Midweek with Dr. C- When You Feel “Not Yourself” With A Narcissist

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. In the past 40+ years he has conducted more than 65,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[anxen]

Interacting with narcissistic person feels like hostage negotiation that never ends.

[victoriavitoroulis]

When your w a narcissist, you feel like a POW being held hostage by someone who is MIA in the brain 😵‍💫

[debc]

Thank you Dr. C for stating that everything with a narcissist is transactional. For many years I wondered why every discussion felt like a business meeting. And if I tried to express my feelings after something hurtful was said, I was being dramatic. Yes, narcissism is the opposite of love. The idea of love is so awkward to them. It feels like a first date when you were 12.

[ginag]

Oh love that you and Dr Ramani have a talk together! You guys are the narcissistic abuse management dream team! ❤️❤️❤️

[sanjmalik]

Absolutely true Dr Carter, the narc doesn't know what intimacy is. For 26 years I was alone in our marriage, he wasn't emotionally invested at all. I may as well been living with card board cut out that raged, complained and was utterly miserable and made everyone else's life miserable too.

[gwendolynbien-aime]

Hearing you and Dr. Ramani together is a dream for me!!! You BOTH have helped me SO MUCH!! I can hardly wait!!🥰🥰

[billyrayvalentine]

You are not yourself when you are with a narcissist. You are playing a part in their show. Your life is on hold until you realize it. Sadly I know all too well how it turns out but it is never too late to start again.

[AedanGUnit]

One of the things I first noticed was that I edited myself—something I had never done. I realized that I was editing my feelings and needs at first in order to please him and then later I would do it to avoid conflict, . Walking on eggshells. I hated what I had become. Run from these types before you completely lose your own personal integrity.

[thisisme]

Almost 15 years and NO you can’t have heart to heart intimacy with a NARCISSIST!!! I thought I was crazy!! It DOES NOT HAPPEN. WELL GOD WANTS TO GIVE US THE DESIRES OF OUR HEART AND I WANT THAT!!! IM LEANING ON MY HEAVENLY FATHER AND FINALLY LOVE ME ENOUGH TO SAY TIME IS UP HERE!! He set me free!! ❤

[ashleyeberry]

I wish I could think like a Narcissist long enough to understand the mentality that you and your stuff belongs to them and that they own you. And I get the feeling that the older they get they'd even believe this on their
death bed.

[pmf]

I must add, not only these 'parents' gaslight you, they also "RECORD" every word you say to them, to use against you later on, narcs have ridiculous long-term memory, this is what they using it for. That, and to remember what story (lies they tell people) covers what. So, for example, when you start rationalizing with them, they record or write down what you say, then they call somebody and use your wording posing as "competent" in your field of expertise, but they are not, it's a "recording" .. then it's whether people would believe them or you... that's where they decide to assassinate your character with smear campaigns behind your back... Know this at all times.

[dylannaenzo]

Dignity = right to be who you want to be, and nobody has the right to tell you that "your beliefs, actions, etx" are right or wrong.... everybody gets to run or ruin, their own life.

[楊宜強]

When I react to anything he does I catch myself, literally stand composed and tell my inner self, " he's playing games and you don't play games with people" He's continuing with himself while I'm staying on team healthy with you Dr.Carter and Gus! These were very good questions and very, very helpful answers, Dr.Carter. Thank you.

[realhealing]

You and Dr. Ramini! My favorite people together. I am so excited!!!

[alysiahite]

Was always accused of complaining when I brought any issue up by my exnarc ex husband. I got to the point were I didn't even talk to him much before I left. I decided it was feudal to even try. He is my ex-husband and been gone 4 years and 6 months. Yes I am keeping track because it was very hard to leave but I am in such a peaceful happy place in my life being single.

[windysmith]

My hats off to anyone that can stay in a relationship with them. You can never have an open conversation with them. No compromising, very opinionated, ready to attack, always right. There is never a “we”.

[michelepascoe]

We think about the narcissist way more than they deserve.

[kat-]

Tricks of evil is how they caught you up. THEY hate the Truth.

[tbunnyshy]

It feels like living in the twilight zone. Now I know how thinks work. I am growing and hope to be free soon. To be in acceptance of who they are is the beginning to the end of nonsensical living. Thank you Dr. C. It’s been a long journey and I love these weekly check-ins. 😊❤

[raymondgarafano]

I say, "Be nice, but not too nice."