Dealing with Narcissistic Behavior: Passive vs. Overt Aggression

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Growing up with a narcissistic parent, instead of playing hide and seek, it was more like “hide and pray they don’t find me.”

Unseen
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I've learned to not let them steal your energy. Don't feed into any of they're emotions. It belongs to them. I refuse to own their shit. Took me years to realize and understand this

Carol-lynnMulcahy
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For outsiders they're charm personified. But with us they blow up for no reason.

sushmayen
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As a child and still, I could not fathom how others were totally unaware of the aggression manifested in my family. Outsiders only ever saw this happy family and I lacked the vocabulary to explain "covert" and "Passive aggressive".... the tears I shed with each Dr Ramani video are healing tears and tears of long held grief. I sincerely hope more people become aware of these relationships and are willing to listen and stop further gaslighting.

PlumbTuckeredOut
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Dr. George K. Simon talks about this in his book 'In Sheep's Clothing'. Something in that book that was very memorable was how Dr. Simon says that the aggressor KNOWS they must be covert otherwise you'd put up your defenses and fight back. It reminds me of the pathologically lying narcissists who pretend like they have no clue what they're doing and really take playing dumb to Oscar-winning levels.

NovaPrincess
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All forms of agression are horrible, but passive agression is so insidious, I don´t tolerate it anymore in my life.

fabianafran
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I get extremely frustrated because no one understands passive aggressive narcissism which I’ve experienced. It is horrible exhausting extremely stressful and people still do not understand narcissism we really need more education and Dr. Ramani you are doing such a fabulous job. I cannot say enough I recommend you to everyone.

loretta
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There is the overt explosive, violent, murderous rage that feels like you are walking on a landmine. And there is the silence before the storm (passive-aggressive) - those who keep tabs even over the smallest mistakes and wait for the "right time" to punish you and forever hold a grudge. Neither are pleasant to be caught in. I experienced both

csfiskus
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You are so right here about the passive aggression. It is so utterly exhausting, I can hardly be around my husband because every interaction is so mentally tiring.

angelamargaretmary
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My husband of 27 years is both! Im planning my escape, but it's taking longer than I thought it would. Somedays, I feel like I can't go on doing this anymore. If I won the lottery, I would escape and then build a compound(with education, health, and job assistant)for anyone else who can't get out!

Sofedup
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With my sister you never know what will set her off! She will lash out by hitting me, bumping me out of the way when I don’t listen to her! I am 63 years old and I have had enough of it! We haven’t spoken in 7 months, and after Therapy I am doing a lot better. This sucks, but knowing what to look out for helps, I will never be alone with her ever again!

sandi
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My ex-husband did both... the passive-aggressive times sent me spiralling into bouts of deep depression. The overt aggressive times had me shaking with fear - followed by bouts of deep depression. He was/is far more skilled with the passive-aggressive behaviour which he employed, in one form or another, daily 😢

clappiton
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Thank you Dr Romani for opening these more nuanced parts of the conversation. I found that the relationships that have some of the most damage for me are the ones wth such subtle and covert versions of all the harmful behaviors, that they fly under the radar and even decent therapists can't seem to catch them when I've tried to explain why I am feeling so injured. And I no longer think it's just because I'm being overly sensitive like they all too often accuse me of. It's because these people have learned how to push the buttons in ways that most people, and often including myself, don't cognitively notice, but have the exact same effects as if they were outright overtly raging . Thank you for all your work!

orielwiggins
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I had the fortune of experiencing both an equal amount. It was truly exhausting. Since leaving everyone says I am aging backwards. The freedom exists for anyone struggling to leave. ❤

Karamarie
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Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This I Was Horribly Abused By A Malignant Overt Narcissist.
He Destroyed My Life My Self Esteem Self Worth And Self Confidence.He Would Give Me Months And Yrs Of The Silent Treatment.He Would Use Me Like An Object And Once He Is Done He Would Discard Me Like Trash.This Is What Broke Me Down.!!

demigaines
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Thank you Dr Ramani, I’m married legally 57 years, but separate for 16 and now back for 12 thinking because we are older things would have changed. Not know anything about your teaching, I’m now stuck in with a passive narcissistic husband once again, but being a senior financially, I cannot leave.so I hear the constant digs as to how I do things right, he does it better, he gets annoyed that neighbors ask how I doing ..don’t like that they care. Always looking for attention in gatherings, at time embarrassing to me …not very sensitive to my emotions, I’m exhausted But, I’m stuck, wish I could run away .🙏🏻

sweethaven
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My NF is a master of overt aggression AND passive aggression.
And he goes from one to the other as easily as he breathes.

LUA_LUA_LUA
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My ex was overtly aggressive but for most of our relationship, the rage wasn’t generally directed at me. But just living in the presence of his rage at other people and other things and other perceived insults and injuries left me with all the hyper-vigilance symptoms that Dr. Ramani describes.

MichaelBroder
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The passive agressiveness makes you doubt Narcissism

well_weathered
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No matter how they do it, they really screw you up..

Thedisgardedoptimist