The Charms of Unavailable People

Though one might imagine that it's the available ones who charm us, the curious truth is that very often it's the elusive, not-returning-our-calls ones that really develop a power over us. This is a film that seeks to explain the curious hold that unavailable people have over our psyches.

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Produced in collaboration with:
Zedem Animations

Title animation produced in collaboration with

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[HeRenewsALL]

“You can be addicted to a certain kind of sadness.” -Gotye

[krishnanunni]

" There is a charm about the forbidden that makes it unspeakably irresistible "
- Mark Twain

[saraht]

This was spot on! I just feel sometimes as women we love the illusion of a man instead of who he is.

[edwardseverinsen]

I don't know why this nearly made me cry. It's kind of similar to self-handicapping in social psychology. If you expect to do poorly on a test you might not study, only play video games and not sleep before the test. Why would you do that when you can try your best and still get a decent grade? Because it's easier to protect our ego if we fail and have a ready excuse like not even trying. It's a lot harder if you try your hardest and still fall short of where you think you _need_ to be.

[collapsingspace]

Don't ever attack me like this again....

[wendallparker]

When I became unavailable, I became popular with women. When I made myself available, it was the opposite. Life is hilarious.

[tmc]

That opened my eyes. I do sabotage my relationships. I'm never satisfied with anyone who actually wants me.😕

[taqadus]

Can we take a second to appreciate the quality of animations that match the narrative along the length of this video!!

[John-cqhk]

How profound the statement is "someone that would rather be in control of a sad situation or half out of control in a happy one"

[iwoo]

"a crush on someone at the library, who we never talked to yet think of obsessively, even if it turns out that they have a partner"

*I've never felt so attacked thank you very much*

[nessg]

Usually for me when I find out that they are in a relationship, my brain shuts off and I go the other way. DONT WANNA BE A HOMEWRECKER.😡😡

[onair]

Saying “I love you” to a person, is giving them strength to hurt you at the same time you trust them not too.

[ChrisInvests]

For some reason, many people always want what they can't have 🤔👎

[jodam]

I believe it’s a self protective mechanism. It feels safer to love at a distance. We feel afraid to be truely seen by someone, so we subconsciously choose the unavailable/ avoidant people who we know won’t ever get close enough to truely see us. True intimacy isn’t you seeing into someone else, it is being seen into by another.

[raquelreya]

It’s easier to like someone so much you barely know. Because you see what you want. And everything that unknown we make it up in our head.

[idkthatgurl]

this video came for my neck and threw me across the floor

[tylermerlin]

I've learned to value solitude over the illusion of companionship

[LanaIguana]

Yup, this totally called me out as a self-saboteur. Not even going to deny it.

[DavinaSandhu]

I see this happening around me all the time. The unreachable seems exciting and exotic but truthfully loving someone who is available is the most unique and exotic love situation. I think more people need to hear this.