7 Signs Their Love for You is Toxic

Do you often feel drained and unhappy in your relationship? The person you once fell in love with just doesn’t seem to be there, and the relationship seems to have taken a turn in the wrong direction. Healthy relationships sometimes take work, but the positive feelings often take the front seat. They say they love you, but because of these negative feelings, maybe you sense their love for you might be a toxic one. To help you identify if this may be the case, here are seven signs their love for you is toxic.

Writer: Michal Mitchell
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Sam Rain
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[StrawbearXD]

*7 Signs Their Love For You Is Toxic*
0:37 1) You give up on your needs because they just don’t care.
1:19 2) Hostile Communication
1:48 3) You put in all the work.
2:13 4) They’re jealous.
2:37 5) Resentment
2:56 6)They’re controlling.
3:13 7) Dishonesty

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[seasonsofsunoo]

I just know that if pain is greater than the love and you have no courage to tell your partner about it (and vice versa), or that pains of each other are never discussed, it's not worth holding on to. Love is not enough. COMMUNICATION AND RESPECT too! YES!

[etainvelorum]

Not all relationships are going to be perfect, but it is important to keep track of signs to keep yourself safe or to see what you need help with. Something like jealousy is common and often gets a bad reputation. Jealousy can be okay just as long as they don't try to sabotage your friendships or anything just because they think you're likely to be disloyal. If they don't put in the effort to change and they just get worse, it's not up to you to fix them. They need to sort themselves out. Your partner is not just your lover, they're supposed to be a good friend.

[starchild]

I was in a toxic relationship with someone once. He was the type of person who believed that his own opinion was fundamentally the only right one, whether it was towards his own partner or towards other people. He's also said things like: "My opinion may change, but the fact is, I'm always right." And that was how he behaved towards me, his opinion about certain things kept changing and I had to adapt. When I told him I didn't love him anymore, he replied: "It doesn't matter that you love me, it's enough for me that I love you and we can still have a good relationship." Like...WTF? This was so sick! He really just wanted to own me. When I left him he said I was dependent on him and I was blind. To which I replied that he is actually the one who is blind because he doesn't realize how much pain he has already caused me with his selfishness. I wanted to tell him that he's actually the one who's making himself dependent on me as he can't let go of me, but I have no problem letting go of him, but I didn't wanted to make it any worse than it already was, so I didn't said it. Even after I left him, he continued to try to contact me for years, whether by phone, text message or otherwise. In the meantime, however, I haven't heard from him for a very long time and I hope it stays that way. He definitely has (or had) mental health issues and I hope over time he has learned from his mistakes and gotten his issues under control.

[khalilahd.]

I think we’ve all been here before. Especially early on in life. It’s so easy to slip into some of these toxic behaviors so bringing awareness to this truly helps people who may be going through these changes in their relationship 💛

[aweirdjojofanrero]

It’s sad that this has happened to me all 7 signs, tragic.

[robanaetaber]

These videos always come out when I need them

[calebwilson.]

“Communication has to be sincere in order for it to work.” Yes👏 a million times yes 👏

[shotaverde]

It’s been a bit over a year …and I definitely needed this a staying in the wrong relationship and allowing them to control you can have long term issues.

[charlottemuylle]

I ended my relationship in september last year and I can say that almost every sign in this video was present. It only confirms that I made the right decision. Thanks for the reassurance.

[ldinfected]

Unfortunately, I’ve realized I was the toxic one. And not just from this video (although this confirms it I guess). I didn’t relate to all of the ones listed but definitely the ones about not giving what was needed when asked for it. And she asked multiple times and I never made the effort, which led to our breakup. You never know what you had until it’s gone. It’s been a wake up call, so the past few days I’ve started efforts to improve myself (which was the issue. I was coasting through life, and she realized we couldn’t both take care of each other, that it would be one sided)

Anyway, self reflection is a powerful thing

[kyoza]

This can really go for any type of relationship, not just romantic. Because of this video, i realized the relationship i have with my guardian is a bit more toxic than i realized. Sad to think about tbh 🤷‍♂️

[Rose-gycc]

All these signs is what I grew up seeing in my parents. Now, at 21 I don’t know what healthy love looks like. I’m so thankful for PsychtoGo.

[gunnyhatfield]

The lesson I have learned is that who loves the least has all the power.

[xbliss_x]

This video also makes me think that its not just about toxic relationship but also toxic friendships as well

[namethestars]

Yep all of these, 100%. Ten years in a controlling, abusive relationship so I'm glad to be free of that toxicity now.

[miss]

I have zero tolerance for toxic love. I nearly lost myself trying to please the wrong person. Also, some people are actually better off living separately, sometimes separate beds even.

[Mariue]

Thinking of getting into my first physical(not long-distance) relationship and a bit nervous, this was quite helpful. Trying not to let my anxiety get the best of me 😌

[patburns]

I truly enjoy your content and genuinely feel like they have helped me understand myself a little bit better. Thank you for making these videos. I'm positive that they've helped plenty of people and the world needs more of that.

[BCDE]

I just figured marriage was not about happiness but commitment, but yea this is on point.