'm in a better job than the one that gave me anxiety, and I've learned a lot to manage my ADHD and the mild anxiety I still sometimes experience. And, I'm working on my PIES (Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, and Spiritual attractiveness...see Marriage Helper channel for more info).

*(Note: 80% of people with ADHD have at least one other neurological or psychological condition, also known as a comorbidity; such as anxiety, depression, OCD, autism, etc. People with UNdiagnosed ADHD are at an even higher risk of developing anxiety or depression.)