7 Signs You're Emotionally Unavailable (Detached)

Do you find yourself closed off to others and can actively avoid them or any situation that will invoke an emotional response? Emotional detachment refers to one’s inability to connect with another emotionally or avoid doing so. With that, here are some of the most common signs.

Disclaimer: This video is for informative purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or treat any condition. Please reach out to a qualified mental health professional if you are struggling.

Writer: Sid Thompson
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:

[anis]

It’s harder when you’re emotionally detached but at the same an empath… it messes with your brain and feelings.

[datboi]

1. numb all the time 0:39
2. avoid other's emotions 1:10
3. non-committal 1:36
4. isolation 2:03
5. it's hard to express yourself 2:28
6. you have another mental health condition 2:51
7. avoidance 3:18
I hope I could help!

[Nobody-yswv]

I relate to all of the signs that were listed. I’ve been dealing with this for the past couple of years but at this point I’ve learned to fake reactions and emotions when needed. Emotional detachment has caused me to lose friends and I don’t feel anything towards others to form new relationships. I’ve talked to my mom about getting a therapists to help me with this but she doesn’t believe this is what is what I’m dealing with. I have ADHD and take meds but even when I’m not on them I still struggle with this. These videos really do help me understand the sign and are honestly posted when I need them most. I hope there is hope for my future. Remember if you are struggling please reach out to a loved one or a professional. There is always someone out there that wants to help.

[evanseptya]

I sometimes feel emotionally numb when I'm talking or hanging out with my friends, but since I hate awkward situations, I just express faces and words that I feel like it's right or based on my experience and knowledge. There's no real emotions that I express and I feel fake

[AHLiVEEYAHH]

I used to be involved with a guy who showed all the signs of emotional detachment and I tried everything to try and show him he could trust me and I tried so hard to understand him. He constantly disappeared and it made me question whether there was actually something wrong with ME. It brought me to a point where I had had enough and I knew I had to just let it go. After that experience, I became more self-aware. But I noticed I was becoming emotionally detached to every guy after him. I’m working on it because I hate to hurt other people the way I’ve been hurt.

A lot of people don’t realize their actions can cause a domino effect.

[OnlineLifeGuide]

As an empath you have the tendency to be emotionally invested in other people, but at the same time, the painful experiences of your past hold you back from getting too invested and care too much about people, lest you get hurt or disappointed again...

[mckamy]

Sometimes feeling nothing is so much worse than feeling sadness, or feeling so overwhelmed that you can't bring yourself to care anymore about things you should care about - for anyone going through that I hope you know it will pass and you can get through it

[highliving-animatedvideos]

*7 signs you are emotionally unavailable (detached)*
0:39 - You feel numb all the time
1:09 - You avoid other people’s emotions
1:36 - You are non-committal
2:03 - You isolate yourself
2:28 - You find it hard to express yourself to others
2:51 - You have another mental health condition
3:17 - You avoid situations

❤️🚀🌙

[ives]

Interesting Fact: Detachment doesn't mean not caring; it's taking care of yourself first and letting others take responsibility for their actions without trying to save or punish them.

[sidharthballavmohanty]

Can't say if i am emotionally detached or not but i am in "Nothing in particular interests me anymore"....

[kirkchristopher]

I can relate to all of these signs. I have been in this state for several years and do not have the strength to change on my own. I ghosted my friends years ago and mostly have acquaintances. I do care about people but I can't bring myself to get close anymore.

[SusieRocks]

I was nervous to watch this but turns out I am NOT emotionally detached. I have issues, but being emotionally detached isn't one of them lol. Now, I just have to figure out what my issues are. Wish me luck 🤞, and good luck to everyone out there💗

[victoriabutler]

I relate to them all. I do well without people and their opinions. When I'm by myself, I am most happiest.

[thecatsbackyard]

Now this is relatable. Sometimes it just feels right to keep to yourself until you're so lonely that your mental state begins to decline rapidly. Then you finally go say hay to your Mom or grandma or something. That provides enough charge to keep you going for another few weeks of keeping mostly to yourself. I know many can relate but we learn too late the importance of developing social attributes and the essential emotions involved. These are sad times we live in.

[lonewolfnergiganos]

I can mostly relate to number one, I always look blankly at people when I talk to them.

[robinsantos]

I feel emotionally detached to every single one of the relationships I have around me. I think it stems from how I grew up; in my family we don't talk about our emotions at all, we just toss it aside. I feel like I didn't even grow up with attachments towards my parents either. I don't get that safe feeling that you're supposed to get when you're around your family. Growing up, I met a girl and we later dated for around 3 years. However, when it didn't work out, that's when I noticed I just closed my entire self from the world. Now it's really hard for me to navigate through life because I feel completely and utterly alone. There is nowhere for me to turn to, my family is one of my triggers and I have driven away all the friends and family that I have. I don't know what to do.

[sarahgt]

Throughout my life I have tried to help others and to be kind, it becomes exhausting. My last relationship was six years ago. I now keep myself to myself. If anyone starts talking about their problems I get away as quickly as possible and avoid them. I have gotten rid of friends who dragged me down with negative personalities who moan all the time. I'm trying to slowly get back out into society by joining groups with similar interests and hobbies so we have something of interest to talk about rather than them and their issues. I'm so fed up of people always wanting something from me that I avoid people at all cost. I now put me first and yes I do get lonely sometimes but i'm the most content and stable I have ever been.

[brandinelson]

There is such a thing as healthy detachment. Sometimes it’s good to be able to detach from situations on an emotional level. If you’re constantly triggered emotionally by things that make it difficult to make decisions, have conversations. This is where detaching yourself from situations on a “ personal “ level can help.

[thelastdaybreathinginetern]

This channel really knows everything I'm feeling, and going through..

[OnlineLifeGuide]

A lot of us go through emotional detachment because of our past experiences. 💔 We subconsciously learn to close ourselves off and become indifferent because in the past, being vulnerable in front of people your cared for or investing yourself emotionally into someone caused you a great deal of pain.

It's like an emotional defence mechanism on a subconscious level.

While some of this defence mechanism helps balance us out so that we don't become too emotionally dependent or overly sensitive, if left unchecked, it can make us distant from the rich experiences of life.

The key is to try to be more aware and mindful of the subtle workings of your mind and emotions, and see what is serving you well while filtering out what is robbing you of life.

Hope you have a great week ahead! ✨🌼