6 Reasons Why Someone Is Emotionally Distant

Do you know someone who always seems emotionally closed off? Do your conversations seem repetitive and barely scratch the surface? They might be emotionally distant. Oftentimes, when someone close to us grows emotionally distant, it’s easy for us to blame ourselves and believe that we did something wrong to cause it. But the truth is, there are so many reasons that someone could be emotionally distant that might not be because of you. In this video, we will be talking about why people can be emotionally distant to help you understand them better so that we don't take things personally.

Writer: Ria Parikh
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[Psychgo]

Do you know someone who’s becoming distant lately?

[BSam]

I was raised in a home where we weren’t allowed to talk about feelings at all, that definitely had a profound impact on me. I am very emotionally distant, if I have a problem, the only way I know how to deal with it is alone, no-one has ever been there & so, that’s how I’ve always been. The only times I’ve let my guard down & trusted third parties, I’ve lived to regret it & so, I think my way is better.

[naomiong]

The main points
1. They might have depression or other mental disorder
2. They feel stressed
3. They have fear of emotional intimacy
4. They have past trauma
5. They don't have enough 'me time'
6. They don't feel comfortable

[deepikachandra]

ok, but can we just give an award for cutest animations ever 💜

[drinasun]

I know how it feels to be too nice for your own good. Your needs go ignored. You start to resent the people you're nice to. You expect others to reciprocate your niceness in a certain way. You crave validation from others. You fear conflict. The moment you stand up for yourself and say no, it is seen as rude. Overly nice people tend to attract those who are looking to take advantage of their good nature and use it against them. Although I treated my classmates kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me. They went from asking me if they could borrow my pencils, to asking me if they could copy my homework. I started to resent the kids I was kind to, and I found myself craving validation from my classmates. Sometimes the niceness that we show to others gets to the point where they start using our good nature against us.

[PhoenixtheII]

Because, when I'm telling how I really feel, people abandon you.

[owo]

I yearn for true friendships/relationships but whenever someone gets too close, I feel so uncomfortable and disgusted that I wound up pushing them away and then pulling them back the second they're too far from me.

Am I the only one who feels like this?

[MeemahSN]

Everyone Who isn’t part of my family but I know irl needs to see this. I’m sick and tired of them always thinking I’m being rude to others just because I don’t want to talk about every inch of my emotions and personal life.

[kayy]

What is your uploading schedule?

Psych2Go: Y E S

[gothicc]

I learn more here than I ever did in psychology class when I was in high school

[dreib]

Shoutout to my special friend who is emotionally distant, know that I understand you and I am here for you, dont believe your negative thoughts, its lying, I know its hard for you to trust anyone because of your emotional trauma/pain, time will prove to you that I am here, no matter what. These are just words for now but I will do everything that I can to put these words into action. I understand if you dont want to talk rn, take your time, I hope you are healing. 🙂🙏💞

[anhphuongquynhtran]

Ugh, I don't know what is happening.
When I'm on my own, I feel lonely and need someone to talk to.
But when someone get close to me, I feel uncomfortable and push them away
:(

[kayy]

1. They might have depression or another mental health disorder 0:59
2. They feel stressed 1:44
3. They have fear of emotional intimacy 2:18
4. They have past trauma 3:06
5. They don't have enough 'me time' 3:39
6. They don't feel comfortable 4:12

[MrJoon]

Sometimes you just need to withdraw, recollect, and breathe to regain perspective and be able to feel again.

[acdbrn]

I get all of this, but as someone with mental health issues and working on it. I feel like we need to do our best to be responsible for telling people we are taking space for ourselves. Because ultimately not letting them know means they feel awful and that’s not fair. Took me a while to get to this stage, but I inform people about needing space (the people who I know would feel it the most).

[alyserollins]

I don't tell people how I feel about certain things and open up because especially to some people I don't know, that's ammo they can chuck at me for manipulation.

[anweshamukherjee]

Thankyou Psych2go to help me learn more about psychology.

[woundedbutterfly]

Im distant because i dont want anyone to hurt me so i dont let people come close anymore cause if i do they hurt me

[meirann]

I really like the color palette and the animation! Great job! c:

[andatub]

Of all the points here, it is just because emotionally distant person usually only have chemistry to very few people. Its not so complicated.