Over Reading (Social Awkwardness and Childhood Trauma - 6 Tips)

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[chong]

I got into trouble at home for divulging 'family secrets'. Inevitably, it got back to my parent and grandparents. All I wanted was to be paid attention to by the other children. I had no idea that I was saying things that I should not have.

[catharineclendening]

YES! Yes! Yes! Hyper vigilant & over talking & blurting out! Wow - I didn't know!

[moscowcowboy_]

I suffer from over talking, it is incredibly shameful.

[ellieeveritt]

Every time I get home from work, I replay conversations I had, and think everyone probably hates me or will report me for being weird or unprofessional. Then I spend the night thinking I'll get fired. The next shift, I might be really quiet, then people will ask if something is wrong 😅.... There's no in-between for me. There's the blurt out shift and then the shame shift!

[toniacollinske]

Wow, exactly. The blurting. I can see people cringe when I didn't see anything wrong with what I said. One relative was convinced I was on the spectrum but I know I'm not. This, though, this makes sense. Thanks

[msdemeanour]

When your parents always told you: "Nobody likes you & who could love you, " of course you think people hate you.

[CallieCalamari]

Oh my gosh, he hit the nail right on the head.

[Trinket]

Yeah...i do this...i talk about stuff i shouldnt and then regret it. Part of it is because i will not keep secrets anymore...but other people really dont need to hear my crap.

[usernameisunavailable]

I usually either stay quiet and not say much at all, or overshare everything. There is no middle ground lol.

[ThinkForYourself]

When I was 15 I choose a couple of personal mottos that I stole from other famous people. 1. Think for yourself, question authority. 2. Constant vigilance. It's only now, at age 40 and a parent myself I realize how much my parents fucked me up. They are in complete denial.

[wingwmn]

Yes 😓 main thing I’m working on in trauma therapy. It sucks when I do it again.

[SophiesWorld]

I said some thing's that "women shouldnt say" and that are bizzare and im being publicly ridiculed in Ireland, where I am. Its hard, Ive told them I feel suicidal many times and they dont care.

[julietteferrars]

Literally just happened two minutes ago 🙈 The other person also has anxiety and a traumatic past so we both tend to set off each other’s fawn modes.

[deejakes]

I either clam up like a shell or jibber uncontrollably. 😳 Always sure that either way everyone dislikes me and I often note a sense of disrespect from other people because I'm obviously a mess and they know it.

[brianarbenz]

I’ve heard it referred to as a “social hangover.” I’ll think I’m really the life of the get together, with everyone loving everything I say - then the next morning I’ll be just as sure they hated it.

[lc]

I dont overtalk anymore, but i do over-interpret literally everything

[lms]

Yes! Still over share and try to stop myself. I had an incredibly nosy woman ask a ton of inappropriate questions. After answering her for a while, my adult brain took over. I returned the favor and the woman got upset and refused to answer the same questions she'd asked me. Funny that..

[procestujmesvet]

Where can we watch the whole episode? Thanks for the link ❤

[Lollylovestealth]

My job, my friends, i think everyone hate me, even strangers, sometimes just their eyes could give a strange look toward me and i would feel like i just stabbed them with my looks or existance

[qazedc]

as I’m slowly learning to be more comfortable speaking with strangers and new people I find myself being awkward with my boundaries over sharing. I’ll accidentally say something then immediately regret it like why did I even say that. It’s a blurry line between me trying to be more authentically me and express myself versus and also having boundaries… are all people with childhood trauma neurodivergent? I’m still trying to figure out if I’m the way I am due to childhood trauma changing my brain or bc I’m on the spectrum. I know I’m a HSP that’s for sure.