6 Signs You Were Raised By an Absent Parent

The four parenting styles are: Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive and Neglectful (absent). In this video, we cover the effects of a neglectful or absent parent on a child's development. If you were raised by an absent parent, we would love to hear your thoughts below.

Team:
Script Writer: Imogen Bowler
Script Editor: Steven Wu
VO: Jenny Lea
Animator: Mocha
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Further reading(s):

Types of parenting styles:

6 Types of Unhealthy Father-Daughter Relationships

How Your Childhood Affects Your Love Styles

Sources:
1) more likely to smoke and drink - Lacey et al (2018)
2) less educational achievement - Milne, Myers & Rosenthal (1986)
3) worse mental health - McLanahan, Tack & Schneider (2013)
4) lower happiness - Wu & Zhang (2017)
5) changes the brain - Yang, Yan, Fu, Du & Lui (2015)

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[mysticfawn]

My dad was absent in my childhood and he lived in my house

[ossen]

*Dependant whether it is a mother figure or a father figure, a person can lack understanding for certain parts of life*
Some of those are
- Neediness
- Emotionally unavailable and avoidant nature
- Underlying anger and resentment
- Socially awkward and lacking ability to connect with others
*The realisation is the biggest step towards change*

[NewbyTon]

#1 your parents are absent all the time

[tony]

7. You can’t catch or throw a football.
*When your dad had left

[duchi]

*ERROR 404:*
Parent not found

Would you like to install one?

[brokencrayon]

I love how everyone is so uncomfortable by this video because it's so true so they're just making jokes instead
Edit: ik humor is coping mechanism, you dont have to keep telling me

[Faitholaaaa]

1. Lower happiness and cognitive skills
2. Changes to the brain
3. Worse mental health outcomes
4. More likely to have substance use problems
5. Lower education attainment
6. Forms romantic and sexual attractions quicker

[alvinlevie]

The “daddy issues” phenomenon is now scientifically proven

[rhiannaruiz]

Well all I can say is... thanks dad for all my future & present issues 🙄

[TheAzorg]

What if my dad was there but only physically? He never even tried to talk to me.

[reeerinn]

As a 15 year-old-girl without mom and dad is REALLY HARD. Seeing your friends have happy moment with their family, and seeing some of your friends does not appreciate their family. Please please please.. appreciate what you have now bcs i dont have it.

[RoriHeere]

What's the main reason for divorce?

Marriage

[studyme-selftaughtlife]

A childhood can *NEVER* be perfect. We have to adopt the mindset of always improving what we lack.

[sips_milk]

Parents? Absent
Children? Neglected
Brain? Undeveloped
Hotel? Trivago



Sorry if I offend anyone, the mood was depressing so maybe a joke would help --;

[priscillajimenez]

I see a lot of these symptoms with my students and I try to encourage them because I too didn't have my father but didn't let it stop me from being successful. 💕

[theadrenalizedartist]

I really think you guys should do a video on an emotionallly absent parent that lived in the household with you. This happens so much, and the suffering is worse because you are looking at the parent every day as a kid, yet that parent has almost no response to you or time spent with you. Then you are a young adult with at least some of the issues you listed in this video. Thanks :)

[theultimatepotatolord]

If the child is male, the father is absent, and the grandfather (mother's father) is active in the child's life, it can negate the negative effects. I am living proof of this.

[mascotwithadinosaur]

Idk if my dad was actually absent because he was physically present, he'd joke with me and I can't say I relate to anything in this vid, but I have a hard time talking and connecting with him.Even though we spent alot of time together, it wasn't quality time at all.And most of the time, I'd make a minor mistake or just a common one and instead of telling me what I did wrong, he'd laugh at me and call me "stupid".He'd always talk more to my mum or my brother and he was always way more proud and had way more fun with my bro than with me, if he even had any fun with me or if he was ever proud of me.
I admit it, I didn't show him much interest either, but mostly because I just felt he simply didn't care, which is also how he felt but as a lil' kid I couldn't understand that.
Now we're good though.We're still not as close as your usual father and daughter but we're getting there.

[swibishdumbhorse]

Despite everyone celebrating Fathers Day this week
It hurts my gut seeing them having a dad since I have no dad ;-;

[flyingcomputer]

my forever friend has both absent parents, she never sees her father, her mother, however, is present financially, but she ignores her most of the time.
We are 17 now and we are friends since we are 5, but I hope I helped her becoming a better person because, for having both absent parents, she turns out to not being that bad.
Maybe I could have “replaced” some of the parental roles? Anyway I love her and wish her the best