Stop Procrastinating: Heal Trauma by Taking ACTION

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It is SO demoralizing when you know that you’re here in this world to do good, but something in you is not letting you do it. Don't let past trauma paralyze your life! Taking action can be the very thing you need to heal. Int his video I'll show you how trauma can amplify procrastination, and I'll teach you steps you can take steps today to change.
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[Fefe]

"imagine if I didn't do the CCF because it was work?"... thats a horrifying thought! Because of YOU I read Bessel Van Der Kolk, and Pete Walker, Started a meetup group to read and talk about CPTSD, which brought others who introduced me to Adult Children of Alcoholics, which brought me to breath work which really helps me with this crazy inner child stuff, which brought me to reading No Bad Parts by Dick Schwartz, which is helping me to learn to calm my triggers and learn to be a adult at 56. Omg YOUR channel and excellent name for this channel is the one that started me healing last year...Notice I haven't said once I am seeing a expensive therapist? 'cuz I cant afford one ! so this channel is a life saver for me and some of your courses much more affordable!

[vickielewallen]

I don't know how she did it, but my mom could pop out of bed at 4:30 or 5, and have her daily tasks done by 9 or so, then enjoy the rest of her day doing hobbies, visiting with her sisters, etc. Even when she worked, washed walls, folded laundry, etc, she did it singing, sipping a coffee, etc. I didn't inherit this from her, i drag around in my slippers for 2 or 3 hours, then still have all my tasks ahead of me, and *the dreading of them makes me tired* before i start.

[PostTraumaticVictory]

I feel so validated and encouraged: I’m not lazy, just traumatized. I can work with that!

[JELLEx]

"don't even label it as stress, label it as doing the things that are part of life. in the end the path of least resistance is to just do the things anyway"

[ninabambinabambina]

I always wondered why I procrastinated. I get overwhelmed emotionally quite easily. I also feel like it won't be good enough. That's childhood wounding right there. Your videos are very inspiring, motivating & relatable.

[axlx]

So excited to listen to this.. sometimes it feels like you’re the only person that truly gets the effect of childhood trauma on adult life. Thank you ❤️

[donteatthedaisies]

"It's not just the thing that you get done, it's the momentum that you build from just doing anything at all."

[ramblingRJ]

I have a 'zero-to-sixty' mentality. I keep putting things off, which feels good at first, but then it starts to nag at me. I get to a point where I suddenly decide it has to be done right now, so I will stop what I'm doing (even if I am in bed at 3am trying to sleep) and start doing laundry or going jogging in the middle of the night. I go from "I don't want to do this now" to "I have to get this done right now." Recently I put off a problem with my bank for the whole day but decided I had to call customer service at 2:30 in the morning. I feel less weird after listening to this video.

[Foundingmother]

My procrastination comes from lack of confidence. Whenever I did something creative in my childhood I rarely got positive acknowledgement. I believe the best thing you can do for anyone is to show that who they’re and what they do matters.
So in that view, thank you for posting this video.

[catherinewholey]

I spent all of Saturday catching up with jobs I hadnt kept up with recently. I paced myself but I got so much done and the best part was I stayed "in the moment" the whole time! No ruminating, no chasing away horrible thoughts-just steady working through my jobs. Unlike how I used to be I didnt rush or need everything to be perfect despite the hurry or give myself an unrealistic list of tasks. I have had a few days like this recently and they are so good for me. My brain loves the break from destructive, repetitve thoughts! Im hoping that with practice my brain will stop engaging in the negative rumination more and more

[uk]

You make videos that are helping transform my life for the better. I'm a 53 year man. Learning childhood PTSD was THE THING I could never figure out. Several therapists over those decades never helped. Made me worse in fact. "What the hell is wrong with me?!!!": my primary very destructive self talk for DECADES. Decades lost. But I figured it out!!!! Oh man I figured it out and now have to work on it the rest of my life. SIgh. Whew. Deep breath. Yours and many other YT videos about childhood CTPSD and NPD(how to handle the mean selfish a-holes in my life) and psychology are like a goldmine of knowledge for me. EUREKA! Shame we don't get an owners manual for how to use our minds properly. Small ACTIONS. A little bit every day. New habits. I let myself make mistakes. I got this. Thank you.

[FirehorseG]

My emotional breakdown ended my productivity in my life, health & career. I'm now aware after therapy /realisation of CPTSD. It's been a very long road (I'm 55).
I feel a strong, negative, forcefield around me which paralyses me getting back into work and society. I freeze and do everything to avoid it. I maintain every other aspect of my life, but my career/work life is terrifying. I haven't worked since my breakdown and so I don't know what I'm capable of anymore. I'm not that strong headed, tough, go getter anymore.

[LYRIKALMASTER]

It's a struggle but when you get something done then it is an amazing feeling.

[funkymunky]

There is no defibrillator for a broken heart.

[LittleBird]

I needed this. Tired of procrastinating on my goals and dreams. I’m already 48

[petestevens]

An important topic, like all you cover.

Several things come to mind:

First: A friend pointed out that for some (traumatized) people, a task requiring a single “step” conventionally — for the trauma sufferer — might take a half dozen micro-steps. Not with paying bills, household tasks and other kind of “day-to-day” stuff, but with things that may be a little more involved. Studying for an exam, et cetera.

Second: I strive to keep things as simple as possible, so as not to require a great deal of time and energy. As you mention in your piece, some have been in “fight or flight” since childhood, so additional stressors only exacerbate what can already be escalated and quite difficult (even if quite simple by nature).

Third: For those in 12 Step Recovery, the slogan “(do) the next right thing” can be the Golden Rule. And so it has become for me: “What’s the next right thing”? Dishes? Shower? Bill paying? Rest?

This helps frame things for me. My “life” has been so scattered, with so little continuity, even at age fifty-four, I often
don’t really even know what to do. Crazy.

Fourth: And yes, “... making something from nothing ...” This, too, can be demoralizing, really. I observe how my friends have created and live their lives, and I have been, until recently, “in the weeds”, or going in circles.

It’s a lot, all of it, but you’re helping people change their lives, and, in micro-steps, many of us are doing so.

Perhaps I’ll go cry for a minute before I take my next micro-step.

Thank you, Anna.

— Peter

[orangewater]

"The things you're putting off are the things that would make your life better". I heard that in a Jordan Peterson video and I always remind myself that when I am procrastinating on something.

[tasfiahnabani]

"This is life . I'm alive. This is part of my life"
Such a beautiful way to put It

[morenitascorp]

Luv when people candidly honestly share their path, thank you for the gift.

[meganjohnson]

The work you put in shows and is very appreciated! Thanks!!