BPD and splitting

[mitchellclarke]

Does that outburst ever come in a quiet way? I have same reaction but internally

[shananananara]

Just a pro tip... If someone says "why didn't they tell me about it until now" don't lead with "it's not a big deal, don't overreact." BPD or not, it is at the very least a social faux pas to not invite someone from the beginning if they are a mutual friend. It shows you were literally not thinking of them while considering who you want to spend time with.

Not necessarily something mean or even requiring an apology, but it is embarrassing and dismissive of the invites person to LEAD with "don't overreact."

[tiffanyh]

My BPD splitting:
1) This person seem nice. They're probably safe to let down my walls just a bit. They are my friend.
2) A slight (in my experience: Being friends with someone else, making a comment about something that's questionable, vibes are off)
3) Well, that person isn't safe anymore. Time to break off the relationship now. We're not friends.

[plecto]

This is 1000% not splitting ... This is BPD rage ... Since we can not control our emotions we tend to get ridiculously mad at simple things and without therapy it is hard to learn to control these triggers

[chuckswasheranddryerrepair]

This is not splitting. This is just triggered BPD rage. Splitting is when you one minute a specific person is fine in the BPD's thoughts, then instantly or over a few hours, that same person becomes the devil incarnate in their head. Usually its triggered by something the person has just said or done.

[vsmolvmetal]

Guys, deadass, the Wim Hof method is helping me turn off my episodes voluntarily. Please give it a go. This is saving my fucking life.

[gamsmith]

Yes, the "why did everyone know there were plans way before I was invited" it does feel personal. I have learned to choose whether i want to push people away by expressing how it hurt me.

[LishiePoo]

This is not splitting. This is rage... but this happens because we feel left out, unwanted, rejected and abandoned. I struggle with this every day. I hate it

[isabel]

i argued with a friend of 5 years not long ago, and she’s been giving me the cold shoulder expecting me to make it right with her, as i always did lol. but when i didn’t she started getting closer to my work friend and now they’re besties and it’s hard to talk to my work mate without getting enraged whenever she talks about her. it’s sucks having bpd, knowing they aren’t trynna hurt you yet you’re whole body and subconscious is on fire, unable to help yourself or get help until you’re treated like a baby. i fucking hate it sm.

[ScrubJelly]

I’m understand tho, when people learn about BPD they learn they the person isn’t a manipulative, cold, hateful person. They are always so full of life when they feel safe with you, understanding you can’t fix them they have to seek out and keep going to therapy to fight this heartbreaking disorder. They don’t want to hurt the ones they love, they don’t know how to show love since they’ve never been :(

[TheGymReaper]

Just because i have bpd doesn't mean I'm always wrong. Sometimes my outbursts are justified and its everyone else who is the problem. Just saying.

[kat]

I'm deeply upset. Must be hell for anyone who has this disorder. :((

[amberdye]

😢 um I’ve been living with this man for 22 years 💔 I’m tired, numb, anxious all the time, fearful of the next big episode, telling my in-laws and kids”don’t trigger him please”. Cause I know he’ll take it out on me….. I’m so tired depressed and drained. I’ve given up

[unholyedits]

It is hell everday kind of hell when u cant tell the difference between experiencing and perceiving

[Alexis_marie]

Never ever was diagnosed or even heard of borderline and I have anxiety but I have anger issues, so I don’t even know why I’m on this it’s because someone mentioned it on a podcast but now you got me questioningmyself 😂

[ivantuma]

One common feature I see is pure inward focus "me", "me", "me", "I have been wronged", etc ... can the splitting happen if, say one's friend (without BPD) had been excluded from the activity, but they just blow it off (even if it hurt), but the friend with BPD goes into a rage on their behalf? Just curious if the splitting only shows up in a person with BPD when they feel personally dissed - or does the rage extend to a perceived need to over-protect others who are close (or perhaps the current favorite person).

[SurnaturalM]

It's not something I would brag about.
I've dealt with people like this in the past, I can't anymore.

[fabymeow]

I’ve just had a BPD outburst today. Someone that I care a lot about told me that he doesn’t see us to be more than friends. I threatened to kill myself. I haven't had such an outburst for over one year. I feel so fucking awful.

[xdani_thethinkingneko]

Lol I feel called out 😭
Sucks because my family has legitimately done this to me, and purposely kept things for me. So I never know now if it's me overreacting or not. I'm honestly grateful that I have my boyfriend, because he always lets me know honestly if what they're doing is actually shit or me overreacting.

[joel]

This actually made me smile a bit, not because i thought it was funny but this has happened to me too many times and all i got from my mom was an "youre overreacting" or something to that extent
I didnt know it had a name ! At least now i know im not alone in experiencing extreme stuff like this ❤