Codependency - Red Flags (Rushed Intimacy)

Feeling rushed or pressured into intimacy at the early stages of a relationship are a BIG RED FLAG for codependency. Nearly every committed, intimate relationship requires at least 6 months to 1 year to build trust and emotional connection. Building trust takes time!

Codependent relationships are often initiated within a matter of days or weeks, where intimacy and physical connection are prioritized above trust and long-term planning.
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[ktbiwk]

Narcissistic individuals do this too, and codependents happily comply, then get taken advantage of.

[babaganouche]

I've recently learned that I have bad codependency habits. This describes me exactly. Pushing for intimacy and pushing for more in the relationship.

I never even realized how much I was not only hurting those I love, but destroying my relationships.

[BamBam-unpz]

Also, they give you a house key in the first week of knowing them. They also introduce you to their kids in less than 2 weeks...

[loli]

I'm still standing, even better than, I was before...
Thank you YHWH! ❤

[sarahjmount]

Very true. Thank you, Tim. It’s like the old joke…”What does an alcoholic bring to a first date?
A U-Haul…. Lol. That could be said about co-dependents but it probably wouldn’t be as funny.

[mariafemarquezdeguia]

Very true, Sir! I totally agree based on my experience. One has to be really smart & cautious when dealing w/ a Narc.

[jameswood]

Yeah all my long term relationships were established within a week. My husband of 15 years spent the first 7 days with me and since then we’ve never spent longer than a week apart and that was only once.

[herbylovebug]

I didn’t ask. He told me all the stuff the day we met. That seems to happen with lots of people I meet. They tell me very personal things and are completely open about feelings.

[lilianflynn]

I've learnt so much
My poor son married a Narccisist woman
Status seeking
Lovebomb
Hoover
Flying monkeys

Then all over
He couldn't hack it
He walks out
Best thing to do!

[gabrielcadena]

It doesn't make sense: I really like what this man talks about, but where in human biology does it stipulate that what one feels must be controlled over a period of a year or more if it is not healthy?
In what part of human biology is the natural development of healthy relationships recognized?

[Simba______]

Mrs. Krabappel, “Well, I'm a smart woman, but I make bad choices. Okay. Here's a set of house keys and my A.T.M. card.”

[smokingcrab]

Wow this was my wife when we first started dating. And now she's saying I'm the codependent one.

[manyBlessingsall]

Oh blimey. Thank you for more very helpful info, & teaching the 'healthy versions' too

[kelza]

As an autistic woman, I find that this could be very inaccurate if you’re referring to a neurodiverse individual. We can be very inquisitive but not for the reason of wanting to dominate or control or coerce. And we’re also very trusting and will fall head over heels in love if it’s the right person. I married my right person and we are very much in love and in sync. He accepted me for what and who I was, And that was huge given I do have issues like Sensory hypersensitivity and I need certain things to be a certain way, and change is something I need to adapt to, but he thought I was worth it. This guy, dunno who he is, but I know he doesn’t appreciate neurodiverse people because a lot of us are intense as he is describing but with no malice or desire for a sickly level of codependency. It’s just who we are. And we’re increasing in number so careful what advice you listen to.

[dukeduke]

Everyone is codependent on everyone. Therapists rarely fall in love🤪😍💯🤪

[tanyacarlyle]

Do you have a video on the steps for a healthy relationship?

[bluespirit]

How to navigate if after 2 -3 years they don’t want to open up?

[billyb]

You might want to change that thumbnail lol

[karencarney]

This may be true, but I also know I don't have all this time and energy to find out ultimately you're a closed up, closed minded judgemental person.
Capacity to be open is very attractive. Couple this, with a life of moving every year, going to 3 diff middle schools and 4 diff high schools. Moving every 1-2 years in young adulthood and still having no stability or support. Sprinkle in single parenthood & little fam support..and this recipe simply means
"I ain't got TIME for all that!"

[Ed-ofjo]

I guess I shouldn’t have ignored them and only talk to them when we’re INTIMATE 😏 😮👍🫡