7 Signs of a Toxic Relationship (vs Healthy Relationships)

7 Signs of a Toxic Relationship (vs What's Healthy)

Learn how to identify a toxic relationship by understanding these 7 signs of a toxic relationship. Plus learn the healthy behavior for each toxic behavior.

Healing a toxic relationship isn't always possible but if they are accountable and willing to seek help, that's a good sign. Otherwise, when they continue to blame and gaslight you, it's time to take care of yourself first. #toxic #narcissism #relationships

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Time stamps:
00:00 Introduction
00:25 Your feelings don't matter to the toxic person
01:00 The relationship revolves around one person's needs
01:59 You experience frequent gaslighting in relationship
03:29 Your partner tried to limit your time with family and friends
04:31 There is a pattern of blame and shame that gets worse over time
05:36 Your partner doesn't feel empathy when you're hurting
07:51 Convincing them to get help is NOT a good sign
08:12 You need to change for your partner to be happy
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09:25 List of healthy behaviors

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Michelle is a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management, specialist. She’s been featured in The Daily Positive, BossMom, Psych Central, The Good Men Project, and Your Tango just to name a few. Her relationship recovery helps people go from relationships that don’t serve them, to learning how to trust themselves and create mutually satisfying connections that work. Michelle loves creating online products and courses on relationship skills, codependency recovery, anger management, conflict resolution, self-esteem, and self-trust.

[suef]

Great content Michelle. Getting to see the red flags sooner rather than later these days. Oftentimes the behaviour gets worse over time because it's been so subtle.

[gayleneflower]

The first thing I noticed about this guy was that he blamed me for everything that went wrong in their lives. He had no empathy and when he talked to me in on the phone, he never let me say anything...he just talked about himself and his issues on and on. One time I wanted to see how long he would talk about himself and he lasted 4 hours and then I couldn't take it anymore. Further, he would go through my drawers and things all the time. It was so weird...I should have asked him what he was looking for? abuse, abuse, abuse. "Just do what I tell ya", "Just remember I. am the boss". "why can't you read my mind?" sickening, I was never good enough and it was all about him...

[deborahwolff]

This woman friend got abusive by slamming my car door because I didn't stop for errands. She depended on me to think for her . They will deny they didn't.do.anything wrong. I hate her to this day. I'm happy she is no longer a part of my life

[JoelNotman]

Wow all of First relationship ever at 29, with a man who's 53 with a 13 year old Always being told and I quote "my perception is off"

[ktryushi]

Relationship is 70/50. Women do 70 and men 50 in a relationship. Because men don’t do ironing, or washing clothes, cooking etc. that’s women part. Healthy relationship means showing respect each other, respecting their boundaries, helping your spouse etc. And what your husband, wife needs. For example your husband play video games, you have to respect his free space. It goes same to men who give free space to their wife. It’s simple as that. That’s a healthy relationship. It’s not about being controlling, abusive, manipulating, belittle etc. Thanks for the video.

[lollipop]

This is a work situation, wondering if I’m correct in identifying it as gaslighting if anyone reading can offer their opinion I’d be grateful.
I’m two months into a new job and today asked a colleague if the black matt out the front is ours, he said no that’s the butchers and then says u asked me that yesterday. Which I know dam well I never asked him that yesterday. It does still for me plant a seed of doubt because I grew up learning to deeply doubt myself.

[oambitiousone]

What if he doesn’t want me seeking therapy?

[loriobrien]

What if some of these things you spoke about, I feel about your child?