My Ex Said There's No Chance Of Getting Back Together

My Ex Said There's No Chance Of Getting Back Together

When planning this video, I was stuck for content, so when I was trying to plan the content the best thing to do was to query people like you, asking what things their exes said to them. The biggest comicality I found was that the biggest fear people had was if their ex said they didn’t have a chance with them, why would they come back.

In that exact moment yes, they mean it, but one thing you may not realise in life, and may not take into account is change. Where over time they start to change their mind, time makes things happen that will get your ex more open to getting back with you.

Like in Sarah Michelle’s situation he told her he didn’t love her, that they were never getting back together and we never have a chance of making this work. Then a few months later he is back. Why did this happen? One thing I have noticed during my time doing this is that exes speak to soon and burn bridges too soon.

When emotions run high, logic runs low, and after some time goes by logic tends to take over.
And another thing that people were interested in, if my ex meant it, what can I do?

I’m trying to get you to understand your exes frame of mind when they say this, one of the common types of behaviors that exes will have, this concept of orbiting, or Facebook stalking. The reason why is we tend to miss people, it’s natural to miss people we were so close to. Wondering what they are doing and what close friends are doing. So, it is natural that you are being reminded of their presence for you to silently obsess.

So, what can we use that for?
I think it is great for approaching this unreliability of memory, this is something where we talk about the peek-end rule. Where we tend to obsess about, we remember two distinct points where the best of the relationship and the end. So immediately after the breakup he is angry and the end is a strong memory, but over time he starts to focus on the peek of the relationship.

What are they going to get? Is it worth their time to invest into it? Exes tend to forget the lows over the long run and only remember the highs, and this is where they spend their time focusing on your social media.

Always comparing you to other people, where people have a knee-jerk reaction to get their ex back and they want to get their ex back immediately after the break up is actually the worst time. But if you actually wait a little time do a No Contact Rule work on yourself. After time, you become more attractive to your ex just by simply doing those things.

How to implement these things
Here is the best tip I can leave you with, when you understand what is going through your exes mind, the best thing you can do is spend some time to become the Ungettable girl of being everything your ex would want in a woman and be the ultimate attractive version of the thing he has always want but couldn’t have. When he starts comparing you to other people and you are cultivating this idea on your social media it is going to make him question, why he even left you.

Now this is one of those very specific question that people were dying to have an answer to. Most people pick apart everything their ex says and what it means. But I have found that words are not always consistent with how someone actually feels.

How then can we understand if an ex really meant what they said?
The best thing I have always found is not to focus on a persons’ words but instead to focus on their actions. The way people act and the actions they take can really tell you how they feel about something. I cant tell you how many clients who have gone on dates with exes and they say things went so well and then have their ex never ask them out again.

So what means more, all the things he said during the date?
Or, the fact that he never asked her out again?

This what determines where his head space is actually at, you guessed it the actual act of doing nothing, tells you everything you need to know about how the actual date went. Now I realise it’s hard, and we want those knee-jerk actions and expect often consistent and quick results but this is the kind of thing where that doesn’t really occur. Sometimes you don’t listen to their words, you watch what they do.

[cintame]

It is true what you said, that you cannot rely on "no chance" or if he said " I see no future " because it is too soon to say that. Another thing is sometimes men tels lie a.k.a. he is not telling the truth what the problem is so that it cannot be discussed and and fixed together. Maybe we can ask, what the real problem is. If he is reluctant to talk then only time will tell that he will come back to you if that bad memory fades away and the sweet memories stay in his heart and logic turns up. Thanks alot for the video. Great job!

[HotGirl-nhxt]

I love your videos!! They’re so helpful, you’re amazing, great job

[chantehowe]

I don't want nobody who tell me I don't have a chance

[tinaschultz]

Omg this guy is right on I swear like 💯

[MsLinzoo]

Chris, but what if it’s the opposite like he says he still loves me but he doesn’t act like it? He gets really angry with me a lot lately and I don’t blame him it’s because of what happened.. but he doesn’t really want to talk to me anymore and it’s weird because a month ago he would talk to me and call me still, and now it’s like things are getting worse!is it possible he’s just telling me he loves me saying all this stuff to make me happy?

[frontalpeso]

Hi coach me and my ex broke up 1 month ago we go to school together I see her everyday and she just looks away gives no emotions and acts like she doesn’t care at all or anything happened between us. What should I do? We were so close still can’t believe this happened.

[leahrogersrogers]

My ex told me 2 days ago that there is no chance foe him and I to get back together and said that he misses his other ex that he was with long after we broke up what that really means Chris?

[mariamakiling]

Hi, Coach Chris. My ex of 2 yrs broke up with me 2 months ago. He said he finds me too controlling. Also, we have been fighting pretty much in our last months because he is avoidant while I'm anxious. Good thing is, I recognized my mistakes and tried working on myself.

I have tried NC for 20 days a month after the break up, but failed. Now we are back talking again. But, we have also been having very bad fights everyday because I get disappointed everytime he says he won't come back to me. It's confusing because he has been flirty, and he told me that he still cares for me but he didn't want me back. Also, there are times when he seems so annoyed at me. He also said he doesn't miss me and that it is better if we just cut contact forever. He doesn't make an effort to see me anymore or contact me.

Maybe he has moved on. I am so determined to get this guy back and make him happy again. Any advice, coach? Also, I want to start a session with you.

[haohaolin]

what if my ex said I still have chance at the begging of breakup, than I moved wrong move, after begging and pleading, she said we are never get back together, I need help

[sumayyanantono]

Hey Chris, my ex boyfriend told me that he no longer have my feelings and he is already in love with someone, he told me if were meant to be together will be, but right now we can force, and he told me we can be close friend when we can kiss, hug each other and he keeps on calling me, when I don't he complains, now what can I do cuz am confused right now, I don't know if he still have my feelings or not

[gazzawazza]

My ex said we wasn't right 4 each other but went cold on me...she wont delete my mobile number 🙄...she ignores me in the street 🙄 odd behaviour

[gracelepri-valitutti]

What if he was my crush and boss? I always flipped on him because he showed interest then got cold bit l was an asset to his company. Yes he gave me some chances but he repeated his action. Now he said we're done, move on. I loved my job and did very well for him. How to correct this and get another chance.

[franstjepanovic]

Chris if an ex is in a rebound and you cut contact with her... Like I did, so I went NC and 3 days later she responded to me saying that Im her world, that she misses me and loves me but wants to start from being friends again to building the reletionship (she broke UP with me bdw) and that she still loves her rebound.... What the hell does that mean. And also do yr advices and tips also apply for woman when you are talking about ex boyfriends being a dumper?

[wvdtbjg]

Not getting back together after a 10 year a relationship. That person jumped into a new relationship right after.

[robertrainford]

Do you give advice on gay relationships?

[densoro]

Hello Coach Chris I have some question kindly, We have been married for 7yrs and we have a son together, 2015 she leave me after 2wks she comes back, then everything was fine until last year October n November she leaves again twice 1st for like 2 wks and she comes back then after one month same thing again and she moved to same place by then we have been communicating although rudely, disrespectful


I can say she is narcissist woman coz she is that person hot temper, she wants to do things without questioning her or without my permission, it's very hard for her to accept when she is wrong n apologies, she is always in competition with me, she always sees herself always right, We reconcile again mid of January this year and everything was fine until Nov 11th again same thing while I was away at work she parked again and leave with the kid


This time around I tried No contact rule after 6 days she calls me but I didn't answer the call that's on 17th Nov, since then she didn't call or text me again and I didn't also call or text her or anyone close to her, this time round also we are in different place's not like last year where we are very near to each other


So since we have a child together how long will I continue with NC ?, she is not working I was the one providing everything for her and the kid, Should I get another wife after healing ? coz I have NC for her this time not like other previous break up, can that makes her change or regrets ? kindly advice me coach chris

[jeromepaderdelacruz]

We've in been in a relationship for 2 years and 5 months. we broke up last December so almost 2 months now. I always chased him and I got rejected 5 times already. 😂 if I see this earlier, maybe I didn't not do what I did. But I didn't regret it. It's just that I'm happy because I did everything. Taking risk is better than regret.

But seriously I don't know what will happen next. Can somebody help me? Should I go with the no contavt rule tho it's a little bit late?

[kimsikorski]

My ex and I were talking and I said I truly loved you then but then he said but you don't now, I said no. I don't know if that was a question or a statement because after that he said there would never be an us again and wanted to know if I understood what he meant by inner circles and I said no and he explained it while he was holding me and he wanted to spoon with me and even was kissing me on the forehead and said he just wanted to hold me. But he was saying that our inner circles would never become one as in I would never be part of his circle and vise versa.
So do I go by his words or his actions? Did I hurt his feelings when I said no that I didn't love him anymore?
Im so
Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[manuelmendoza]

30 days with NC, my wife told me we were to differents fron each other she liked things that I did and the other way around. She claims that we lost the spark In the relationship between us. And she told me for us to be friends, , of course I said no way. I told her I'm looking for a relationship not a friendship. And started NC... We have 13 years married. I want to know if me and her will be together. I believe she is a narcissist person in my opinion she works more to her self than the working in the relationship.

[moorthi]

What if she calmly says that we have no chance and I'm not coming back. It's already history. I pushed her till the max and this happens. My first relationship though. But when I bumped into her, I had eye contact with her but she avoids eye contact with me. But I had goose bumps after having eye contact with her. It was very strong and electrifying (sexually aroused). I smiled and walked away.

Btw I did not cheat her with other women. Just I did not know how to handle a breakup and the idea of giving her space.