Midweek with Dr. C- Why Can’t The Narcissist See What I See?

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[MonicaMazza-cf]

Narcissists will set you on fire and complain that you're flammable

[sthomas]

Once I completely detached I wondered what in the world I ever saw in him, and now I know - I saw what I wanted to see.

[Mac-pu]

I kept a Journal the last 9 years with My Narcissist, and today that is Great Therapy for me. I look back and see just how confused I was, trying to figure out why he was the way he is. After finding You Dr. C and several others here, it is so clear now. I really loved someone that only existed in my mind and heart. I am free now and working every day to heal.

[rwdchannel]

The love bombing phase in the narcissistic abuse cycle could be called 'The bait phase.'

[elainesmith]

Yes, they do know what they are doing is WRONG. My deceased narcissist husbsnd before he died., confess to our oldest son, that he was so Sorry for mistreating me all those years, 45 yrs to he exact.
But like Dr C., I believe they are just pitiful to watch in their Web of Deciet over the years. These people from my experience die a horiffic death, their Sin does catch up eventually. As a Health Care worker for 20 yrs, his death was like no other I ever experienced on the job. So Glad I am not them!
I'll be me, free, kind, empathic and caring.Thsnks Dr. C. We Live You and Guss!! Happy Hump Day!!!❤

[rebeccacory]

I told my snarc he was like a kid who peed the bed & then threw a temper tantrum & blamed the sheets for being wet 🤣👍 Didn’t really go over too well 🤣🙌 but I’m still glad I mentioned it.

[JackieFerrell-fo]

I really like "what is the goal of this conversation?" Definitely something else I'm adding to my "tool box." Thank-you.

[Hatbox]

I wish my nex could see himself the way I saw him. He had such a sense of entitlement and expected so much, yet had very little to give. He rarely came through when you really needed it.

[BaraSchmidt]

They only see what they want to see which is nearly nil outside of themselves. Those "narc- blinders" they wear are high powered! Stay Healthy!

[TurtleHillTx]

Dr C. My mother is almost 95. Consequently, life has been CRAZY! Yestersay, I came across a video about dementia and the dynamics of their stuff is stolen. If this is the case, she has had dementia in her twenties! I am so confused! All this time Narcissism has fit her to a tee.

[majestic.feminine]

Thanks again, Dr. C. Good session, once again! 😍

[juliecrapsey]

It has been my experience that when I called him a Narcissist of course he denied it. Now he projects his behavior onto me. He really is immature to believe just because he said it makes it my reality.

[sturobertson]

So many positive comments here about Team Healthy
Agreed.
TH and Dr C share stories, skills, tools and positivity that help us all

[LiveforHim]

Liked the question of family dynamics with narcissism. Mom, Dad, sisters. Same story of my family. Grew up knowing Dad was self absorbed and extremely controlling. He picked a lady that was passive. Easily manipulated and controlled. They bickered all the time.
Mom would try to stand her ground. It got worse as they grew older. I Couldn’t stand it.

After listening to Dr. C, I now understand what took place and how it affected all 4 of us kids. 3 girls and 1 brother.
We were a big mixed bag of our parents.
My very younger sis & I left home young. I was very fortunate to marry an unselfish loving peaceful driven man.
I walked into a different world with his family. It was good to know other’s families could be healthy. Gave me hope.
Dad died 9 years ago. I’ve been taking care of our Mom for over the past 2 yrs. It’s been an eye opener to understanding my Mom. A little self consumed but understanding her dependency to others to keep her safe, fed and warm was Jolted when she got sick. She couldn’t stay in her home as it was. No care facility worked at The time. After 2 yrs in our home she’s happy.

Facing our own issues and challenges has been hard but sure feels better to overcome them and be better humans to each other!
Learning how to communicate and handle situations with the major narcissist has been difficult to say the least. After a grief time for the loss of what I thought could be with the relationship was not ever going to happen. It felt like the divorce or death of something personal, a sibling, you growing up with someone doesn’t mean they are capable of loving back at you! That ideal family doesn’t always happen.
I no longer feel like it can be fixed. You can’t fix what doesn’t want it, so fix things for yourself. Let go!
I’ve come to peace with it!

[Aseeyah-vtkl]

When you say let's be honest and straight forward. They say " You won't do it". Projecting their own deficiencies.

[Odetta-cy]

Thank you Dr C for all your videos even though the number one narcissistic person that was in my life passed on in June of this year I still need to tap into your videos. They are so informative and keep my awareness up. When you broke down the narcissist being stupid and mean I so identify with that. The narcissistic ex-boyfriend abandon us he left his son with me. 4 months later he text me through someone else's phone and said I want to see you I miss you so when I told him no way he had the audacity to say oh well I'll go out in the world and continue to be the nice person that I am. Mean and stupid is what he was. May he be rest in peacefully

[Tahoejt]

Dr C, you should wear green more often. It’s your color!

[Dgirl]

My life is so much better since I got away from those who totally disrespected me. It was very hard at first but so worth it!

[malwads]

Honestly a full-blown narcissist will NEVER 👀 what healthy people 👀 & I 💭 that's probably 1 of the most difficult things about dealing with them.These people don't get better unfortunately.... They're the addict that croaks virtually every time, they will live for their extreme addiction to narcissistic supply no matter how badly it ends for them😮‍💨.At least on the plus side we have the option to move forward in a much healthier direction & ultimately learn from it though🕊️❤️‍🩹.

[thirdday]

Satan was the 1st Narcissist 💥 💥 💥
Now, you'll understand in a deeper way why the narcissist has such an evil disposition