7 Red Flags of A Toxic Relationship

This video applies to anybody. Sometimes, red flags in relationships can be hard to spot, especially when you're directly involved in it. If you are already in a relationship, ensure that these red flags aren’t a part of your relationship.

If you are ready to look for love, here are a few red flags of a toxic relationship.

So, do any of these red flags remind you of someone?

Writer: Ananya Sawarkar
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Maynard Awayan [(new animator)
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[psychgomandarin]

0:00 intro
0:41 1、controlling behavior
1:23 2、there's a lack of communication
2:10 3、the give and take is consistently only one way
2:43 4、there are no boundaries in the relationship
3:25 5、your partner uses your personal information against you
4:09 6、they do not acknowledge your relationship in front of other people
4:35 7、you are constantly surrounded by negative energy
5:21 conclusion
5:39 outro

[catalina]

i’m currently not in a relationship, but this is always good advice to look out for when I am in one.

[KycenPetersen]

Yup, basically just happened with my former friend and I today, I was trying to reconnect after three months with a potential home visit. But she lied to me and said it wouldn’t be possible. She then told our mutual friends to not tell me about her because I was being “creepy and obsessive.” After all I’ve done for her she treats me like dirt. I’m glad she’s gone now.

[Hiswomanever]

This was so helpful…I didn’t know how toxic my relationship was until I watched this video. He’s been controlling and manipulative since the beginning and I was SO blind. I will be breaking up with him to keep what self esteem and dignity I have left he hasn’t already shattered. In my deepest regards, thank you.

[shaneecetaylor]

1.) Controlling Behavior
2.) Lack of Communication
3.) Give and Take is constantly one side
4.) There are no boundaries in relationship
5.) Your partner uses your personal information against you
6.) They don’t acknowledge your relationship in front of others
7.) You’re constantly surrounded by negative energy

[pixelasm]

I would add that RELATIONSHIP is a general term and the mentioned flags could (in my opinion also should) be applied to family members as well.

[UndercoverTherapist]

As someone who has come across many people in this type of relationship, I can truly say that toxic relationships can be very draining and damaging to both our physical and mental health.

I really hope more people recognize the toxic traits in their relationships and run away from them. And I wish that more resources like this video will be available to guide people on how to identify and deal with toxic relationships.

[gaydragonsq]

Just to let y’all know, this happens all the time in platonic relationships too, not just romantic

[milevenggonjoyer]

I had a girlfriend with some of the traits in this video. The biggest one was definitely hiding the relationship. She hated when I told people, especially around her friends. That’s how we got into a fight and why she broke up with me. :/

[citizenpunx]

I had an ex meet my parents for the first time on a plane ride. We were taking her with us on a ski trip. She proceeds to get absolutely wasted on the plane, decides to scream at me the whole time about not wanting to be there. Once we land and she sobers up, she acts like nothing was wrong, and takes zero responsibility for embarrassing the sh*t out of me. LOL

Holy red flags Batman

[jeffreychandler]

literally every single one of these with my close friend from undergrad. She was so incredibly abusive. I was really good about communicating, being forging, working hard to improve the relationship, hell I flat out gave her the tools for a healthy relationship by the communication. At every step she would pretend to go for better and closer, then turn away from it, by actually punishing me for DARING to speak up. She hid me from her friends and family. She was so judgemental towards others and then it all turned to me. I told her vulnerable stories about my life and she twisted them to suit her biases and desires, hurting me in the process. I expressed dozens and dozens of boundaries, all of which she ignored (she then accused me of not following boundaries). It was a relationship that was, without a doubt, 100/0 effort. Yet she called me the transactional one. Anytime I communicated she would shut down. Anytime I asked her to set a boundary so we could prevent further problems she wouldn't give one (better yet, she started changing boundaries retroactively to paint me as worse). Instead of just FUCKING TALKING WITH ME she would disappear for days or weeks then come back as if nothing happened, and would be incredulous if I called her on it. Which leads to the final one, She admitted to purposefully witholding conversation to punish me, then blamed me for it. This is in addition to constant invalidation of my values, my feelings, my interests, my existence. This is in addition to her promises of more whilst actively rejecting. This is in addition to her demanding affection at extremely odd times while being downright furious if I dared ask for 1% of what she demanded from me.

What an absolutely horrible person. The damage has been... permanent. Just an absolutely awful experience.
Thank you psych2go for doing something to help raise awareness about these problems and how to identify them. the more people we can get out of such relationships the better.

[stepha_nieee]

it took my s/o & i almost 4 years & 2 kids to put all of our effort in, & we learned so much after paying attention to what actually needed to be done. some days it’s 50/50, others it’s 80/20. it takes patience, it takes tolerance, it takes being able to pick your battles, & it takes respect & communication ! 🥰

[stayhappylittlemermaid]

The most important thing is to stay positive.

[MrDaRiAn]

Five, six, and seven were my parents growing up. I learned in therapy years ago as a man in my twenties to call them out for their behavior, and they got upset, but overtime, it became less

[Yeen]

I just went through a massive break up bc of all this. Tbh.. we were both in the wrong. We both brought negative energy into the relationship and were constantly stressed about eachother. Yes, we always had fun together, we always had great times, but we were never okay In private. We broke up about 3 weeks ago on mutual understanding. We are still buds, and possibly might take another jab at the relationship thing. But we made it a point to better ourselves first before we can even consider it. Now we are using eachother as motivation, and we never been happier!

[sats]

love and lack of self-respect are never synonyms, if somone is trying to make you believe they are RUN

[socheata]

It’s Happens, but we’ve always got some rough moments and a few stuff but will always be together as bravery!

[XburnerZ]

I experienced number 5 with my most toxic ex. Left me devastated and lost a lot of my friends. But eventually, truth came to life and I do still feel bad when the people who sided with her left her for the liar and how manipulative she was.

[TheNonameHousehold]

I haven't started a relationship yet and I'm a little afraid to but with these videos I'm confident that I'll know what I'm doing♡

[depresso_]

Over giving gifts and attention are also red flags..
It might seem so sweet at the first time but eventually it became "tools" to manipulate the other person ..
For example :
I was having an argument with my ex and they always said, "I gave you everything and aren't those things enough? You should be thankful that I provided you anything you need"
And at that moment they only wants me to feel guilty for being ungrateful to the things that I never asked in the first place -_-