Jordan Peterson: 'Explains What Happens When You Date Lower Than Your Status'(Best Advice)

In this video Jordan Peterson explains what happens when you date lower than your status and when you meet them in public and how you feel when you introduce them o your friends and how they respond.
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[learningattitudeofficial]

Books By Jordan B Peterson
1. 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos:
2. Beyond Order: 12 More Rules for Life:
3. Maps of Meaning:

Books Recommended By Jordan B Peterson:
1. The Gulag Archipelago Volume 1: An Experiment in Literary Investigation:
2. Beyond Good and Evil by Friedrich Nietzsche:

[jamesgziegler]

My first wife was a daughter of the hierarchy, an extremely old and powerful family. We met in a high class inn/restaurant/bar that was one of my deceased fathers haunts. We, and I especially, were well below her class.

Sure, it was a little difficult, moreso for I, however, also for her. She was an accomplished Jazz pianist and teacher, who had previously been expelled from "Society" for her marriage to John Mehegan. Her professor at Julliard and the guy who wrote the books on Jazz Improvisation.

However, I also sang, and she got me to sing in public for the first time in 15-years. We had a power together, we could make an entire room feel what we felt. Sure we both had to put up with BS from her elitist family, and weren't allowed to marry under penalty of her expulsion, yet again.

However, it was the best relationship in both of our lives. We respected each other tremendously. We took the slings and arrows together, which only strengthened our relationship. She passed 27-years ago, yet my love for her remains as strong as the evening we met.

[vancolucci]

When we were in our early teens one of the lessons about life that my parents taught us was…it’s better to marry someone who comes from the same culture, same socioeconomic, same level of education and, if possible, same religion. Well, I’m Asian (naturalized) and the youngest one in my family. I married to an Italian American. My parents were rich and his parents were poor. I have a Batchelor degree and my husband has a Master degree. I was raised as a Buddhist and my husband’s family was Catholic. People have asked me why did I marry him? Well, I married my husband for who he is as a person. He is a kind, caring, and giving person, a hard worker with great working ethics, good morals, smart with a good sense of humor, to name a few of his characters. I know he didn’t marry me for money because we never asked my parents for money. As for religion, I converted to Christianity and became a Catholic _ a faith that I deeply believe and love. I thank God every day because I feel very, very blessed to be married to my husband. We just celebrated our 45th Wedding Anniversary last month.

[ari]

Low status is not just your socioeconomic status and physical appearance. It is also about your charisma, your character, and your kindness.

[vickimann]

I think having somebody of equal intellect, physical attractiveness, spiritual equal and similar experiences brings connection.

[philiporr]

I hooked up with a low status partner.
She certainly isn't the smartest or prettiest woman iv dated.But you know what, she has the kindest heart I've ever met, and in this age thats an extremely attractive and very rare quality.

[qbqmmpn]

I definitely married up to the kindest, hardest-working man I've ever known, and people we knew didn't like it. We've weathered all the storms because we are compatible.

[tindo]

It's sad to realise someone is with you because of the status you add to her... I mean, if I lose my money or my health, the next thing I'll lose is the person I love.

[internetmail]

A wise couple once said:

"We've been happily married 50 years because we don't focus on what's not perfect nor do we expect our marriage to be perfect"

[MsGenXodus]

I guess I was an idiot to marry for love and companionship. Family fortunes come and go. But having someone who genuinely loves and cares for you, that is what really makes a relationship last.

[LynneFremont]

I feel like the real flex is being so secure in your status that you can afford to be kind to those of lower status even to the point of treating them like equals.

[Foxie]

Doesn’t matter, everyone gets sick of one another and could leave even when it’s a great fit.

[internetmail]

Social status can change from high to low in a split second. If you define yourself by the social status others perceive you it is a big weakness. Your own person opinion of your own social status is what matters.

[peanbean]

I am a pretty succesful business owner and i can say with picking woman to me the highest status ones are the most selfless woman. The ones that have potential to rule like a real queen who puts her king and people first. I married a girl from a village who grew up with little. Yet she was the type of person who would rather give her food to a child than eat for herself. That kind of heart in her is what made me see her as this almost mythical fairy woman. She just treats me with such appreciation and respect. She lets me actually provide for her. Even if i allow her to spend more than we need..she treats everyone with love. We stand by each other happily i believe cause we both treat each other like we are high status

[baronvonnembles]

What JBP doesn't go into in this clip is that "status" isn't static. While you can't simply go from a 1 to a 10 in good looks or intelligence, you can still move up and down the hierarchical ladder via the decisions you make. You can get fit, get a better job, get highly educated, work on your people skills, be careful of your appearance etc. Conversely you can choose to do the opposite. You also control your status by how you treat people and just as importantly how you allow them to treat you. Finally you can chart your own path to contentment and be unconcerned with silly people who are all about status and superficiality.

[diavolacciosatanasso]

Brooding over status is the hallmark of low status.

[thundermarkperun]

Men need to remember it's ok to have standards.

[saraojala]

Thanks Jordan. This was very interesting and I see now how this formula effected my marriage and why it has been harder to succeed as a result of my choice of life mate. I was very ambitious, but married young to someone who had a lot of "closeted" issues and never found their way. I realize now that I lowered myself to their level because it was more comfortable and caused less contention, instead of continuing my upward growth. I was ridiculed for my personal integrity, and desire for order, self-discipline, etc, as I guess these things were threatening to my spouse who lacked these qualities. It is so important people marry someone who is on the same trajectory as they are.

[LValley-kzyc]

My hierarchy involves, kindness, honesty, empathy, loyalty, sense of humor, friendship, self control and calm spirit.

[internetmail]

Why should a strong minded person care what status other people think they are? If a girl has a big heart but is not the sharpest tool in the box you should be proud to have her as a wife.