Your Narc parent is never going to truly change.

#narcissist #narcissisticparents #cptsd

[maryrichardson]

Started my healing journey at 63. I'm doing good

[mandy]

Rejection, shame, and blame. My birth mother wrote the handbook all while being a childhood development expert.

[hermosotino]

It is undeserved, permanent emotional torture....

[JamesBolin-qu]

That's fucked up i would never treat nobody like that especially my children

[brekareymar]

It literally broke my heart when my last therapist told me that, my mom is never going to change because she never saw a problem, even when it nearly took my life from a deep depression years ago.

She is always soooo about herself, everything is, from her goods, her pain, no one is allowed to discuss the fact that she is the one that was the most pained in the entire family. She loves to have control over all things and people, she starts with buying stuff and when you least realize it, you depend on her. And when she faces rejection of not wishing to go her way or things don't happen like she wished, her anger comes out.

I used to be slapped every time she was stressed and hit when she was angry. It was horrible. I already got used to be in a certain posture so that her hits wouldn't hurt too much, or to protect the side of my ribs that I got hurt in the past from a fall injury at school, which she would conveniently forget in her anger attacks.

I never thought I would get out of that cycle because even when I cried, tried to fight, to talk, to reason with her, to understand her, nothing ever worked. 2 weeks after it, she would restart the acting again and again and again. But she always pressured me to go to therapy and get my attitude and depression "fixed" because how dare I be unhappy if I have everything in life?

It's been some months since I got an opportunity for a scholarship in another country, I'm doing everything in my power to get it and finally break free, until I put an ocean between us, I think I'll can finally start my true healing journey and achieve my freedom, all for the little girl that tried to take her life at 14 and sh till 18. That girl who grew up in such a hurricane, and now is 22 walking towards a future she never dreamed of when she was told she was never strong enough, or smart enough to do so.

[earthelucidator]

This is some of the rawest truth that even most scapegoats wont be able to accept to their own detriment. I do understand how hard it is to accept how horrible so called "loved ones" really are

[kdycruz]

It's a nightmare having narsisist family. Thanks for sharing 🙏 blessings

[bornphilosopher]

It’s Heartbreaking when your parent tells you they had you for their Joy…It sounds good when you’re ignorant but, You really live for your parents Joy.

[Corina-dqmy]

Most parents with NPD don't care if you love them. They do not love their own child or children in fact. They aren't the type of person who thinks about how the relationship is doing. They aren't going to ask for the child to call them because they're worried, or the type of person who asks you, "How was the first day of school", ...or "how was your first day of work, today" . A narcissistic parent might, but moderate to severe NPD, no. I have lived through people diagnosed with BPD and people who have NPD, and it's not fun. The abuse is BAD. Like, even worse than regular abuse.

[trayseebee]

My friend was found dead in her apartment recently. I was devastated. I messaged my narcissist mum, and silence... she then sent me some paperwork she wanted me to sort for her a few days later. Then a few days later, more. No how are you... nothing. So I have gone silent on her. She's now messaging me asking why I'm not calling her. I'm still silent.

[mariannekoroleva]

The best thing about narcissists is that when you are with a narc you are always without him/it. Thank You!!👍💯%!!🕊️🌈⚓💚!!

[hollyjay]

I can’t tell if my mom really cares or if she just wants to tell me what she thinks I want to hear in the moment

[ninaromm]

4.30a.m. South Africa. Love your posts.
They are helping me traffic these wounding, awful hours. In the morning I have to write a letter to an Institution whose venomous intent is to invisibilize me. I need to remember what I can't expect from them. Put on my armour and brilliance, ready for warfare, for dismissal. Off the hamster wheel...

[Cheesepufflikeswater]

Truth, but I won't break again ❤❤

[iJackson]

This is the love of my life with her mom …

[Janeonthebrain]

Dam you pulled all the word out of my mouth

[JaybirdSongbird]

Thanks Dr. Kim. What is weird is that I didn't do anything weird to take such abuse it seems. I was the one that always wanted a family reunion like other families ever since I was real little. I cared for everyone. All cousins and everyone. I think they must have did something really bad to act this distant. I really don't get them, or Oklahoma for not even telling me if I have a twin.

[mister_oj_zen]

I believe the proper word for them is, "Jagaloon".

[kiskakuznetsova]

This was beautifully eloquent. You really understand and you are able to explain it like no one else. Thank you.

[kingdomcome]

Don’t forget to mention the spouses or former ones.. I’m heartbroken he went far. Continual hopes and dreams shattered day after day 😢