Fearful Avoidant Perspective: 6 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship | HealingFa.com

Discover the six signs of a healthy relationship from the perspective of a fearful avoidant. In this video, we'll explore how their unique views on relationships can impact success and how to navigate these expectations for a healthier partnership.

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-- CONTENTS --
00:00 Intro
00:45 A passionate relationship
02:50 You look up to each other
04:14 You need to express all of your feelings
06:29 You’re never annoyed or irritated with your partner
09:19 Your partner knows exactly what to do or what to say to make you happy
11:15 Your partner makes you feel special all the time, every day


This video is about Fearful Avoidant Perspective: 6 Signs Of A Healthy Relationship. But It also covers the following topics:

Fearful Avoidant Relationship
Healthy Relationship Signs
Attachment Style Insights

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[bruceboyer]

Thank you Pauline. My Darlin has Avoidant Behaviors, fearful. In order to accept her I need to understand her and you helped me as we grow in love. She is so happy in loving and trusting me. Thank You Pauline 😊

[shubikl]

Jeez, Paulien, this is spot on every belief my boyfriend had. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago stating all of that. As I'm aware of attachment styles and knew he was FA, I didn't fight back. I tried to tell him that it wasn't realistic, but as you often say, you can't force a FA to heal when they think they're fine. I accepted the breakup. And now I see this video that comforts me in being proud of how I handled the end: no drama, and I learned so much again. I' a new subscriber to the channel and am so glad I found it (I'm a light FA, former AP, trying to become secure lol)

[djenning]

I recognize all of these, in past months… but I recognize these as not healthy and I’m making progress healing most of them.

[nikstar]

Wow, sorry, I have to journal this out too.. this is decades of answers you’re giving me, im so grateful to you. I’m showing my therapist your videos too as we will need to focus on healing my fa.
Number 1.. missing the fighting and drama, mistaking it for passion! Omg yes, my covert narcissist and overly codependent mother and alcoholic malignant narcissistic father were so unpredictable! They taunted each other and were too codependent to split and my golden child dro out brother is the apple if their eye. I felt at even 4 that something was off.. at 6 I asked why god isn’t a woman and was in sooo much trouble for asking. I was kicked out o of Sunday school and also shamed the family too with my innocent question. I am the over achieving perfectionist performance machine family scapegoat trained by my immature “parents” who didn’t know how to raise me as an independent thinker and highly sensitive person too with emotions.. they gave me lots of activities to win and when I did they would say oh they made a mistake, you should not have won... they are both sick! I was parentified so much!
2. Omg..this is why I feel bored with good people especially men omg! I always sought out relationships as a submissive party where I was the one looking up to or was dominated by bc I felt safe that way omg! Bingo! I am now seeing these people as a repellent!
3. Oh wow, my therapist said this re: me expressing my real feelings in the moment and not applying self regulation...how we are going to work towards this is something I am very uncomfortable but excited about
4. I thought a healthy relationship is that you’re never annoyed with partner too omg! Friends too!
5 I missed it sorry .. maybe something about expecting them to read my mind? (That’s my mother!)
6 Omg wow, expecting them to make me feel special everyday omg ah haaa moments

We are eternally grateful to you as FAs, THANK YOU!

[shannon]

Yes, yes and yes! How could we be so utterly wrong about everything! You nailed every point

[saanvim]

Thank you for this video Paulien! I definetely recognize a lot of these sign especially with the first two. I was wondering whether you could make a video on how a fearful avoidant should stop avoiding relationships and how they can recognize if the person they're seeing is right to date or continue on with. It's something I've really been struggling with especially in the era of online dating. I keep searching for the one so I've gone on numerous dates but never gone forward with any of them. With the guy I'm seeing right now, he seems very sweet and understanding and we have an emotional connection but it scares me sometimes when he's moving too fast or wants to hang out with my friends. Though he satisfies a lot of my standards, there is a major one that he doesn't and I wonder if that means I shouldn't date him. I guess I'm wondering if I can ever overcome my fear and date someone or the problem here is that I know exactly what I want and if someone isn't up to it, I don't want them and if in that case I should lower my standards. Sorry to dump all this in the comments but thank you again for your videos! They're godsend in helping me understand myself better

[chuckwatson]

Wow your talk about it being healthy to not-express emotion when too triggered related powerfully to how I probably learned how to express all my emotions when upset by growing up with a raging father who yelled all day. That hit home. Your videos frequently make me cry out of the blue and you are helping heal old pain I forgot.

All of your points rang very true to me. The needing to be special topic at the end starting be on a deep dive into why I need to be special to get love or to have to earn love. I remember my inner dialogue as a child now thinking about these safety strategies. I had gotten over the trauma of my past but it sure messed up my definition of a relationship LoL

[coreygeiger]

You hit the nail on the head, as usual! I felt I had to put the last person I was even remotely involved with on the pedestal, because I feared when she got to know the real me, she would leave anyway. I wound up self sabotaging and destroying my chances with her anyway.

[joshliam]

It felt surreal watching this as I identify with all of these...thank you so much for sharing as always.

[nikstar]

Oh my god you blow my mind.. thank you Paulien, I’ve been binge watching your videos, I really want to heal my fa attachment style! Wow, so used to feeling uncertainty that when it’s calm I feel so uncomfortable?!! Links with why I can’t relax!

[billyk]

Hey Paulien. First, thanks a lot for all the content you upload to help. I feel like you solve the puzzle of my last 10 years about what's going on.
I especially suffered in my current relationship from Sudden Repulsion Syndrome, and it completely drained me.
With the intention to find a solution, it just became worse, as the information you find about it are completely catastrophizing.

I just started to use the tapping technique and hope to find some release. Do you have by any chance a source, where to find some more tapping techniques about anxious-avoidant attachment?
I saw that you haven't released a course yet, maybe you should link your paypal account as you help so many people for free.

[TheUnlikelyToad]

Doesn't point 1 and 4 contradict each other? Drama can feel like love, but if there are arguments (drama) it can feel unsafe. Maybe someone can extrapolate the logic behind this... or perhaps that's also the point, it isn't logical.

[bethpowrie]

hi! do you have any tips on being able accept people as they are. really struggling with this one, thanks🤍