Attachment Theory: Fearful Avoidant

This video describes characteristics common for those who struggle with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style.

Disclaimer: The information from this video is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All content, including graphics, text, images, and information, in this video, is for general purposes only and does not replace professional guidance or consultation with your own doctor or healthcare professional.

[nniinnaa]

I was so in love with this guy and thought he was so attractive. But on out 3rd date I spent the entire day at his family’s place for thanksgiving day. I knew it was gonna be a bit stressful because I’m rather introverted and meeting 20ish new people at once is always bound to be somewhat stressful. But what I didn’t expect is to be so dramatically changed in my feelings towards my date. After that day I felt extremely disgusted at the thought of him and just wanted to disappear. All the things I used to think were attractive about him (like his eyes, smile and hair) now seemed completely weird and unattractive. He treats me so well and I’ve never met someone who cares so much about me. I feel like something is wrong with me because this always happens to me and I wish someone could explain why I had such a drastic repulsion with no explanation. I am 23 and have still not had a boyfriend ever. I’m tired of running away and breaking up with my dates and I feel like I actually might like this guy. I don’t want to break up with him but also it feels like I lost all attraction to him 😭 why

[iamcellular]

Me except I don’t sleep around, get into abusive relationships, I’m not controlling, or abuse substances … I crave it and I know how to love I’m just more fearful

[iy-oy]

Disconnecting from emotions, blocking feelings and not learning from mistakes is so relatable as an FA. Admitting any emotion is reliving the childhood traumas where our feelings weren't validated as positive or worthy. And so the cycle continues.

[sadie]

Yes. My mother drew a line around herself and her other children. I was not allowed in. I have been on the outside of life looking in ever since.

[Say]

Why am I just hearing of this now? Ive always wondered what was wrong with Ive spent most of my adult years looking for answers I'm 37 now single never married no kids an feel like I've gotten nowhere in life. Hoping this at least brings some clarity to what's been going on.

[sigmasiren]

I'm realizing I have a fearful avoidant attachment style & it definitely stems from childhood neglect & abuse.

[jadespade]

I feel like this was made for a school project

[yosoyroman]

Here trying to learn about my loved one

[minibuns]

I’m FA and only feel like the relationship is real when there is some form of abuse involved.

[jadenjoestar]

I'm fearful avoidant but I've never had any childhood trauma I think... Just really insecure I guess

[unstabledefusion]

I’ve never gotten into a relationship. I’ve had a few chances, but I purposefully avoided it. Although I regret doing that, I would do the exact same thing today, so 🤷

[yumark]

I just learned I am a fearful avoidant pointed out by my therapist and my psychiatrist says I am co-dependent. It starts to make sense why I flip flop of how I feel about people I have relationships with(not romantic). I feel sorry for them having to deal with my BS. I already forgave my parents for 16+ years of abuse and one being absent. Guess I still have to heal….

Yes, I am very fearful of intimacy. I run away soon as my partner shows love or interest in me. I refuse to have relationships after my previous one with a guy who also has attachment issues being fully dependent on my attention or else he will cheat on me or lose interest in me he threatens….

We all need to heal…….

[Dana-kdh]

Thanks! I aprecciate this kind of set op

[Amanita._.Verosa._.]

I am fearful avoidant who uses workaholism as an escape.

[idk-ismyfavouritenumber]

It sucks i hate others but i hate myself more i wanna be alone but dont wanna feel alone.

[Txkken]

Yeah I can’t lie I usually do use alcohol to run from the reality of reality.

[themacocko]

...keep partners close? Shit, im too busy pushing them away

[arthurpimenta]

my ex broke up with me because iam a FA. do you know what should i do to bring her back? we still talking at high school when we met, but she's probaly already seen other people. I'm watching lots os videos, goin on therapy and studing about the theme, but i really wants her back and i really really think i know what to do to be nice with her in the next and new relationship.

[Anomalyof]

I hate how everything in this video described me perfectly :/

[ninjaragingpotatoes]

I just got into a new relationship and i told her if she doesn't hear from me it's not her and i just need time to reflect on stuff... im well aware of my problems... i hate this attachment Style...