COVERT Narcissists: Everything you need to know (Part 2/3)

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[charlotteboyett-napper]

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by assholes”—Sigmund Freud

[gianinnimastrangiolisalaza]

Who needs Netflix on lockdown when we’ve got Dr. Ramani providing us with such precious content?

[infinitetundra]

After Emotionally Detaching from my Mother and Sister and disregarding their opinions, I finally beat my 13 Year Battle with Depression. Coincidence? I think not.

[movieman]

I had a parent who constantly told me how great OTHER people's kids were. LOL

[wanderingfree]

Dr. Ramini is on fire. She's a narc slayer! Thank you Dr. Ramini for educating us 💖

[wutztea]

Many of us have had the most horrific childhoods, but we keep looking for the positive, beautiful things about life. Our resilience makes them hate us even more.

[risingeagle]

One thing....”There is no way to manage the Covert Narcissist! I tried for 32 years.”

Best answer, from what I can tell is to “ESCAPE, AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!”. 😫

[merlinhlr]

So, here we have a therapist (who has probably a loooot of stuff to do, especially in times like these) who now posts videos of this length within a few hours.

This is one of the underrated and unnamed heroes, folks. This is one of the underrated and unnamed heroes.

[rachelingrisano]

My mom (covert narc) would NEVER admit that she has treated anyone badly. This is something I have noticed with other covert narcs.

[beabove]

My father has these tendencies, but masks them with a persona of kindness. Yet ANY time I try to share a success with him, he 1) doesn't really ask follow up questions and 2) turns the conversation to himself. He feels that his professional background is similar to mine, so he says things like "well, it was never important to me to publish a book, " or "I never really wanted to speak at conferences." It's subtle but so devaluing. My cousin says her mom (his sister) does the exact same thing.

[kryspinkiedrowski]

I literally cried when someone explained to me after 30 years where did this feeling of constant guilt come from.
Thank you so much.

[nadawg.]

When I told my Mother I was going to build and open my own hair salon she said "well that sounds like a lot of work". I didn't understand her narssism and for the 1st 2 years I would often completely rearrange the salon and it finally dawned on me I was trying to make it perfect so she would walk in one day and tell me how proud she was of me. I was looking so hard for her approval. She never once walked into the salon. Looking back, the week I opened the salon she took a road trip out west and sent me pictures of her trip and never once asked how I was doing. After bringing up my feelings to her it completely backfired with her hostility and now we are no contact. Thank you Dr. Ramani for helping me understand covert narssisits.

[tekishiachambers]

I can see how growing up in this family will leave a person feeling inadequate in all they do.

[TOracle]

My covert narcissistic mom wasn't after money or lazy at work. Her issue was abandonment. She wants her children to depend on her forever. Her primary weapon, is destroying people's self-esteem through insult. Insults that were often delivered by proxy. I've yet to hear anyone talk about something like that.

[angelle]

What makes things really confusing is when you are simultaneously a scapegoat and a golden child because you have good grades and don't get in trouble, but also recognize their toxicity and share that with others, which they perceive as demonizing them.

[pennyparish]

OMG! Three minutes into Dr. Ramani's video, I've had to pause and walk away. She's talking about my covert narcissist mother...OMG...that's my "momster". I'm going to have to listen to this one in small chunks. I am 63 and have been researching and studying for over ten years to find an explanation for answers to my nightmare of a life. I now have my answers and can begin the process of healing and waking up from my nightmare. Thank you, Dr. Ramani and may God Bless you for all you do.

[HyacinthDawn]

I watched this to know more about my mother, but I found even more about myself. I don't want to be this.

[FloralTraphouse]

When you’re in a relationship and feel like you’re walking on eggshells all the time or consistently/constantly asking or wondering “are you okay? Are you upset? What’s wrong?”

[indiramua]

My covert narcissist has a diagnosis of anxiety and depression, but never goes to therapy. Only goes to the psychiatrist takes the pill and never goes back again.

[religiohominilupus]

I feel a bit cynical today so here's a joke:

What's the difference between a narcissist and God?
God knows everything; the narcissist knows everything better.