Midweek with Dr. C- Is It The Narcissist, Or Am I The One Off Base?

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, Tx. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[kobenoah]

I don’t think my narcissist spends anytime plotting to do his controlling or insecure actions. He’s been doing it for so long, i think it just comes naturally. Still incredibly irritating.

[susanmunoz]

I am so grateful for all the wonderful help I am receiving from Dr Carter and Team Healthy! God Bless you all 👍❤️

[TM-hlme]

Yes, very few people one meets can run a healthy relationship. It's a blow to the rosy picture one would like to have about life. But then the true challenge becomes being satisfied with fewer friends and a quieter life, which in fact gives deeper peace in the long run.

[catnc]

My boss appeared at my office door a month or so ago. She'd evidently been dealing with a lot of drama among employees because she said to me, "I just want you to know how much I appreciate how you always get along with everyone. It's a sign of true maturity and character." I teared up and gave her a hug and let her know how encouraging that was for me to hear.

Team healthy!!!

[maryjeanrisheim]

Dr. C. I love it when you sigh. It's so validating! And always makes me smile.

[Jummy]

My brother is narcissists, my family is so dysfunctional, I moved away and went to counseling and parent counseling to break the cycle. I'm home caregiving for my Mom. Going back to counseling

[henryparker]

I hope you see this post Dr.C. This reminds me of what I've been going through, especially after 2016. I'm from California, born in SF, and stay in the San Francisco Bay Area. I've noticed as my political views changed I've noticed more narcissistic traits in my family and some friends: Where do I go from here? I've tightened my circle to limit drama, but I still find myself having superficial conversations/relationships with family (that I still speak to), now just to save face, but I'm so unhappy.

[AhnkAton]

I’m survivor of narcissistic abuse and managed to move on with my life but, , still suspicious of being covertly stalked

[julesm]

Dr Carter is a so knowledgeable and such a blessing in learning about and recovering from emotional and psychological abuse!

[lifewithapurpose]

19:10 *PROJECTION* : " a defense mechanism, you see in other people what you *refuse* to come to terms with inside yourself."
they just want to *acuse* : *tell* : *superimpose*
Best definition explained, gracias Dr. Carter🧸

[justmichael]

One should always give oneself time away from narcissism to renew one's mind . To each their own in time .

[houseplantnerd]

It's all been so confusing. Ive been blamed for all of my mother's issues, failed marriage, trapped by her own kids. Frankly I'm scared. I feel so self protective now that I feel trepidation in nearly all my relationships. I don't feel anyone is dependable. I fear rejection and abdonment in every relationship. I'm exhausted from being guarded. I feel like I'm constantly watching out. I fear I misinterpret behaviors from others, I refer to it as shell shock, not to minimize those who suffer PTSD from war.

[vickimerritt]

My alma mater. Texan here. Your videos are so helpful. Thank you.

[dgloss]

I like JADE: I don't need to Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain. The narcissist tries to put me on the defensive. When I gave up the relationship, I had to grieve, but now I'm free. When a "drive-by" attempt to manipulate me occurs, like a text or inflammatory email, I remember JADE. It's become peaceful.

[donna-colorado]

I used to be very approachable but after being married to someone for 30 years who had narcissistic tendencies and then dating another one after my divorce for 6 years that has even more narcissistic tendencies I am worn out. I am slowly clawing my way out of the hole I have found myself in. I have only been no contact for 10 days so it is all still a struggle but I am determined to overcome. With God, Dr. Carter, Gus, Laura and Team Healthy I will make it.

[PurplePinkRed]

Another incredible livestream! I love watching these whilst relaxing or exercising - They keep me calm and focused. Thank you Dr C for making this available to us 😊

[pointsettaqueen]

I suffered from a narcissistic mother, and then a narcissistic husband. All this psychology was not discussed, named, recognized when I was suffering from my abusers. I finally got support in later years and divorced my husband. Since narcissistim was not understood, many people, including my family still don't accept the terrible truth...that my mother and my husband were abusive toward me. I pray that someday they become knowledgeable enough to believe me, not my abusers. Thank you for verifying my experience during the 77 years I've been on this earth.

[bluemoon]

Dr Carter, thank you for making this video. The disregulation you're mentioning in this video induced in us by the narcissist, is exactly what my life has been for a long time. I've definitely been put in the right environment to doubt about myself, about important things and less important ones. Going through this, is simply exausting!
Over the years, I also came to realise that Narcissists' manipulations has no limits. They're very skilled at their favourite game of manipulating others to make them believe that they are the victims. I've seen this happening several times. It is so revolting!!!
Thank you very much Dr Carter! :)

[nenasadie]

How do we heal when the narcissists project their bad stuff onto us as our parent, so they are doing it before our identity is formed, and then we carry that sense of worthlessness and badness through our whole lives?

What do we do and how do we live when there is not going back to "before" because there is no before. How do we find out who we were supposed to be and get it back?

It feels so much like all I have is my own temperament, healthy AND unhealthy coping strategies, and my mother's projections.

Healing is like trying to repair a watch that hasn't been made yet.

[samcarrs]

I once was blind... but now I see. Thank you Dr. Les Carter!