We made something for everyone that is emotionally unavailable…

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[therealshadykit]

How often do I tell my therapist or my friends "LOGICALLY I KNOW xyz, but in practice I just can't make myself do/feel/react/whatever." This is right on the money for me.

[ri]

This might sound dumb, but last night ive understood that i really hated myself. For not being able to do anything that i tell myself to do (i do, but it doesnt turn out to be the way i want it to be, for example ive been studying for 3 years and been giving tests and have been failing most of them. Ive tried changing my ways, ive tried everything and i still dont get why so many people get high scores so easily)
I really wanna become a pscychatrist, i wanna learn music, acting, voice-acting, singing, story-writing. (All of these goals, ive finally understood what i liked, after i put my pc, my phone, etc aside and actually tried hard to change)
But i still dont understand many things, i was really stressed last night, and seeing this is like a gift, or something.
I really hope i can attend this course, because im living in iran, and as you might know, everything is blocked, youtube, discord, etc. (Vpns barely work)
Wish me luck, if you read this, i know im just a random person out of all the millions of fans you have but..

[kreiden]

I'm speechless I was literally looking up videos on emotional intelligence last night. I wake up this morning and bam there goes Dr. K with another perfectly timed video.

[charmedpipper]

You have helped me and so many others so much. I've learned to love myself and others and even managed to turn my life around for the better. Thank you.

[EllyTaliesinBingle]

I'm getting really good at the awareness part. I'm very bad at regulating them.

I'm good at doing things I don't want to do, in the sense of, "I don't feel like exercising, but I will anyway."

My problem is, I will do all these healthy things until I'm exhausted and need to just take a break, but then I'm just in pain and numb.

[xCCflierx]

I just started trying to identify with my feelings last month after years of dissociation. Really grateful for you covering this.

[kingskand]

This sounds "just in time". I just journaled about my emotional dysregulation from the stresses of this past week. Thank you for being timely.
I've always been so "proud" of being smart/intelligent, but then hate myself for not being able to "handle" life. :(

[CardinalTreehouse]

As someone who was repressing emotions for the better part of 15 years but has recently come out of it, this would have been invaluable. I hope others are able to learn from these videos as I have.

[dcgamer]

This is a phenomenal concepts for a positive use of social media. Crowd-sourcing emotional growth and self improvement in a collaborative way is really innovative and interesting!

[xioxialt]

bruh, i watched a bunch of your videos over the past 2 weeks and you literally made me want to set up an appointment. this is one of the things i was hoping to work on. perfect timing thank you

[Iudicatio]

I am very excited for this Dr. K! I did your coaching program about a year ago and I think it did help me a lot because it was the first time in my life that I had multiple and more stable friends. However I think that emotional dysregulation is still affecting my studies that I have been unable to graduate from severely. I often feel too ashamed to go to class, don't know what to do about it, can't follow directions, can't focus to do homework or study effectively, etc.

[eddiedavisjr]

How do you manage negatively projecting / awefulizing emotions in others when it comes to EQ? For instance I feel like I most often see other people as being more stressed, angry, sad or hopeless than they are. Even when I’m in a great mood or things are going well on my end, I feel like I view others in this way by default and Usually do some sort of mental gymnastics and think about how I would feel if I was them and this can make me act in ways I wouldn’t normally or do extra (whether that’s being more distant, or giving more attention/care, sharing personal stuff, etc). Often times I’ve been wrong about their emotional state and my actions have left people confused, uncomfortable or surprised. I know this is a projection because most my life I struggled with negative emotions but I don’t know what to do about this even knowing it’s just my own mind. It’s caused me to distance myself from others more and more and feel as though I don’t know how to to relate to others. The worst part is if you met me you might not even be able to tell because I’m an overall friendly guy and hide behind witty humor and comedic gestures.
Anything helps. Tyty

[cliolasht]

I needed this like stars aligned. I have alexithymia/autism/executive dysfunction and this was my current theory. I should journal today.

[ruthie_chie]

This video and your other video about you can’t logic your way out of depression… ironically, your the first person to make logical sense about my depression 😅. I do consider myself to be intelligent and logical, I am really tired of my negative emotions and do everything I can to make them go away so I can get some relief from the pain. I’m so tired and sad and I’ve been that way unfairly for longer than I deserve. That I don’t deserve to experience these painful emotions anymore. Not even for one month for one day or for on breath.
I’m trying to process this idea of enjoying almost, feeling these sad emotions will make them fade. But what you’ve said about logic not working in depression, and I’ve been in the depressive state for over half my life I’m sure that’s impacted my brain in some way.
I’ve sorta started journaling in this comment section on accident 🤣

[Scardor]

The title made me think that the thing you made was emotionally unavailable.

[AussieBeef]

Me: Today I'm going to take a short walk outside in the Springtime
Aussie Magpies: So you've chosen death...

[quendelf]

This is so amazing Dr K! You and your team are so inspiring, and you are changing so many peoples lives for the better every day. We can’t thank you enough. Please just keep doing what you’re doing.

I’m excited for this!!!

P.S. I think perhaps another name for this video could help more people get involved. I think this is so valuable for everyone, so probably changing the name of this video would be a good idea. This is some awesome, general EQ stuff that I'm confident everyone can benefit from. Including people who aren't "emotionally unavailable".

[nick]

I'm not sure how you time all of your videos as well as you do, but it always seems that it's right on time for a lot of people, including myself. I just started coaching earlier this week and I'm still in the early stages of self discovery for emotions and ideals, I am PUMPED for this!

[hollowedboi]

I wish these didn’t end so you could still go it yourself after everyone else did.

[jstengren]

Hate that I'm a year too late for this program. Any chance you turned it into a self-paced thing with recordings?