The narcissist's game of deflection

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[yukio_saito]

They project their inner drama and chaos onto you. 📽

[beverlystover]

“I’m not yelling!” Which devolved into an argument about decibels. Omg.

[Ozy-terr]

Playing a private detective to prouve gaslighting is so exhausting I give up

[yesiltarla]

I love this statement:

The projections of a narcissist are confessions!

Absolutely 👍

[LibraryBP]

With the narcissist, this is reverse psychology. You think they need counseling and they eventually make YOU feel you need it! Brilliant!

[elipotter]

My ex had a thing about accusing me of being angry. I was only impatient and fed up with how uneccessarily argumentative he was.
I realise later he was deliberately antagonising me all the time - he was the hostile one, not me.

[glove]

You have Saved Me From a Lifetime of Pain. I honestly can not find the words to describe the impact you have had on my life Dr. Ramani. I have watch your videos over and over again... until I could absorb the meaning behind your words and fully process them. I have the chills watching your videos. It feels as though you are speaking Directly to me or you have some sort of psychic power to know exactly what I had gone through with an abusive narcissist that nearly destroyed me. You enabled me to articulate my thoughts, feelings and experiences at the hands of an abusive narcissist that I could not do otherwise. You really are Saving Lives. Thank you will never be enough !!

[flashylittlesteps]

I used to project good intentions into narcissists. Not making that mistake again..

[dianabailey]

Its always opposite day . Accusing me of doing to him what he just did to me.Crazymaking at its finest.
Cant fix that kind of thing. Its a walk away. Deal breaker from hell.

[RuthSelle]

Oh man.... My husband's favorite line is: I never did that, that's not what happened

[nancymcduffee]

You can’t take a joke was his favorite!

[erockfreedom]

Wow, my whole childhood was toxic and characterized by gaslighting, projection, violence. I cant deny how devastating it is to realize that and how my adult relationships make tragic sense

[benitavanaswegen]

Luckily I realise the problem will always be with him.. I left 100%. Total M.I.A. and happily married today with someone else... Nobody has time for these 2 year old adults!

[RobinEdwards-crmj]

Saddest part of this situation is bc of how he treated me for years he lost the ONLY person who would have been there for him no matter what. I was always there for him but NEVER AGAIN!

[ebonybutler]

23 min in - when I found out my partner was cheating I played a recording to him when I had enough of the lies - of him with her in our house, and while it was playing on the car radio, he lost his cool, told me I was crazy, and still denied an affair (despite the clear audio captured) and told me to go pack my bags and leave and said he’d call the police for abuse from me. I’m just realising now that this was a type of emotional abuse stemming from covert narcissism. Wow. The story got far more insane than this, and continues today.

[well_weathered]

The triangulated dynamic thrives in a family with poor communication. Sometimes I MARVEL at how little is expressed when an action is required!

[lynnebucher]

Narcs don't say "I think you are..." They state it in absolute terms of fact.

[Scribemo]

What I’ve learned: don’t point out any of their flaws, because those become forever talking points about YOU! They’re NPCs I tell ya.

[ChatMort]

You are so articulate and I really appreciate the thoroughness of your videos.

[lindalarocco]

“Oh because your life is so bad” I got this daily !! And I never once said my life is so bad yet this is what the narc loved to twist my words to.