How narcissistic parents suppress your true self.

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[donnakelley]

So true. I learned to hide. I learned to be timid and keep my thoughts to my self. I recall once one of my friends said "I have a good idea". I was shocked that any one would say that. I was never allowed to think any of my ideas were "good". My ideas were always condimed and criticized.

[IzabelaWaniek-ix]

So true. Narcisistic parents don’t let their kids express negative emotions and if they do there is punishment coming so the kids suppress and lose touch with their emotions and their real self as a consequence. Having narcisistic parents who are your first and biggest bullies is too much to bear for a lot of kids, it’s being orphaned from the beginning of your life and living in a hostile environment.if we survive that horror and heal, we become totally new people, born again.

[siennaprice]

I’m completely blind, on the autism spectrum and have CPTSD. When I lived with my narcissistic stepmom, I wasn’t allowed to have my opinions on how I like to do things because of my blindness and autism. I was punished for touching everything, running into things, spilling things, having intense emotions, using sensory items or any of the strategies that helped my blindness and autism. If I told her that I’m blind, or autistic and that I can’t always control these things, she’d say that I could and that I was just using blindness as an excuse. I was never allowed to have a difference in opinion, I was never allowed to be my true blind and autistic self.

[ccharles]

That is exactly my mom! And the relationship I had with my mom before I went no contact. 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you.

[Daana-xqsw]

I hated my childhood, teen years, and adult years... because of their projections...

[lauragadille]

And that's how anger build inside of me and it caused a lot of problems in my adulthood

[debbiejahnke]

I just had a eureka moment. I have this inner lack of joy of things. I think it’s because nobody ever told me I was valuable but always focused on me as a problem. How can you receive beautiful things if you can’t see yourself as valuable?

[linnnea]

Ironically mom is proud of the fact that there were never arguments in my family of origin. "There is no reason to argue". And "we have always been able to talk about everything". Mom sure was able to tell her kids every grievance she had with dad and the world and nobody else said anything. To this day she hasn't noticed that there is something wrong with this picture.

[DogMomCMF]

Wow...lately, each of these shorts hit bang on! It's like you were there!

[TheCelestialhealer]

I really was blind to my behaviour. Thank you for explaining 🙏

[km_]

This is why I started drinking in high school and lived this double life all the way until age 30 when Christ saved me. I kept this prim and proper appearance with my mother and her associates and didn’t realise it was because of the programming and conditioning but with others I was WILD. I drank, partied, fornicated you name it…I thought it was “cool” to have a double life and I will confess it got me nowhere real quick but I thank the Lord for saving me and healing me and restoration. I thank you Jerry Wise for all your support and wisdom..you have no clue how much you’ve done for us

[persasrho]

I'd like to thank you, Jerry, for recommending the book "What's Normal". That really changed things for me, because I don't think I ever had any idea of what a normal life was supposed to be like. Again thank you❤❤❤

[mercyme]

My Dad used to characterize me as being a “hider and concealer”. Yep.

[ActiveSneakers]

My mom seems to separate every family member from the others. And she's the go-to person for details of a person. She has emphasized to me to not share with others what I shared with her or else there will be trouble. A few years ago, I realized she has affected my two siblings this way, too. I always felt disconnected with my FOO.

[marinamayo]

It took me until was 28 until i began my long journey of discovering who God created me to be.

[naturelover]

Leave these people alone because they don't have any friends and they sure don't want any

[mitche]

Yes, and paradoxically the entire reason for your being here in this reality is to be your true self🙏.

[amberfuchs]

Always blamed for my reactions to being abused, rather than them taking accountability for their abusive behaviors. Pointing this out led to more abuse. You take the abuse "or else" you get more abuse. And then they wonder why we go no contact.

If contact means taking their abuse and no contact means avoiding their abuse, why are they surprised when people go no contact with them. Are they dumb? Cause they seem real dumb. Like they don't even seem to understand basic cause and effect.

[logochi]

She actually said "If i had known all you were gonna do was disagree with me, i wouldn't have made you so brilliant" out loud, once.

[nikicarroll]

This is so relatable. When I told my therapist years ago about what I’d experienced he looked shocked and said he was surprised I wasn’t in a mental institution. I’m still dealing with a narcissistic parent, but I’m learning to keep my distance. If I share my sadness or disappointment about something going on in my life that has nothing to even do with her, she will scream and hang up on me. I really thought when I was a teenager that we’d have the close mother and daughter relationship that I always wanted, but I’m now in my fifties and she’s still wickedly cruel and abusive. She enjoys putting me down in front of my children, oddly enough, when I’m singing their praises about their grades or a kind gesture, she will verbally attack me in front of them and put me down, so the attention is suddenly off of them and directed negatively at me. When I call her out on it, she will gaslight me and my children will tell me to “just not say anything”. She makes everyone uncomfortable. I dread the holidays. She’s Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. She reminds me of that little kid in the Twilight Zone episode, “It’s a Good Life”. Everyone tip toes around Anthony Fremont lest they be “eliminated”.