What the avoidant thinks when they’re pulling away

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[Kv-pkst]

The irony is they want to be close. But as soon as they start to feel this, they push away. Creating their own self-fulfilling prophecy

[gayleneflower]

Things going ok .... After years of initiating that we move in together....I say ok, let's start looking for a place, maybe someday we could even get no calls for 3 days...Then too busy to see me on weekend.... "we just don't get don't love day, no call, No Contact from me for a I call me "I just can't give you what you want"... JUST exactly LIKE COACH Ryan SAID! Do these folks all go to Club DA and share the same script for their relationships?? Unbelievable. Could be funny if it wasn't so friggin painful....💔

[gayleneflower]

I know you’ve already talked about it but avoidance seem to use cheating as a validation coping mechanism. They find faults like crazy that are small about their partner, don’t talk about them and then ghost or pull away making excuses like “you’re too jealous “or “I just can’t stand the pressure of you trying to tie me down, “etc., my favorite was “I’m not a bull on a ring for you to pull around” 😂. His mother was addicted to OxyContin.

[JimmyDean-ewgh]

Even, and apparently also even after a pregnancy occurs. I was deeply in love. She bailed and no contact at the worst possible time, ever. I’ve missed out on the entire pregnancy, including ultrasound photos. Due in November- no idea if I will be told when our baby is born to do paternity and child support and parenting plan. To be a part of our child’s life….

[taylorbee]

Is it basically just fear management? It’s hard to tell space from.. like using space as a punishment