Why You Avoid Healthy Boundaries #shorts #emotionalintelligence #mentalwealth

Unhealthy boundaries often stem from childhood experiences.

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[cindyriehm]

I agree... until recently i wondered what's a boundary!

[fingerprint]

I had friends whose parents were so devoted in every way that when they died they were so devastated they could hardly function. So it seems to be tragic both ways.

[iw]

Finally have a voice and a choice😮😅❤ thanks

[katherinebryden-wolke]

You know my parents always considered that squabbling among siblings however I think they needed to support us in terms of boundaries

[heathenbreathinfire]

Exactly!!...at one point, my parents even tried to leave me for dead (literally, in the woods 30 miles from home as a teen with no food or water) and pretend they "forgot I was with them" in order to kill me without getting their hands dirty...

[helenarichert]

I hid in my books and became a people pleaser, between bullying for so many yrs and my dad had so much anger and as the older sister i was always feeling like i had to be the support and have to put others neess and wants ahead of my own, never feel like i am good enough for my friends, always the one to keep relationships and friensships going, that i was the last resort because no one better was available even from my aints and uncles, once i became a certain age they stopped connecting and moved on to my younger cousins, unless they needed me to babysit for them for free of course, my fathers parenrs didnt care for me because i was a girl ans not a boy, my moms parents helped raise me until they moved away ans i was alone agin

[danielkoher]

Also, you have to remember what’s in the past, is in the past.
You deal with it and move on or your heart and soul die.

[danielkoher]

Every decade another psych guru comes along with a term allowing themselves to be more uncaring.
This is one of the most useless yet, ones besides the the mid~90s codependent.
While everyone was ate up on Prozac.
Didn’t matter how many people you hurt, just as long as you no longer saw yourself as the victim.
I had a friend who should have remained an ex friend.
Began telling ‘me’ how I had crossed ‘boundaries’ not respecting his.
Then had the unmitigated gall to ask me, ”why didn’t you call to tell me when a (mutual friend) had been killed.”
Oh, probably because when I needed help dealing with the DEATH?
I was told they didn’t have enough time.
Time is something none of us get back.
I had quite enough of the self pity party now ‘relevant to yourself crisis’.
Mind you this is a state licensed trained professional.
Dispensing psychological advice.
It didn’t take long to be cut off and blocked.
That’s a ‘boundary’?
No!
That’s self worth ignorance under the guise of ignorance.
Don’t worry 😉 some other theory of being allowed to be uncaring, non humane theory is on it’s way.
Another psych drug, another arrogant practice to write off people who have genuinely loved, cared, and been there in your time of need.

[longlildoggiegarden]

I finally set up a boundary and got the cops called on me.

[TheRaiderman]

When women put on a show in public that would be best left on OF, society is broken.

[OneLovefromOregon]

Its because I have CPTSD from a codependent mother and an alcoholic step father. Im pretty much a maniac.

[janettekreulen]

If you don't do what the parents want you have no life, asian people know still these days spanking with a slipper 🥿 you must be polite to them. That is not wrong but nowhere days
People are rude and have no skills to be well raised. It's not how you learn to listen but that you don't have a good upbringing