Stop Being Emotionally Unavailable & Heal | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

In this video, I’m going to talk about How to Stop Being Emotionally Unavailable in 9 Steps & Heal Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

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0:00 Introduction
0:59 KNOW YOURSELF
1:14 END EMOTIONAL SUPRESSION
3:15 WORKING THROUGH FEELINGS BY NOTICING THEM
3:47 ENDING SELF SHAMING
5:26 PRACTICING VULNERABILITY
5:59 BECOMING MORE GENEROUS
8:09 COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS TO OTHERS IN A HEALTHY WAY
9:17 HAVING PROPER SELF-CARE
10:03 MEETING YOUR NEEDS IN A HEALTHY WAY

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[sandyl]

1. Know yourself/getting to know oneself  
2. End emotional suppression  
3. Learning to work through feelings by noticing them 
4. End self shaming 
5. Practicing vulnerability 
6. Becoming more generous (vs. survival mode)
7. Being able to communicate your needs to others in a healthy way 
8. Proper self care  
9. Meeting your needs in a healthy way

We got this, folks with an avoidant side/DAs! :)

[Sirenamia]

I feel like the only emotions I can feel are those related to anxiety, anger or sadness because they overpower me. Is hard to even enjoy things because even excitement is suppressed. I only realized that recently and I'm trying to work on it.

[archivist_of_dragonstone]

I'm an AP married to a DA and let me tell you, I would LOVE it if he would dump all his emotions on me. I would rather have a flood of emotions over the silence and stonewalling. If we're talking then we can work on things, so let's talk it out. DAs, you're not too much for other people to handle. Give us some credit! We love you, and we want to support you! Bring it on!

[fbmbassist]

I’ve definitely been feeling more generous as I’ve been healing my DA wounds, and trusting in my ability to express vulnerably and ask for needs/boundaries.

[sandyl]

Thais Gibson sharing her knowledge is going to be the reason many couples on this planet last that otherwise wouldn't have had the skills to. And the reason that more people on this earth love themselves/ learn to compassionately stop abandoning themselves. We are so lucky

[mosabmahmod]

We are lucky to have you in our life Thais ❤

[rudinaalbania]

Survival mode... So meaningful and true for most single men out there unfortunately :(

[RenaeJGray]

Exactly!! I do tend to take emotional expression as emotional dumping and not being aware of others boundaries and they feel because this is what people do to me!! I’ve Carried so many peoples burdens from people. I don’t like to do it in return.

[arankapasanka]

This was super helpful information for me, Thais. Thank you so much. I feel like I had an anxious preoccupied attachment style most of my life, and then five years ago I started my healing journey and somehow nowadays I feel more like a dismissive avoidant... so I’m really working on all those steps you mentioned and it’s really been baby steps for me... Today I am writing this comment and it feels like I am taking one little step towards sharing my emotions and becoming more vulnerable...Again, THANK YOU🙏🏼🌷

[freeinquiry]

Love what you said about how reparenting ourselves helps us get out of survival mode. Seems self compassion would fit with that. Have you heard of Kristen Neff? Thanks for sharing healing across our little planet. 💓🌎💓

[roshalllambert]

Absolutely love the list! It was very accurate

[erxfav]

I really hope this helps DAs and FAs leaning DA…

[gogohappygirl]

I would like to see a fearful avoidant version of this video, as well.

[pawnyvideos]

My bf has shut me down. I'm an FA. I don't know if I should pursue him or wait for him. I'm done doing the work. I'm at the edge. I feel like he's doing bare minimum to make things work with me.

[Pielobyte]

1) get to know your needs and desires
2) fully experience emotions, end emotional suppression
3) work through feelings by noticing them
4) ending self shaming replacing it with curiosity, and empowerment via changed behavior/thinking patterns

5) practicing vulnerability
6) becoming more generous
->shared emotional vulnerability
->ending scarcity mindset via abundant action
8)

[IanRoyball]

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[kkane]

Thais this is great content. Thank you & your amazing team !

[kashbar]

So I have this weird thing I do where I’m so anxious and preoccupied but then when my partner does something that hurts my feelings I tend to ignore them and rethink being with that person. Even if it’s something really little…

So am I anxious preoccupied or am I avoidant?

[DV-vnrj]

Loved this and loved all your courses. I really wish I would have found you earlier. This is really helpful for me and my relationships.

[Theodoric]

Thank you Thais Gibson, you are so awesome ❣️