How To Spot A Narcissist's Baiting Tactics

Narcissists are natural exploiters, which means they like to see you in a weakened state as they seek advantages. One of their favorite tactics is psychological baiting. Dr. Les Carter explains how their goal is to manipulate you in the process of elevating themselves. But once you can spot their tactics, you can become free from their antics.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[itsruqs]

"Narcissists bait you to become a less version of yourself than you want to be". This hit the nail on the head!

[Sugerplum]

When is a narcissist baiting/gaslighting/lying etc....when their lips are moving. 😂😂😂

[kaycampbell]

Conflict is their drug of choice. That's how you know you're dealing with the devil.

[EarthborneArt]

It's pretty easy to recognize the baiters on social media. No response, is a response.

[nicoledixon-ttvg]

My narc is experiencing incredible hardship right now. Baiting BIGTIME. Must remember that it's not me he wants back. He only wants "supply" because he's struggling.

[amandaliverpool]

Anything that can require a defensive response from you is baiting!

[darrynreid]

My personal favourite is the mind-reading vituperation, where someone will make grand pronouncements about what you supposedly think, in order to condemn you for positions that you don't hold. They're not interested in letting what you actually think get in the way, either, since they just know your thoughts better than you do.

[ErumEhmad]

Narcissists want us to eventually turn into a narcissist so they can justify their own behavior. Or to prove they were traumatized and everyone who is hurting will eventually hurt others. I understand now why Dr. C is always emphasizing we don't forget our ability to stay empathetic. And the ultimate bait in my opinion is their circular thinking patterns, and the need to draw everyone around them, into it.

[secondhorizon]

Casual pleasantries typically precede the baiting ~ as setting the hook while you are *at ease and unaware(s)* enhances their thrills.

[druidathanaric]

Deliberate non-cooperation! Yes, 100%! Purposefully making everything difficult for no reason other than to create chaos.

[southerndove]

This channel has been a God send. Recently discovered my mother is a vulnerable (covert) narcissist. I always knew something wasn’t normal but couldn’t find a “name” for it until recently. Explains so much and so many memories. I’m in the midst of a 3 week silent treatment she’s employed. This channel has been a wealth of information. Thank you!

[enjoynature]

Why are there so many narcissists that there are literally thousands of youtube channels on it! This sucks! These people do so much damage to the innocent and pure at heart. So sad.

[tbunnyshy]

They provoke a reaction by saying something they know will upset you, then use your reactions against you. “Gotcha”. My mother will stare right at me, looking to see if her game worked. 👀 They gaslight (hide or move your belongings and say they never saw them). They shame and embarrass you in front of others.

Practicing zen, removing my ego with no need to “win” is key. We certainly do not want to satisfy their sick need for “power”. Getting “caught off guard” is my weak point. Be prepared and steer clear of the daily “set ups”. If we fall, we simply “begin again”. Thank you Dr. C. 😊

[pennylynch]

I'm not qualified Doc, but i've got another word 4 this and thats BULLYING!

[johnnynephrite]

One thing they do which Dr Carter eluded to is consistently reject your accomplishments as not good enough. They are never impressed with anything you do. Its a form of gaslighting. You are proud of what you've done, but they're telling you that your emotion of pride is invalid.

[aaronkwolfe]

Baited by outrageous accusations. Also by appeals to my morality, good nature, and/or character. It took awhile, but ended up with a simple shrug when baited. I learned (over time) that appeals were merely precursors to arguments and blame.

[doctorstreamspunk]

The only way to win the narcissist's playground games is simply not to play. Detatch. Ignore. Ghost. Because a happy fulfilling life is the best revenge.

[BLessed]

Literally just experienced all of this over text message last night . The Aggravation, the gaslighting, the criticism, the put downs . Can’t wait to be done with this clown forever

[maddie]

The narcissistic non-apology that I've noticed is a go-to for many is the "I'm sorry that YOU ____". Maybe they're "sorry" that you're so sensitive, or "sorry" that you got upset. As long as they're not sorry for their own actions, and can project the blame onto the person they hurt.

[michelleharkness]

For the record ~ please everyone apply techniques of caution in all dealings with all people: stay safe