The Dark Truth About Splitting: Relationship Wrecker Unveiled

Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes reveals how splitting is an emotional dysregulation disorder caused by trauma that wrecks relationships. If you're in a relationship and you're struggling with splitting, then you're not alone. This video is for you. In it, I'll share with you the TRUTH about splitting: it's an emotional disorder that causes relationships to founder. I'll also provide you with tips on how to deal with it and how to heal from it. If you're looking for the truth about splitting, then this is the video for you.

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Video by Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes on integrative behavioral health approaches including counseling techniques and skills for improving mental health and reducing mental illness.

Chapters:
00:00:00 - Understanding Splitting in Relationships
00:07:49 - Coping with Splitting and Trauma
00:11:51 - Supporting Boundaries and Therapy

[DocSnipes]

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[chernagast]

My husband went through surgeries and emotional neglect as an infant and then later the divorce of his parents when he was five. Splitting is exactly what I could call part of his behaviors towards me in our relationship any time he perceived me doing something like his mother. He's been able to get CBT and EMDR treatments that have allowed him to start to process his trauma, and it's saved our marriage.

[NatureHeadSupreme]

I like this take. Everything is contextual of course. I've seen splitting or split off described as something a bit different, in terms of dissociation and separating from reality or even breaking (splitting) off from your family of origin. Either way, all usually involve trauma.. your insight is priceless. Thanks!

[dallwoeste]

Thank you so much. I’m very grateful that I found you. You have brought a lot of relief to me. The man I love has split and I don’t know what I did… now I know what’s going on. I also recognize that I suffer from cptsd too but I am codependent and I
haven’t split but I am over run with guilt and it’s hard to cope with daily life . Now I finally feel like I can self help better because I heard what you said

[ythatesfacts]

I kinda had a splitting event where I mainly saw my mom as the villain even after her remorseful acts. One thing I started to question was, "How many times would I have to get back at her for the numerous times she did it to me? Would it even make me feel good? A short time, maybe, but what then? I would be nearly torturing her for years on end, and no one will get any rest, and I wanted rest now."

[Prat]

Good morning @Doc Snipes and everybody. Excited for the premiere. Hoping that everybody is going to have great day🌸❤

[milkywayranchsc]

Can we address the stress and trauma experienced by people on the receiving end of abusive behavior of someone with BPD?

[RobustArid]

Thank you for this information! I didn’t know this word Splitting till now and wondered why what’s wrong

[onemoretime]

I wish I worked on this before it cost me one of the most important relationships of my life.

[Nuverselive]

Questions I’ve been journaling about are ; How does forgiveness play a role in splitting by a partner ? No matter how many times they apologize and forgiveness is offered, repeat reenactments of splitting are highly likely to occur. How can the partner remain open after another round of splitting occurs ? It seems difficult to find a middle ground. My body clenches each time an episode occurs. Though I can forgive my body struggles to forget. What advice would possibly help to avoid closing off my heart? I really hurts to open up, become the fav person, next thing u know, your the villain. In childhood intimacy wasn’t always a prerequisite for a healthy relationship however as an adult it’s essential to the relationship. Ladies I’m sure I’m not the only one who has asked this question. Relaxing is key to any form of intimacy however most people dealing with cptsd crave love and connection yet the fear of being hurt again closes the bodies natural desire for intimacy which leads to faking headaches, orgasms and denying the huge NO in the body to satisfy your partner. Otherwise if u say No over an extended period your likely to be blamed for withholding intimacy to maintain control or u get accused of being a narcissist or cheating. As women we’ve been programmed by society to believe we must keep our men satisfied or they’ll find satisfaction elsewhere. This is very toxic and traumatizing. Any feedback is appreciated.

[MenOfVirtue]

Why are psychologists so averse to giving any real kind of advice to the partner that's on the receiving end of the split? You go to the point of saying the splitter isn't even doing anything wrong?!

They are straight up ABUSING their partner. Gaslighting, lying, screaming, baseless accusations, in a context where by your own admission you aren't even allowed to defend yourself, is straight up abuse.

Absolutely bonkers that there is just no real advice for the target of the split out there, even among 'professionals'.

[cliffpoff]

Thank you so much for these videos. It helps me understand and support my wife more.

[kims]

Ive been through this, my ex husband has ptsd, his depression meds were decreased too quickly and he spiralled into major depressive episode. Im the enemy in his mind, he divorced me and he also has had periods of psychosis that ive witnessed. Its a nightmare. Thirty years married then he turned on me like a rabid dog.

[RobustArid]

OMG! First; Dr Snipes ❤looks good today! Second; thank you! I had no idea about splitting behavior.

[KatG-vwdb]

I have bpd and am always splitting. I find it so difficult bc im usually in rational mind to protect muself from too many emotions amd preventing a nervous breakdown. I find listening to Wise mind meditation helps center me and I would recommend this to others including those without bpd

[MySpaceDxC_Suffo_AtTheGates]

Great job on this video! You were able to emphasize with the person that’s not splitting as well which is helpful. Very nice Doc Snipes!

[DocSnipes]

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[oliverrojas]

Thanks this topic has a lot to relate to.

[wiyxgyo]

What is it called when you are so upset that you just cannot take it and all of a sudden you just stop caring about anything that you were upset about, like you become ambivalent about the fact that your partner may be breaking up with you? Like from the most intense emotions you’ve ever felt almost like suicidal rage, to absolute ambivalence, even amusement over the situation?

[patriciatribess]

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