When Do Friendships Expire And How to End Them

Taking some time to take a Patreon conversation over to YouTube. It's easy for us to get stuck in friendships because we may have insecurities or fears that lead us to people pleasing, or we have fear of abandonment. Many things may get us stuck in relationships that may no longer serve us. Like most things in life, friendships can have an expiration date. We may have gotten the nutrients out of our friendship that we need, and it may no longer serve us. But we may get stuck in friendships because we're afraid of what may happen, or how we may appear, if we let them go. This video is all about ending friendships, why friendships end, how to get over an ex friend, how to end a friendship and so much more.

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[ofumsom]

This video is so good I've watched it several times and shared it. Very helpful 👍

[DonMaseven]

"These relationships began when
I wasn't the best version of myself."

BARS.

[maiamaiapapaya]

"Would we be friends if we met now?" is such a helpful question to ask yourself about a friendship that feels like it's expiring.

[Christine_]

It’s the most unwell feeling when you hit that realization that a friendship is over.

[truthmatters]

Friendships end when the respect ends.

[bellegraves]

I have outgrown basically all my friends. It's painful but it is what it is. We grow, we change. Sometimes the unhealed you didn't choose the right people. It's okay to let them go.

[redwoods]

Friendships expire when your friend isn't happy for your successes, when they criticize everything you do, when they talk nonstop about their problems but never listen to yours, when they ask for all the favors and help but never help you out when you need it. When they continually let you down but you would never think of letting them down. Walk away from these "friendships."

[Achilles]

Most "friendships" we cultivate in life are founded on utility or pleasure. We like people for what we can get out of them: inclusion in a social circle, company when lonely, a companion to go out partying with, an interesting conversationalist, a travel buddy, someone we are romantically interested in, etc. Sometimes we are not even consciously aware of these things. But when the utility or the pleasure we get from the other person disappears, or we manage to find it in someone else, then the friendship often breaks down. It's only when we really love the other person's character, i.e. the actual person they are, rather than what we can get out of them, that such friendships can last. But these friendships are very rare. Most people have very few true friends and many people have none.

It helps if you realise that most people you meet in life are never going to be a true friend. They will be a 'temporary' friend: someone you engage with and get enjoyment from for a period of time until you both move on. It may feel a bit sad, but I think it's entirely natural.

[gloriaprice]

2023 will be a very friendless year for me. I have realized there are too many "users", manipulators, and controllers in my life. I am so ready!!!

[annabodot]

I just lost a friend of 50 years. I'd always been the strong one and supported her through every trauma she had. This time around, I needed her. But I may as well have reached out to the air - she wasn't there for me at all. I'm crushed. It really, really hurts.

[DivineCreationsStudio]

A fake friend is the worst. Smile in your face and despise you secretly. But energy never lies.

[ulrikaa]

This was a very interesting topic to listen to. I have 'outgrown' many of my friends but don't want to cut them off because then I have no one left. Please do another video on how to make new friends as an adult.

[stateofzen]

I call those people "Emotional Vampires" They drain you every time you talk to them or have any interactions. I recently had to terminate a friendship because of this.

[cmzekile]

Being excited to see someone is definitely the indication that, that relationship is of good vibes and healthy

[monkeyme]

My old friendship fell apart once I stopped being people pleaser and being a fixer. Sadly, there was no reciprocation or respect. Rather be alone than be in relationships that are draining.

[JazzyJ]

One thing that sucks is the older I get, the more my friends stop making the effort, stop texting me, stop calling, stop asking to hang out, it's always me making the effort and when I give them a chance to initiate contact they never do. I've had more failed friendships than successful ones, some I've ended, some they did, it's about 50/50.

[yesreneau]

Woof. I just had a friendship breakup 2 days ago. Brutal stuff.

[shellyannkoernke]

You are completely right. Sometimes we finally realize our "friendships" are only one-sided. That is when its time to get out.

[jmarie]

As someone who decided to cut ties with a best friend of 8 years, 5 months ago, I really needed this video. It's been really tough without her, but I know I am healthier without the relationship. I still struggle with it, but this video helped to make me feel like I'm not the bad person for breaking off something that was not healthy for me.

[eileen]

A couple of years ago I ended a 40-year friendship because I realized that everytime I saw my friend was because I was the going to visit her in her home. Also, whenever I called her I always felt like I was interrupting something because she was always I the middle of something. So I told her that since she's always busy it would probably make more sense if she initiates the calls so that I would know she actually had the time for a conversation. As it turns out, since I left it up to her to be the one to initiate the calls, I hadn't heard from her in 2 years. Those were the last 2 years of that 40-year friendship. So I just stopped bothering with her altogether because I couldn't believe that in 2 years she couldn't find a few minutes just to have a chat with me. I mean come on... no one is THAT busy!!!