The 4 Ingredients That Help Fearful Avoidants Trust

How can you help your fearful avoidant (FA) date or partner to open up?

FAs often have trust issues. In this video, Thais reveals 4 essential ingredients for helping your FA partner feel safe with you. Which one was new to you?

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[ghju]

The more I watch your FA content, the more seen I feel. It feels good to be understood, in the good and the bad, without judgement. I also learn more about myself and my behaviors, triggers, needs and where it comes from (I obviously see my parents and romantic partners in your explanations of all styles too). Thank you 🙂

PS: I've been a textbook AP for most of my youth, and shifted into an FA for most of my adulthood (I'm 42 now), I'm interested in understanding how/why styles evolve. I need to check your videos in case you addressed it already because it's weird to me 😅

[jhsporty]

I was considerate and he found away to turn it into a negative. He was very good at sabotaging. FA are very hard to date, even if you’re secure.

[bxmully]

On point. I'm an FA and woth an AP rn but we are both working on becoming secure attachment style. Things have been progressing nicely and we are getting married later this year. We understand each other's needs and attachment styles.
I was with a DA in a past relationship and there was zero growth between us. We did feel safe with eachother but the lack of growth together was something that bothered me a lot.

[realradrevolting]

I feel so validated Thais.. I wish we could meet in person someday but just knowing that at least ONE person gets you so well.. feels enough! Thank you for doing what you do!

[davidcarroll]

This describes me 💯 percent! Thank you for helping put into words what I could not.

[gogohappygirl]

If only this video had been released eight days ago when my DA partner broke up with me (FA, citing my trust issues, yet my DA started being less consistent, less transparent, inconsiderate, and their words started not matching their actions, and then they wonder why I had trust issues? And don’t even get me started about the stonewalling and sweeping things under the rug… currently doing the PDS break up course right now and it’s helping. Thank you! PSN as a fifth bonus one, I would add validation.

[nessyv.]

Worst being in a relationship with dismissive avoidant. Triggers all safety buttons.

[anon_ya]

This this this this! It’s like you are inside of my head.

[nicoleflusk]

I’m trying to do these things. I’m secure with AP tendencies. I’m dating an FA and wish he would do these things too especially the consistency part. He is so hot and cold consistency isn’t happening and it’s so hard for me!!

[makitty_makeupxo]

I feel like this is just healthy when building relationships in general not just with FA. I feel even a secure attachment person would do these also. Correct me if I’m wrong!

[ladyofspa]

So beautiful, would love to a makeover. Would be fun.

[redsox]

FA need to be left alone for the rest of their lives😂 Let us go and have our own fun🎉

[johnnelson]

Why is there no talk of accountability or virtue seeking