How I overcame crippling social anxiety

social:

00:00 - how I came about this topic
01:50 - My story of social anxiety
07:27 - Things that helped me overcome it

[lanncore]

For me personally, I avoid interacting with others for fear of being judged in any way, whether it is for my looks, how I talk, etc

[rizq]

i wanna cry so bad right now for having social anxiety. i used to be friendly with people but after facing a few past traumas in my life, i become who i am today😭

[sadflamer]

I grew up like you. Loud, obnoxious, and no-filter. Easier to make friends when you were a kid. As I grew older, I started having anxiety then it increased now to adulthood. I became super fit, and super confident but the feeling was always there. I-then slipped into a rut and became unfit. It became so bad to the point where I can't even engage in eye contact with strangers anymore. I really hate the discomfort the anxiety gives me, but I want to try again.

[puritylouloudi]

Everything he said is like a reflection of mine, it’s really hard, I’m still in the anxiety, especially at work…
I hope all of you who have this can try to relax and quiet all those thoughts of worry, and hopefully can regain your social skills! ❤

[sanashaikh]

Books that helped:
1. how to win friends and influence people.
2.The social guidebook
3.13 things mentally strong people don't do.

[Corina-dqmy]

I didn't have social anxiety until after I had been bullied really bad at a couple jobs. This last job, I had been bullied for a year straight. I finally quit, as the situation got more serious. I immediately started applying for jobs, and I realized that I have sustained some damage, because when I was filling out the application in front of the receptionist, I began shaking. My head and neck. Like I had Parkinson's or something. The interview itself went alright, though. But I am seeing a pattern of this, and I am really upset about it. I didn't used to be like this. I will admit, I cried after I got home. I have a lot of sympathy for people who have social anxiety. I need a job ASAP so I don't lose my home. I have a five year old daughter who is counting on me to make good choices. I think that is why I tolerated the bullying for so long. I am watching this video to get some tips on how to maybe calm down. I know that I probably need to speak to a professional.

[DariusBeingReal]

This is the most relatable video I've seen on social anxiety. It's like the final step to me having a fulfilling life and no one around me can seem to relate to how painful it is not be able to speak to people. Thanks for sharing this bro!

[ChristopherBrooks-tm]

Honestly, I can’t believe how many people still don’t know about Social Anxiety Demolition by Malcolm Vaudry. I have no idea why this book is so under the radar, but if you're reading this, please find it—you’ll be thanking me forever.

[Ab-orwi]

this is actually incredible. ive struggled with this a long time and this is the only video ive seen that seems real and genuine and helpful. thanks for posting this

[manuiatmk]

I've gave myself the resolution to overcome my social anxiety this year and I didn't know where to start so I'm really grateful that you've made this video! It strikes me that I can easily relate to your story. Btw, i love your book recommendations and look forward to reading them

[MarkytheCat]

Middle school is when mental problems usually start. I was more outgoing in 5th grade. In 6th grade, I became more shy and nervous. It was the beginning of depression and social anxiety.

[wchristian]

I know it sounds corny but KC is a big inspiration for me, I feel like he’s relatable and his advice is applicable to most of us. Thanks KC!

[l.t.]

Wow by far this is one of the best motivational video for a person suffering from social anxiety. Also thanks for the books man I'd probably needed it.

[elis]

Normally, I don't comment on YouTube videos but this was what I needed to hear. For the last few days, I've been struggling to control myself - the fact that being stressed and not being able to control it made me even more stressed and I broke down completely every night. I have huge exams coming up. Thank you for sharing this experience, even knowing that we are not alone made me feel better.

[lovingvoid]

1. Never criticize or complain
2. Be careful in arguments, completely destroying the other dude makes unnecessary enemies. So control your temper, understand the other person's perspective
3. Awkward convos are normal. It happens sometimes... don't stress over it so much
4. Avoiding an interaction cause of anxiety is only going to make it harder to face the next time the same scenario comes
5. Don't trash yourself for something that didn't go quite right. Take that as a learning point.
6. Don't overthink stuff that you can't control. Go learn Still D.R.E on the piano instead.

The video has a list as well at 13:09

[akashverma]

Social Anxiety is invisible burden you feel every moment and cripple you socially which then harm your career, family relationship, friendship and self growth.

[katewolf]

Holy crap, your story sounds exactly like mine, the part about being very blunt as a kid and telling myself to shut up in middle school. I still haven't gotten out of that mode, but this video gives me hope

[Madchris]

I personally really dislike it when people start borderline interviewing me. "Whats your job", what degree do have, what are your dreams. Like Im trying to figure some of that crap out. It puts annoying pressure on me and makes me not want to talk to those people. So I try to ask people a little more mundane stuff like "what is a fun hobby you have" rather than where do you work lol.

[kattza]

I've had this for over 20 years and I think I can fake my way through things fairly well, but underneath I'm a complete mess. I'm not even sure I hear half of what people are telling me when I talk to them because it takes so much energy to keep it together.

[ktkatty]

Thank you so much! The experience you shared was very relatable, I also used to be a child with no social filter who became quiet too (I am unsure why). It gives me hope that things will gradually change and get better if I reframe my mindset. I know the journey isn’t easy but it’s worth it ❤