Clinging To People You've *OUTGROWN* (Ask A Shrink)

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A clear sign of PERSONAL GROWTH and POSITIVE CHANGE may mean we *OUTGROW* friendships and/or relationships, and leave them behind. This process can be BITTERSWEET, but is a healthy part of personal development. Find out more about this dynamic in today’s video…..I’m a Licensed Therapist and answer your questions on ‘Ask A Shrink’.
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2 areas i was lacking in: looking at this as a bad thing full of guilt rather than a natural thing, and allowing myself to feel the loss/change in relationship

mileswestmoreland
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Unfortunately for them, a lot of people haven't discovered your channel 'yet'. Keep up the good work!

heartburn
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It's even more glaring when you work in the community, and start to partner/collaborate with other organizations. It's like you're on different radio frequencies, especially when you notice people in cliques and herd mentalities/mindsets. You can't relate to them after a while, because you see they've settled for the average, while your mindset is seeing things that the average can't/won't see.

MauriceRivers
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Nothing wrong with staying in touch with friends from school if they are supportive of your growth and have grown as well.

nikitadave
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Your videos (especially on EI) came to me at the most perfect time. This video included. I am right there right now, reevaluating the relationships in my life and where each one stands. My “best friend” of almost 22 years, while I am going through the evolution process, stubbornly sticks behind. I wrote them a letter, am debating on sending it and putting the ball in their court - my phone is always on, rings both ways sort of vibe. If not it would act as both the closure I need and the context I’m willing to share with them, as to the reasons why I am and how I am evolving. Anyway thank you for your entire channel, there’s so many good things I need to hear on it!

MarlinRectory
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Great advice, Brad! Perfect timing for me too, as I need to do a bit of housekeeping on this matter. Thank you!

johnsparling
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This channel is criminally undersubscribed.

waynepolo
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This is so spot on and very true for my parents. Great points.

CCGarland
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I would like to tell you a story. The story of a ship. On this ship was a wheel and an anchor. They became close friend. One day the anchor said to the wheel; "please be my guide", "please take my hand". The anchor said "please guide me to new horizons and lead the way". The wheel replied; "Stop preventing the ship from moving forward." "Stop holding me back", "stop dragging me down", "don't prevent me from moving forward".
It is really up to you to find out: Are you a wheel that discovers new horizons? or are you an anchor that digs in the muck???. Are you the wing that flies and take you higher? Or the weight that sinks you down deeper and deeper? In loving memory of my beautiful Shelby (my guide)

xav
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As a result cutting off some friends I’ve known for a decade

lmusima
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Man your spot on. Glad I found your channel. Certain people walk in the room I feel all the air is being sucked out. Keep up the good work. I'll be subscribing.

garrettcal
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Hello Doctor. Please keep me in your prayer. Family is a burden. My mother never let me workout or anything. Now I am 24 still my body is like of 14 year old. Now I am super weak and having trouble with bringing strength. But having trouble with any work for lack of strength. Also I have suffered a lot from gas lighting

boot
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Brad, thank you so much for all your awesome content! I discovered your channel appx 2 years ago and it has been a great help on my journey to recovery from my narcissistic father and EI mother. At 27, after 5 years of self awareness and therapy, I can say I am free from our generational trauma, on my way to establishing my own identity. You helped me through this process and I can't be more grateful for that! Brad, thank you!

kuboobuk
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We don't talk about this sort of stuff enough! Thank you for posting!

shoopydoopy
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Thank you. Very helpful. Please do more on this topic .

getnetalemu
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Thank you so much, you're putting words on exactly what I'm currently experiencing.

xzjlpkf
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I LOVE this. I grew so much the last couple years and I hope to make some new healthy friends soon.

therapymeditation
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Thank you very much, Brad! You helped me get rid of a fake friend who has been using me for the past 10 years and I just can't stand her any more. She is 40 and she still has the same mentality we had in highschool. She only likes people based on their popularity, beauty, how they dress, while she cannot appreciate real friends. I helped her and gave her my support during the years, but she is more interested in her posh fake friends and she only calls me when she needs something. Thanks to you and after meditating a bit, I decided I have nothing in common with such an immature and superficial person. Her own type can have her.

Your videos are amazing!

irme
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I feel so seen and thankful for this video Brad! I'm sad to outgrow my friend and my therapist, I have them for many years. Like I'm loosing very important people, and it sits on my mom abandoning me when I was 5 in a very abusive fathers family. I know me loosing interest in them comes from my growth and it scares me I can't do nothing to change it, I can't grow closer to them. I move in the opposite direction and it's so new to me. I don't want to abandon them but I don't want them anymore in my life. Your kind spirited video makes me feel a bit better, thanks again 💕

annakortukov
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Brad you are spot on! I felt like you were speaking directly to me. This perfectly describes what’s happened in my life. I’ve drifted away from family members and old friends who I’ve known for a long time. It’s been very difficult letting go because I’ve changed and continue to grow. However, they don’t. I’d love to hear more about this topic!

josephgradojr.