Why sexual rejection is hard

Rejection is just information.

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Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world.

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[skumarr]

Rejection used to make me sad, but after watching this, it plunges me into depression.

[tigalbaby]

Rejection is just communication indeed. A woman may not want to reproduce with you but that leaves other women who will . So just move on to someone who will .

[robertbartholomew]

Except the weight of the rejection gets heavier when the sexual rejection is happening within a marriage. Not only are you not worth it to them, but you'll be punished for trying your hand elsewhere.

[tomyoung]

I was rejected because I didn’t like cucumber Gatorade

From that day forward the opinion of women have no value to me

[dits]

I admire men who are not slaves to their lust and senses.

[idolbass]

It works the opposite as well. Those eggs can stay unfertilized. We'll have no more of those walking around.

[josephbenjamin]

A rejection is not ALWAYS just “information”… a huge reason why rejection from a woman may be hurtful is HOW they do it. Sometimes they go WAY to far to paint the man as a creep, rapist, harasser, or assailant. So, “no, thank you”.

[Limetolove]

Just Move on to you miss one bus does not mean you will miss your destination...wait for next

[Sako-_]

And that is why women go BSC when they are rejected. You basically advised her that a ride in her Lexus wasn’t worth the time to activate your polywaffle.

And better yet, reject her in front of her friends, then all her friends know as well.

[chiclids]

Well, too many rejections are happening nowadays because they expect way too much so that’s why a lot of men don’t bother anymore

[JohnM...]

I’ve been saying this for ages - the exact quote that I remember is from Jordan Peterson on a woman’s view of friend zoning or rejecting you; he says: “It’s like that (of the woman’s view), She’s saying ‘while I appreciate your presence, your genes should DEFINITELY NOT survive another generation.’”

[angeluva]

Sexual rejection can simply be due to a lack of feeling safe enough, or not feeling enough mind or body attraction to take on the risks involved. Maybe it’s just not the right time, or because the relationship isn’t at the right place to open the door to a soul tie or emotional enmeshment that will not be physically or emotionally healthy for either person. There are many reasons…many that have absolutely nothing to do with the rejected person! Definitely do not take it to heart or too personally. Trust that there is a time and a place for an intimate relationship and it can be complex.

[JakeTheSnake]

Maybe she just wants to be a childless, cat lady? 😅

[Achill]

It's a stretch to interpret the rejection by a woman that she thinks this man should go extinct. The woman thinks the man is not worth HER life, but it's unlikely she would sabotage this man's relation with other women.

[markrcca]

Agreed. I also agree with those who teach to approach women merely for the sake of getting used to rejection. It's like certain kinds of martial arts training that trains you to raise your pain threshold, so that in a fight you less affected by the fear of being hit.

[florida]

Don't take anything personally, just move to the next one, you'll never know the true reason of rejection.

[pur-xsoj]

I think part of "getting over this" is realizing that she doesn't think you should reproduce WITH HER. I don't think people think "not only does this person not deserve to reproduce with me, but I hope their offspring and lineage dies off. I would venture to say that people actually hope you end up with someone else so they feel less guilty about rejection you. Finally, even if they actually do that, and where I agree with the video, you should get over it because their opinion of you is not more important than your own. If there is information you can take to work on yourself and try to be the beset version of yourself great. Just don't beat yourself up over it.

[JamesJones-mgts]

Rejection used to hurt in my teens. However, understanding 'suitability' is part of maturity. It starts, of course, with your own suitability and improving it. Then it's developing an understanding the suitability of lady who sexually rejects you. You come to understand it doesn't matter if the lady is unsuitable. You mature into rejecting unsuitable women and not caring about rejection from unsuitable women. It's really only the suitable women that reject you that are worth reflection. You'll find that you probably misjudged their suitability OR one of you misunderstands their limitations (aka: 'overplaying their hand' per se and a lot of ladies are doing just that and walking away from reasonably suitable options in men and not something a man should see more than she's unsuitable within her reasonable options). It's also a problem as a lady can go from suitable to unsuitable in the same relationship and men don't expect what happens very commonly and are unprepared (be prepared for that... most ladies can't remain 'suitable' indefinitely).

[jas]

This is such a stretch. There’s a difference between not wanting to sleep with someone and not thinking they should sleep with anyone

[trydowave]

I've thought this from a very early age. Subconsciously, I don't think you ever get passed it. Its like a splinter in the brain.