C-PTSD AND HEALING THE FREEZE RESPONSE: WHAT IS MY TRAUMA TYPE? (SERIES)

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This video is about the FREEZE Response in C-PTSD (FROM THE TRAUMA TYPES: FIGHT, FLIGHT, FREEZE, FAWN, COLLAPSE/SUBMIT AND ATTACH/CRY OUT FOR HELP).

We explore C-PTSD and the FREEZE Response, using Pete Walker's book "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" and examine why a person may use this response and how it impacts their life and relationships, especially around safety and intimacy needs, and what helps to heal when this is your go-to trauma response.

We also explore what it takes to begin healing your freeze response, if it is a go-to trauma type for you.

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3. IDENTIFYING CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT

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[WinterWarlock]

I'm a freeze type. I'm now at 44 years alone. Just me.

People mistakenly think I'm lonely. No, I'm content. To me "serenity" and "isolation" mean exactly the same thing. If I say either one, I mean both at the exact same time. It's like "six" vs "half a dozen". Same thing. If I'm not alone, I cannot be serene. People are chaos, trauma and stress to me. Isolation is calm, quiet, serenity.

I've starved for serenity all my childhood. And finally I'm alone. YAY!!

I wish I could connect, but without the associated trauma, chaos and re-triggering it causes. Plus, I don't trust anyone but myself, and I don't think I could EVER trust another human being. Humans aren't trustworthy. This has been proven again and again and again.

[FireSilver]

I just recently realized I’ve been stuck in freeze for most of my life.
I was constantly bullied, abused, criticized, humiliated, and deprived growing up.
Thankfully I had a rich imagination and often escaped by fantasizing about being beautiful, strong, but most of all WANTED. Cherished. Valued. But even after years of therapy I still fall into that.
I spend hours a day in fantasy. It’s really taking away from my business and other things I need to attend to. Sigh😢

[michaelivers]

I am the partner to a woman with C-PTSD. Being such, I cannot understate the importance and value gained through understanding her responses and reactions to my kindness, generosity, compassion, and empathy. Your videos, are integral to my awareness and knowledge with respect to how to respond to her reactions to what I thought previously were the simple and commonplace within a relationship. Thank you Dr. Kim. With your advice and the details you provide I know better how to be a very loving, supportive, trustworthy, patient, and consistent partner.

[palmereldritch_]

I'm a freezer. It has made me utterly unable to stick up for myself in the moment, and it has made me utterly averse to confrontation. I am also achievement averse. I wish I'd had the means to fight this decades ago, because now I'm in trouble, and I can't get out.

[sybille]

After a trigger my usual reactions are: becoming really tired & sleeping for many additional hours, than total freeze with videos/ sometimes gaming, than suddenly craving carbs and sugar (whilst usually eating low carb) and than, after a few days, slowly coming out of this state. Oh, and I suddenly watch true crime for hours what I usually never do. It's crazy, I truely hate it. I loose so much time and energy with it. It sets me back on so many levels, career, money, personal. I would really like to just live my life.

[justanotherredheadattheend]

This is my dominant one. If I'm trying to de-escalate somebody and I start to feel like nothing I say will work, I freeze up, trying to strategize if there's a safe next step. If I can't reach a "right thing to say" that I think the other person will find acceptable, I can sit there dissociated and 'loading' for minutes, too scared to make the conversation continue by speaking. While I'm like that, I physically can't force myself to speak.

[christiant.s.f.]

Carl Jung:
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will yule your life and you will call it fate”
This quote speaks to me

Thank you so much. My mother has bpd and npd and my childhoos was full of severe physical violence and psychological control and and I didnt have my healing revelation until two weeks, and im 27! I am listening to your videos daily as an alternative to therapy which I cannot afford to help me with my depression and anxiety issues which has been debilitating for a long time.

You give me so much hope for the future. Thank you from the bottom of my heart again.

[JessAnonymous]

I’m just becoming aware of what this actually is and why I felt so NUMB even when I want to move. It’s as if something deep down was stopping me (immbolization) and I was trying to fix it consciously not realizing that this a deeply rooted trauma response. Now I have to heal this

[codacreator]

I’m stuck in a micro way. I can do what’s expected of me to avoid the humiliation of disappointment in others, but I can’t do anything that I used to enjoy. Not guitar, not books, not woodworking. Try as I might, I just can’t do it. I try and this only leads to greater disappointment in myself and further feelings of failure. I’m afraid of what happens when my job becomes too much…

[knitpurl]

Yes, my mother was completely unsafe. I guess this is why I shut down when she abused and raged at me.

[GrayMattr]

Fear of intimacy is what developed from physical abuse starting out in 2 grade. God is healing me. I’m safe now.

[tessalollar]

I watched other videos about the Freeze response, but this is the video that scared me by how accurate it is, down to my hobbies and being scared to find a decent job.

[AmbersDaintyBush]

I always thought I didn’t have it bad ‘enough’ to have these issues. I’m slowly learning that I do matter, my past does matter, and I deserve to realize I was wronged and even if I can’t fix it, I can grow from it.

[MrRobinThornton]

I've watched a few of these videos and find the use of the word "us" rather than "you" warming and welcoming. It is impossible that the Therapist has all of the issues that are preficed by the word, "us", but it's strategic use is useful. I'll impliment it in my teaching. Thanks.

[Kajpaje]

The best little discussion about a crippling condition where I can't let people in.

[amadahyrose]

I had Guillain Barre Syndrome at age 10. I was literally paralyzed with fear. Now, at 54, I struggle with freeze, with trusting people, with achievement, with being absolutely worn out. Trying to get unstuck and it is work! Thanks, as always, for great content.

[shannonhampton]

I’m finally writing my first book. I’m so glad your video popped up on my feed! I’ve been thinking of this sort of concept after my oldest started high school. Thank you

[moniqueedgecombe]

Thank you Dr Sage. I have just started therapy for complex ptsd and I definitely have the freeze response. I am learning to stay in the moment and respond instead of react. Your videos are extremely helpful, as there is still limited information on this topic.

[netrap]

WOWWWW THANK U JESUS N THANK U MRS.SAGE I needed this SOOOO badly! I been traumatized since 16 from watching my mom my bestie die infront of me from Heart disease n since 19 for 7yrs by being wit a physically abusive n verbally abusive Narcissist I'm free now n been looking to heal everything in me

[sophiejacobs]

This is the best video I've seen on this. I related to so much of this. It helped to make sense of a lot of things I've only become aware of since seeing a therapist after stuggling with this for over 20 years