Narcissism and the Nice Guy Syndrome

While most narcissistic abusers seem to be cold cruel calculated and mean, many are sweet, kind, compassionate, loving yet extremely deceptive. You would never suspect that these individuals lack empathy and are entirely heartless.

In today's episode, I discuss the narcissistic "Nice Guy" and how these seemingly sweet individuals exploit victims.

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[CBrown]

This is scarily accurate. There are narcs out there that act like “nice guys” but they do not fit the general idea of what people think the annoying “nice guy” looks like

[dominikalegrand]

I just recently discovered the correlation between the Nice guy syndrome ( Book of No more mr Nice guy) and the behaviour of the middle mid range type B narcissist who behaves the same way whilst absolutely convinced they are a 'good guy'. Now I start to question whether those who suffer from the "nice guy syndrome' are all in fact middle mid-range narcissists. This type is acting instinctively and unconsciously to assert control.

[damianburris]

I used to be just like this. It's taken a lot of work to change and will take a lot more.

[NatureFreak]

Totally nailed it. My 'friend' only helped me for me to owe him. Then followed with ridiculous demands. Always passive aggressive when I don't comply. I am so fucking glad they will be out of my life soon.

[missminti]

They are nice and completely lacking moral fibre at the same time. It’s bizarre. They are two different people.

[rorysmith]

People who fancy bullies are evil.
People who fancy bullies are warped, twisted, nasty, selfish, smug, cliched, cruel and depraved.
People who fancy bullies are making evil win.
I hate bullies, wife beaters, rapists, and child abusers.
I have met loads of nice people who think they are nice. Being shy is not evil. Loads of bullies hate shy people.
People who support evil are evil.
I support goodness and niceness. Goodness and niceness are the most important qualities.

[hellosoleil]

How to know if they are narcissists, if they are very Nice and then their behaviour change, they become bad in behaviour, passive agressive, lie but very confusing about it, but still Nice when they cheer up us when we have work issue or tell us sometimes we are beautifull?

[AlphaNumeric]

How can you tell if someone is truly nice and kind but then feel resentment when it’s not reciprocated or their kindness is taken advantage of? I’m sure narcissist types like you mentioned exists, but I can equally imagine nice truly, loving people being taken advantage of being upset/angry—but how do you tell them apart if their mental state is never revealed? Or do you see the latter as nonexistent and a narcissist in denial?

[Child_of_the_HolyTrinity]

Yup, yup, yeah, yes, uh huh, all correct! Ty💜

[MACROPARTICLE]

I simply call them Indian givers. If they were truly giving, then they wouldn't hold their recipients in bondage through guilt trips and emotional blackmail.

[Breasail]

This is an excellent and important video that is let down by the shockingly bad transcription. Please either remove the transcription or correct it as it is terribly misleading and confusing.