Midweek with Dr. C- How Do Narcissists Process Life?

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[Gimmekiss-ixhh]

Thanks you again Dr.c.we always watch wkly. Thanks so much for being there

[HotTamaleez]

“If you want to keep your thoughts to yourself, that would be okay with me.” 😆🔥🔥🔥

[BaraSchmidt]

An individual with a narcissistic personality style has such a skewed view of the world. It's like their reality filter was drug behind a tractor for 10 acres! They only see themselves, and even THAT view is warped! Stay Healthy, Y'all!!

[michelepascoe]

Parental alienation in our family has affected four generations and lots of extended family, all the work of one covert narcissist, my mother. In each generation, people are missing out on love and happy times together. My Daddy attempted suicide and my stepfather drank too much, both suffering by not being allowed to see their children; and I can relate now, having had two of my children alienated by their poisonous Granny, which means we can’t see our grandchildren either. Most of the time I am living my new life, free of bullies, but now and then I am plunged into despair. The smear campaigns went on for decades. I learned too late what was wrong and better ways of responding. Sometimes it takes my breath away.

[JasonDBennett]

8:57 Thanks for answering my question, Dr. C. I appreciate the validation. It's no fun being the only one who "gets it" in my family of origin. I simply refuse to be a narcissist like my father.

[edenjennings]

Can you speak to the use of silence as contol narrative, silence as rage, silence to silence others. Almost game like use of silence. With the specific purpose being to exacerbate your own rumination, trying to figure out if you are the crazy one. I mean you can ask a direct simple question like do you work tonight? Or did you pay the bill? And they will look at you and walk away or change the subject or leave a text on read. And you could ask the question 20 times and they just repeatedly don't answer. Until you spin up and look like the crazy one.

[snowbear]

I have a so-called friend in a friendship group. She is toxic, manipulative, and a user.
Over the years, I have visited her in hospital, included her at Christmas, given her lifts, had her to stay overnight. She has treated me abominably, and the last time I visited her in hospital I left in tears.
After that, I decided never to help her again and to minimise contact with her.
She now has lymphoma and has sent out a list of requests for help from her friends. I ignored her request. She has family here, she is not alone.
Does this make me a bad person, or do I have the right to protect myself from her cruelty and power games?

[amandaliverpool]

You definitely cannot reason with these people. There is no room for manoeuvre. They won't change.

[MarisaPaola-umyb]

I could stand back and watch the narc screaming in my face..but after years of this treatment i became reactive, triggered, and now i get sucked into their games and defend myself, trying to do better, but more and more was never enough. Im traumatized for life, your brain changes.

[well_weathered]

If you can say there is a humorous side to the crazy you relate it so well, Dr Carter.
That you can get a smile or chuckle out of such a negative situation gives us all a chance to see the absurdity of it. 😏
I look forward to narc math!

[claudiapjimz]

Greetings from Colombia!. Dr.Carter, Team Healthy and Colombian Coffee....this is what I call "Processing life with the love & blessings back at you Dr. Carter and your family. Great contribution to humanity🎀CJimz

[JackieFerrell-fo]

Thank-you, Dr. Carter. This podcast has been very helpful for me, too.

[Mom-]

I told my narcissist my boundaries and will not live by his way of life. His response was "Where do we go from here" and I said "it's up to you." Needless to say, no change. To lazy on forward thinking for any resolution.

[nobibabe]

This was amazing today. Happy I caught this live. Thank you, Dr. Carter im definitely inspired 💛

[andreacook]

Sending much love from New Zealand🍃💛🌺🪷✨🍃

[MarleyLeMar]

A big part of my being able to distance from the narcissist was therapy to heal my insecure attachment style. I found education on that subject and the inner work really helpful, and very do-able. It made advice like "just stay away" actually reach me on the inside. Now I'm not a good fit with them, thankfully. As always for me, I've needed professional support both for doing the work and then for handling the backlash from the change.

[SherryWilson-dkbo]

Thank you Dr.C and Team Healthy ❤️ Love and blessings for you all ❤🙏

[LTNyota]

Can you talk about how anger plays out in a person that was raised by narcissistic parents, and does the anger and frustration in that situation indicate narcissism? Thank you!

[conniedean]

Hello Mr. Team Healthy, I'm a night owl some nights from Ohio. Thankyou for being the best ❤

[bereal]

My question would be why do they 'help' BUT allow you no choices as to what that help looks like, so that if you disagree or ask for it to be different, they then throw back in your face that you're thoughtless and ungrateful.