7 Boundaries You Need To Set in Your Life

Boundaries are about much more than just learning to say no to others. We also need to have healthy boundaries within ourselves. Here I talk about 7 different boundaries you need to set in your life for your health, happiness and sanity.
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[Skilledddgirliee]

Man you changed my life, your vedios have changed my personality 360 in just a month. I learnt things that my mom never taught me, I'm 16 and my life has gotten so better. I have become confident and got rid of overthinking because of you.
Thank you so much Julia💖💖

[Marmarushka]

1. 2:58 To not engage in unhelpful conversations - intentional non engagement

2. 5:33 You don’t need to argue with people on the internet

3. 7:20 Turn notifications off/leave devices in another room

4. 9:44 space to prioritize health

5. 13:47 Do not make offers that you secretly want to be declined- it’s actually lying

6. 16:49 don't agree to things you don't want to do. Thanks @FIRE QUEEN

7. 19:00 Take a step back to cool down before you respond when you are triggered

Couldn’t find seven but thank you 🙏 I’ve been learning some of these unwittingly this year! Thank goodness 😅

[nineangels]

I can't offer friends or family "visits or vacations at my home" they are quite upset. Yet they never invite me out or to their homes. My health is not good right now. I just beat cancer, have immune compromised issues and don't have the energy for company right now, much less the energy for in person long conversations. Definitely no overnight visitors. I said no & stuck to it. I doubt if they will ever ask again, but I had to protect my energy & health. I had to put myself first, for the first time.

[TammyJFox]

"Don't offer things that you really don't want to do." The feeling when the person says yes is dread and resentment afterwards. Thanks Julia for the reminder. I just had to laugh at myself on this one.

[kholt]

I have a family member I have stopped engaging with. Every exchange is like a snake bite response from them. I’ve tried using positive tone of voice, positive words, and sincere interest. No good. I get no eye contact, one word responses, or snarky responses. Forty years of this roller coaster is enough. Finally feeling control over my responses and the impact of this person in my life. It helps that my husband sees it and supports me.

[autumn_in_myheart]

"Boundaries are where I still love you while loving myself"

[msjaurein]

“Create boundaries around not making offers that you hope will be declined” - WOW. Felt so embarrassed, humbled, & seen altogether. Soaking in your words and taking some time for introspection. Grateful for your wisdom!

[lisagarbarini]

My name is Lisa & I am 51 years old. My mother didn’t teach or model anything healthy

I am on my journey to learn & teach my adult children

[standpoint]

To be able listen to your talks is one of the most valuable things I have. Thank u Julia from the bottom of my heart

[GadgetsGearCoffee]

Arguing with people on the internet - or gaming (which can be quite toxic) - and not engaging is something I recently stopped doing and it feels great. Even sometimes if I write something and then I get a notification they replied, I don't even look at it and I just set it to not show me notifications for that post. What a win. If someone gives you something and you don't accept it, who is left with it? What bothers them even more is being ignored and not having a voice. That's the strength.

[TattedTrad.]

I just lost a friend of 16 years because a lack of boundaries never being set. And currently I’m a fight with a friend now and was wondering about the boundaries I want to set. Thank you. Very relevant

[larikajones]

"Do not make offers you hope will be declined" That's a whole word right there ... preach, sis, preach! 👏 👏👏

[a.pieceofpie]

Hi, hello. I am a former people pleaser. Learning and growing. Boundaries and Reciprocity have been my theme words since 2020! I am glad to be here. 👋🏽👋🏽

[cathygoltsoff]

Yes ! I need to set boundaries. I need healthy boundaries.

[lindslou]

"Sometimes we win &
sometimes we... learn" What a wise overcoming attitude! Love it & your videos! Thank you all your help, insight, & wisdom! You are a treasure, Julia Kristina!

[Ewima]

"Do not make offers that you secretly hope to be declined" Wow this blew my mind 🤯. I constantly doing this especially at work because I want and hope people accept me and like me more because of this. Thank you for letting me realize this one, simple thing that actually makes me unhappy and tired ❤

[doodelay]

I've learned not to engage with closeminded people, as soon as I realize nothing will change your mind then I lose all interest in the conversation and openly cut the line and draw to a close. Things are so much better this way.

[sarinalight]

Through my Life especially in the last 4 months hearing
“We all have to do things we don’t want. to do in our life”
or
“You need to Grow Up”
I’m doing better today bc I know my past isn’t My Present. I’m so grateful to see how you Help so many make their Life Better🤗

[nicoleonfeels]

I was just thinking last night that enough is enough and currently creating a plan of action - super relevant.

[beginningscholar]

Hey everyone my name is Santos. So glad i found this community. In the last year i found out i am super codependent highy empathetic and married to a soul crushing highly narcissistic serial cheater. Yeah. So thats fun. This one of the only places i have been able to start getting myself together and. Start to heal