Narcissists Who Are Fake Nice

Narcissists are not always surly and gruff. In fact, they can come across as super nice...at least they will if they think there is a reward in it for them. Dr. Les Carter exposes many evidences of the fake nice narcissist, prompting you to patiently let the real truth rise to the surface. Unfortunately their niceness can often prove to be little more that one of their exploitive ploys.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted more than 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[notsheepish]

The way they can change from nice into a rage instantly is horrifying.
It leaves you in shock.

[CG-btoc]

Narcissist: "I'm nice as long as you do everything I say and everything goes my way"

[LinYouToo]

They are transactional, not relational.

[brddks]

There's a difference between "nice" and a morally good person. Don't get them mixed up.

[justjulia]

The worst is opening your heart to them fully without realizing they’re actually gathering information so they can then betray you bitterly. Lesson learned in the worst way 😔

[spotit]

The “niceness “ never comes from from kindness. It is a super effective manipulation tool.

[briansaiditsoitmustbetrue]

Narcissists have MANY personalities depending who they are talking to.
They are "One person" when they are talking to someone and then they are "Another person" when they are talking to someone else..
It is a BIG red flag that you are dealing with a Narcissist

[euhjekf]

They are nice if they need something, have a motive, or want something out of you.

[Neecee]

They don't like people confident enough to think with their own head

[jlroussin]

I’ve learned the hard way that when people are too friendly that’s a huge red flag.

[kimmywimmy]

Sad thing is they seem to think they are actually genuinely nice.

[hopinandbeliefin]

The worst is when they go from this fake nice to evil lighting fast.

[wendyapfeldorf]

Sometimes they are fake nice because they are abusing you in subtle, covert insidious ways. The fake niceness is a tactic employed so that you will pretend the abuse isn’t happening. The moment you call them out the fake niceness flies out the window.

[sebastienbolduc]

If they gossip about others you can be assured they're gossiping about you.

[daringgreatly]

It’s not right that these types of people are allowed to go through life ruining relationships and hurting ppl. 😩

[jenniferannfox]

in romantic relationships, when you figure them out, they will discard you like you are nothing.

[pursue]

Narcs put the "ice" in Nice.

[barbarabriggs]

I don’t see how anyone can have a relationship with a Narcissist. There is only one person in the relationship, ………………and that’s THEM !

[christinepettitt]

Narcissists are completely 2 faced and cruel.

[archywiseman]

You can usually just feel the lack of sincerity. It really can't be faked 100%.