THE NARCISSIST'S MONSTER

#narcissist #narcissisticabuse Who is the narcissist talking to when they seem to be responding to things you didn't say or when they are angry with you over things never happened? The narcissist lives with a vicious inner voice that they project onto the world around them. It's important to understand this in order to understand why their anger is not your fault.

Here is contact information for when immediate help with abuse or self harm is needed. It is recommended that you use a computer or phone that your abuser cannot monitor:

Emergency: 911
National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone]
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
National Hopeline Network: 1-800-SUICIDE (800-784-2433)
Crisis Text Line: Text "DESERVE" TO 741-741
Self-Harm Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)
YWCA - 202-467-0801
Canadian Assaulted Women's Helpline: 1-866-863-0511
UK National Domestic Abuse Hotline: [phone]
South Africa POWA: 011 642 434/6
Australia: 1-800-RESPECT

[frankdigiovanni]

They “choose” to act the way they do!!…. End of story

[DaRyteJuan]

And you BETTER not leave THEIR favorite spatula dirty and leave the house.

They will sit there on the sofa ALL DAY LONG waiting for you to come home so they can tell that was another one of the Golden Rules you should have known about.

[tashmatazz]

"They are trying to get you to accept blame for their emotional problems." So well put!

[stefaniedodge]

This channel is bar none the best one on this subject. She’s straight to the point, easy to understand, not overly wordy and spot on every time.

[danovangrinnell]

Those voices are demons Dealth with one for 14yrs surely that was a ride

[pattycorbitt]

“They choose not to grow” perfect statement.

[watchmeheal]

Per Sam Vaknin- ALL narcissists (male and female) are reliving their childhood through their intimate partner. They are hoping to get it right this time and separate from you (their mommy) once and for all-

[coralmccrystal]

This is a fantastic video. You explain these complexities so clearly,
I thought if I couldn't have a loving relationship with my mother I would settle for understanding her.
I never managed it while she was alive ( and she lived to 92! ) but watching this I finally get it. Thank you.

[chrisgorski]

I was often told, “Your cleaning is not enough. You are trying to make me angry.” When I asked how I would know if my cleaning was enough I was told, “Everybody knows what is good enough!”

It was like her reality was the objective standard and anything that was different was a direct attack on her.

[charlescarpenter]

I recognize these traits in a person who I cannot just throw away. I do not express to this person what I can see in him (based on most of what you are talking about in these videos). I simply have to live in a state of "emotional detachment." Everyone else in this community eventually feels the same way I do toward this person. Only those persons who do not know him sufficiently are impressed by his external behavior. He is careful, supremely careful, to take care of his social image. But as time passes, those who are closer to him quickly discover how we have to walk on eggshells around him because he is continually observing whatever anyone else does that makes him think he is being judged negatively. This is a real trial for me. I mean, just to have to deal with him on a daily basis. I feel so relaxed when I know he is out of town. When he is present, it appears that everything I do is being judged by him. (You may have already dealt with the topic of the judgmental character of the narcissist. His whole life is an ongoing judgment.)

[carmenbrown]

I feel pity for them for one second sometimes because they are pitiful. After that one second, I do not feel sorry for them at all. How can you feel sorry for someone who treats you so horrendously.

[gregorynicholls]

I like your content, your angle, your perspective, slightly different to the rest. It's those little important things I would hear nowhere else . Thank you for your knowledgeable perspective. Helps a lot.

[hissyfitz]

I agree with the voice inside the narcissist. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[bradmcewen]

I felt like I had to comment again on the accuracy of all the little nuances. This is a video folks early into discovery should listen to twice, three times....Like using the wrong dish soap, to our obviousness, just to piss them off...this one example multiplied by every day, perhaps hour, spent with them is why no one can sustain this behavior. When you add the personal constant jabs, even though your company is always in their demand, is cognitive dissonances fog of coercive control. Quite early the N people know what works without any regard what so ever for you or sustained supply. A boredom, complacency when the goal of control is met. Anyone feeling guilty leaving a mentally perverted person must understand they would come to your funeral, with new supply and performative mourn they knew this was going to happen....".its too bad...such a troubled soul they were. " I know this without a doubt. This video was a effort that does not go unnoticed. Incredible accuracy.

[ab-khhm]

This video is the best ever explanation of this terrible thing.
Thank you so much for it.💗

[motorola]

Not only did my wife rage out on me over dish soap. She also did it over the wrong kind of paper towel and the wrong kind of trash bags

[damanodrama]

I raged when I allowed him to poison me. After NO CONTACT I started to go back to my senses and stopped raging completely.
Raging helped me understand them though and my mom rages when I was a child as well.
I felt what they felt
It is horrible
I am grateful not to be sick like that anymore
Once you know, you go

[BBC.]

The dish soap response is like the wire hanger on mommie dearest Narcissist

[Kizz_iz]

You are incredible. Everything that you are saying is so spot on and is the experience that me and my children have with the soon to be ex husband of 19 years. I am grey rocking the narc because we have children together and unfortunately, since he no longer has me to project on, my middle child is catching all of it and it's so very hard to watch. My oldest has established healthy boundaries so she is doing better. And, my youngest is too young to really know what's going on right now. Your content is so enlightening and truly gets to the core of what's going on. Love and Light my sister 💯

[stylist]

I have experienced him fighting with someone not me, but punishing me, and asked who are you talking to? Are you talking to me? All lies craziness