Break Free from Codependency: Healing Childhood Wounds

In this video, we will explore how to break free from codependence and heal childhood wounds. Learn how to set healthy boundaries, practice self-care, and develop a strong sense of self-worth.
If you're ready to stop being codependent and start living life on your own terms, then this video is for you.
Watch now and take the first step towards a more fulfilling and independent life.

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The science is now overwhelming. Every relational, economic, political, and social problem originates from unhealed childhood emotional pain.

Currently, our society looks for solutions to these social maladies in every other possibility but the actual source of the problem. Making things more difficult is that our unhealed emotional pain is also responsible for avoiding the source of the problem. That is why these maladies have continued for generations.

As a society, we are all stuck in the Worst Day Cycle.

Therefore, the mission of The Greatness Movement is to conquer that long avoided frontier. To do that, we need new knowledge that can be developed into a skill and ultimately refined into a tool to heal that pain and stop the generational transference of The Worst Day Cycle. In short, we need emotional mastery.

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[vam]

Thank God for the internet and mostly American people who are sharing their wisdom with the world. I’ve healed myself thanks to the internet. If not then my life would have taken a very different course. Thank you to all the wonderful people who are writing books, sharing knowledge, their expertise. You are very much valued ❤

[womanatthewell]

I’m learning more from your videos than I have in the last 8 months of weekly counseling. I will watch this again. I guess because of pride we minimize our childhood pain and own dysfunctional family of origin and sadly repeat bad behavior raising our own kiddos. I still have so much to learn. Thank you Kenny!

[jerrybowers]

Kenny, first of all I have to thank you from the bottom of my heart, for these free videos that you share with us all of the time. It just shows what a compassionate heart you have, to want ro help everyone. I'm turning 70 years old, and I wish I had found you and your healing wisdom years ago. I was in therapy for years, and I quit going because nothing was being accomplished or changing in my life. Since I've found your videos months ago, I've learned more in your free videos, than I've learned in all the years of counseling that I paid for. Honestly I think your wisdom, knowledge, and approach on how you deliver your messages with compassion, are by far the most enlightening I've ever known. Thank you so much for giving freely to those of
us that cannot afford to pay for your brilliant services. God bless you.

[millenials_best]

Kenny I am having my kids overnight for the first time tonight after almost 2 years of battling the world. You helped me face myself and from there, I've gotten here. I gotta take a second and say thank you so much to you. Totally not even relative to this video. But you gotta know that you've helped and I recommend you to people. Thanks for your no nonsense yet sensitive approach. I needed so bad then. Stay awesome and sporting purple ❤🎉 my moms favorite color❤😊

[lo-ulnq]

Everything you said is so true. I gone through all this with my parents growing up with getting hit, getting called names, getting yelled at, and so much more. I am now a parent myself I don't raise my children the way I was raised. I never hit my children or yelled at them. I say sorry to my children when I am wrong. I knew growing up something wasn't right the way I went through stuff with my parents with everything. My parents never said sorry or didn't care how I felt etc. I 'm a single mother. I gone to celebrate recovery and other groups at church. I am a Christian for over 10 years. It's the best thing I ever done was accept Jesus in my life. Hope this helps someone else out.

[Juke]

Many of us now know why we attracted narcissists and that we are from same terrible childhoods! Trauma bond as our norm. We just went internal and nurturing to get self worth while the narcissist chose the mean evil path! I get it that we attracted the toxic people! Makes sense now Kenny! It hurts but I hope to get past this somehow

[EMGEE]

I love you dude! You're no nonsense and raw. The only way to grow is to see the truth. Thank you Kenny!

[aparna]

Salvaging relationship with parents - nailed it. I have seen my ugly looking friends and not so talented friends not looking for acceptance from parents. And here I was good looking, charming and good at academia still looking for acceptance. I couldn’t nail why they were indifferent towards me. I guess, they have their own issues. I was so wrong to think their life should revolve around me. I became severely co dependent Inspite of being well educated. Waking up and knowing my relationship with my parents can not be salvaged is such a relief. I am not scared or sad anymore. Thank you!

[cayelafond]

I like the fact that it is all being exposed. We're making progress because now, we have the knowledge, to understand the cause of a disease is crucial, and very important. I appreciate you and Pia for bringing it up. To delve into our faults, our mistakes, our deep desire that I wish I had known. I forgave my parents already. I knew at seven that I did not choose the right parents. Both of them were very sick, but I loved them dearly for providing me with a home, school, clothing. I love that my Dad works and unlike his Dad, he brought the money home and not at the bar like his Dad. My mother, way too young to have six children by the time she was 27. A young bride at seventeen.
There are things that are getting better in my life daily. I must continue to focus on that yellow brick road. I got the information now, I got the cause, now I am looking forward every day for the healings, the results, the love, the appreciation, and most of all the instructions. I compare it all to the things I have to overcome in my lifetime. Civil rights, women's rights. We matter. Thanks, Kenny for sharing your knowledge, your time with us. God bless you.

[Juke]

All this learning has really haunted me badly and I am in a big funk isolating myself from people. My childhood was zero nurturing from a broken home, devalued in school and in sports by a mean snake narcissist coach and gaslighters abound! I was happy in college away from that childhood for a new start in another state, and had no idea I was very damaged until now after narcissist abuse opened my eyes!

My workplace life was full of narcissists abusers and evil manipulators too! I guess I will be totally broken to rebuild myself again. I am studying and working my boundaries right now. I don’t trust anyone anymore and feel alone in my struggle to feel anything but emptiness. I can detect narcissist easy now so that’s a great help! I won’t date or befriend another Narc! these are 2 steps forward. Where I go from here I am not sure. My mindset is a crutch at the present at age 60. Feel like I will be alone rest of my days. My self worth is crumbled now. I used to be confident when I was ignorant! Maybe I was better off not knowing?? I do need boundaries though above all else! Need to learn how to change my “attachment style” next maybe? Right now I am in Avoidance. Can’t do that forever!

[comentadoraification]

I strongly recommend the book “Toxic parents : overcoming their hurtful legacy and reclaiming your life ” by Susan Forward.
Excellent lecture 📖 👌 on that matter .

[sueskeie]

In the old days it was "children should be seen and not heard. No wonder!!!

[lyndafelton]

Wow…I have had the light bulb moment…at how abusive I was to my children as well as the abuse I dealt with growing up…like many people I really thought my childhood was pretty great and normal and definitely not abusive. I have learned so much listening to you and I’d like to think I am growing and becoming a better person. I fully accept the perfectly imperfect parenting I received and I understand it more now. Thank you thank you thank you!!

[missstarrynight]

That's an extremely important thing to become aware of! I was listening to your reading and realized I got all of those abuse/neglect from my family. I was raised in 3-generational home. With one narcissist, one borderline, one avoidant and one fearful one. I believe I had CPTSD since my early childhood. It pushed me into neverending cycles of being taken advantage of and abused in relationship, friendships and at work. To the point I lost my health and ability to work.

I think people rarely mention that in multigenerational homes, you can be traumatized by more that 2 people!

It got diagnosed with CPTSD as an adult, but got no real help. By God's grace, I met a person (now my coach and mentor) who decided to help me. I'm 40 this year. I am learning from my dear friend how to be a human being. From the beginning. I feel like a baby in an adult's body!

How to don't accept abuse, how to love/like myself, how to value myself. Sometimes is ask her : "Listen, what do healthy / normal people do in such and such situation?". I am learning slowly and I love it. When I discovered your channel I had a thought that "Wow, this gentleman is like a father I always want to have.Or like a dear uncle." (My Dad is a good man, but he believes in many unrealistic things.I.e., as you quoted from the book, that I should figure out everything about life all by myself. Actually all my family members believe in it, so whatever I know, I had to figure out by myself.)

I wonder how to forgive my caregivers. In my home no one ever forgave anyone. Their definition of forgiveness is simply silent holding grudges. Which is not forgivness. And how to forgive myself for having terrible life. Acknowledging they were traumatized themselves doesn't help. I understand why they are/were like that, but I I don't "feel" forgiveness, because the consequences of their action haunt my life in a tremendous way up to this point. Same for my ex boyfriend, who is, unfortunately NPD and antisocial PD. Or my former co-worker, who used to sabotage my work up to the point I got autoimmune disease out of fear and stress.

Those people live happy lives on their own terms. They lost nothing. I lost everything. And I could do nothing about it years ago. I could barely survive. They have good health, money, career, relationships, children. I have nothing. I don't have a "victim mentality", I seek solutions to escape learned helplessness. I want to change this situation. But I don't know how to deal with feeling like the ultimate loser in the zero-sum game. They enjoy life, I learn the names of feelings and learn how to ask for help.

How to forgive them... .

Thank you for what you're doing and for all the videos and teachings. It's all precious. I'm so grateful!

[lanorabousfield]

I enjoyed this. However, I think we all have grown up in some kind of dysfunction. We are all just doing the best we can.

[alessandrajouberteix]

Yikes! I think the whole list you mentioned applies to me. I wanted to b a great mo to my daughters yet I tuned the worse. They do not even talk to me. It hurts to the core to see how much pain I caused them. I felt like I woke up from a dream with a knife in my hand and bloody bodies of my children around me. I find myself asking what the he’ll happened here and the undeniable realization that I did it. I was mad yet the damage is done and now I must live with the consequences on not having my children around, not even a phone call once in a while.
The worst part is that I did not know what I was doing, I was dealing with my own repressed traumas. There has been a deep remorse for all these behaviors? Yet I was myself like a wild animal fighting to 15:47 survive that blinded me to the beauty and joy of just enjoying my time with them.
Waking up to my reality now is like crossing the ocean not knowing how to swim, dragging my children with me, yet I am at the other shore yet they drown in the process.
Now all that is left is to pray they wake up sooner than I did. My hood for them is to heal themselves before they have children. Thank you for your videos, they are very insightful.

[suedoenim]

I always knew it was wrong and inappropriate. I never thought it was normal and I was always screaming for help drowning in plain sight, but no one ever intervened because my mother would always tell people I was being overly dramatic.

[mariadarosa]

I am 70 years old I am still living the abuse of my chilwood.My mom and father always say I wasn't smart I would be good for nothing.So I believed it.I never felt like I should study because I was told I would never be anybody. My symbles have a degree .I had to work in factories, cleaning homes and I still an insecure woman.My older sister also always put me down in front of people.Now I don't work any more but still I don't like to do things on my own.I understand my parents now but still always in my mind that I am not smart etc.I do have very good qualities never hit or put my children down.My mother always told me I was ugly.I still believe today I am ugly.Listening to you I became more aware that they didn't realize what they did to me.But they scrud my life .

[emilyvay]

I need to start reading this book I have it but I haven’t started reading it I think that is something need to do in 2023

[mamabear]

People that make these youtube videos have helped countless people. I learned about narcissism and codependency because of youtube videos. I now live a healthy life because I was able to find out what the problem was thanks to people like Kenny. I was raised by narcissistic baby boomer parents that turned me into a co dependent. I was attracting toxic narcissists into my life because of my toxic codependency. The only way our society is going to get fixed is if the younger generations take charge. I am an older millenial and I have had the opportunity to see the cause and effect of the problems we have in America today. I am raising my child in a healthy environment. I stay away from toxic people and I put my child first. I was emotionally neglected as a child so I am taking proper care to make sure that my child does not suffer like that.