How To Make An Avoidant Feel SAFE With You

How To “Let Go” When You’re Supposed To PERSIST! | Manifesting A Specific Person

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[ClausKonstantinJensen]

Thanks again Corri!

I'm in NC now for 6 weeks. And before that for 4 weeks.
At Christmas 24 I wrote her a neutral Christmas greeting
No reply
A week later I wrote her 2 words: Happy new year.
No reply
On Jan. 5 2025, she replied:
Thank you for your greetings. I wrote you a Christmas greeting but forgot to send
Then she told me what she had been doing for the past couple of months and during Christmas, and wished me well
We continued writing messages back and forth the rest of the day
Half open door - definitely. Wonderful.
Then I made my mistake - again.
Asked her if she felt like us talking together again?
She didn't reply
The door was shut
I didn't push
I went NC - so far 6 weeks today
No reaction from her
I feel good about it
I've realized that she simply can't help it, not being able to respond, even if she'd liked to.
My one and only option:
EMPATHY
She simply cannot help it. Sad.
She is a wonderful woman.

[flygirlvibezzz]

I blame social media relationship “gurus” for the narrative that if a man isn’t doing this or that it means they don’t love you and don’t want to be with you etc.

But I’ve found when you look at men as just humans who are trying and are also dealing with a lot… then you start to look at them with compassion ❤

[TheSaboorAnsari]

If we are with a person, the sole reason to be together is to meet each other's relationship and partnership needs. If the other person isn't able to do, after you have been patient, after a while it's better to let go.

[uncleambient]

Your videos are brilliant Corri, really helpful thank you

[vansa]

Even in a NC situation? I did the same thing as you and I went NC because I refuse to continue that dynamic. I feel strongly like we’re meant to be together. I don’t want to reach out. I was so patient, for years, but patience does run out. I’m trying to trust that he will come back again and have dealt with his avoidant issues. In the meantime I’m just living my best life and if someone else happens to come along in the meantime, I’m open to it.

[eshanichoudhury]

Your video makes so much sense and gives me relief after a moment of emotional outburst that I had. Thanks for the video

[ceciliamac]

This message was so so good Corri 🙏🏼 Thank you for the beautiful reminder 🎁❤️🫶🏻

[nagymaris]

Wow. I think something just clicked… accepting him and understanding it’s a not a rejection and trusting our relationship will improve is different than “affirming the opposite” or “pulling away doing less etc. to create distance” (kind if the hard to get game) which both feel off and awful to be honest. Thank you for this insight! I can make peace with this approach .. I have been denying and/or fighting his emotional personality for years (while totally being attracted to him) that made things worse. I think this approach will work .

[riekabosman]

I loved this! Thankyou so much its a perfect video for me to see at this very moment. Some things I came to on my own and very affirming <3 Heres to safer more loving and accepting connections and therefore healing in the world! x

[Nikopup]

I wish I would have watched this video 2 years ago before I did the exact opposite and ruined my relationship with my ex. At this point, I need to just detach from him and focus on myself, like you said. And if he comes back, then I’ll handle things better the second time around. ❤

[chrislim]

Geezus.
I'm a caring deeply empathetic person but I'm not going to be someone's full time therapist while walking on eggshells around them.
Don't sacrifice yourself for people that need counselling.

[rickaster]

It was a complicated path that got me to the point of accepting and supporting my SP’s impulses and decisions around distancing, where previously I had been resisting them. I guess you could say I gave up on resistance because it wasn’t getting me anywhere. Acceptance and trust made things a lot easier.

[scottkenefick]

😅 I am no stranger to relationships and dating a fearful avoidant that had a horrific childhood. I have so much empathy for her and I've learned when to back off. Staying with them and keeping them happy is like learning to play a violinn but sometimes they are worth it you definitely have to be empathetic and self-confident. They are in desperate need of love and feeling safe.

[a.d.b]

'Anxious' is the term used for people who are repeatedly willing to put up with recurring abuse.

[joewk]

My Avoidant ex is childless not by choice mixed with past traumas. She's a very cute lady and I loved her but she nearly drove me nuts!

[elootoerial]

Love your content and you! 🌞 Just wondering if you know... Are avoidants withholding emotion / burying and avoiding at all costs out of choice and or fear from conditioning or lack of attachment/ role modeling or are they just in fact incapable of experiencing what average people may. I mean their brains wiring. I've read about how they assess every situation as risk managers and can only access dopamine as a connection tool. Their other love chemical inhibitors are not accessible and therefore they're unaware of themselves and others' expectations and need to bond, etc.

[daniellefeller]

Can’t you accept them and move on? Is it worth being with someone who isn’t emotionally available?

[lyna]

My fiancé is avoidant dismissive and he is in depression, we ddont talk anymore and i can't accept that, this is so hard to live, I'm fearful of the future...

[joyce]

I was the avoidant in the relationship 🙈

[Jelly.]

Thanks. So he disappears sometimes and that makes me totally unsure. 😅Then contact is great again.. this confused me, and then I double write and this makes me feel stupid😂