Midweek with Dr. C- The Many Side Effects Of Narcissism

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[aaronkwolfe]

What's the difference between a bad person and a narcissist? A bad person has limits.

[brucefriedman]

Narcissism is rooted in a commitment to self-preservation and personal gain at all costs, the effect of which is a compromised belief in fair play by its victims. Narcissists perceive this as a weakness as well as an ability to silence dissent.

[daphnejordana]

They'll still try to argue or be condescending, but a good response to gaslighting IMHO is "we remember things differently"

[Angela-ulsi]

I just want to say thank you so very much dr. C your channel has been such game changer for me and my perspectives on my personal healing journey. Your channel is unlike any other channel to me anyways. I focus on me more than I ever have in my entire 49 years of living. I now realize that my feelings and opinions do matter to me and are very important and I will not allow others to cross the boundaries that I have created and set in stone. I am happy to be me and I love myself now. It took me a very longtime to get here but I’m here now and it feels so lovely and it’s a new kind of wonderful for me. Thank you so very much 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼😊🥰🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼. I am so grateful for team healthy 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️‍🩹

[snowbear]

My narcissistic sister has started talking a lot about empathy and accusing a cousin of ours who has cut herself off from the entire family (except for me) of lacking in empathy! She's cut herself off to save herself, and I say good on her. It's amazing how they flip things around and project.

[Summer_Harvest]

Thank you Dr Carter. I appreciate your calmness and candidness . I am always learning from you and waiting for what is next topic. Your channel is changing and saving lives, I really appreciate your dedication. 🌹I consider you a doctor, a professor, and philosopher, and I pray I can keep learning from you.

[karenyounce]

I became so afraid of my narcissistic daughter turning on me and getting my son to coop a move against me claiming I’m crazy and taking my home and locking me up. They coerced against me so severely I changed my beneficiary to my sister

[amandaliverpool]

Not all narcs or emotionally unhealthy people show anger. They can be emotionally draining and dramatic and can be generally quite needy.

[gwendolynbien-aime]

You CANNOT expect honesty from someone who lies to himself.

[Hatbox]

My ex narcissist didn't so much as procrastinate, he just simply wouldn't do anything. He went to work, I'll give him that. But, that's all he did. When he first began talking about buying a home, I knew I didn't want to be entangled in a mortgage with him. Once he bought the house and we moved in I quickly realized what a mistake I'd made moving in with him. He wouldn't mow, wouldn't do anything. And it wasn't just that he wouldn't do it, but he couldn't do it. He didn't know how to change a toilet seat, couldn't hang a mini blind, etc. It all fell on me, plus I worked a full time job.Then he wanted a dog. I didn't. Because he was gone M-F as an OTR truck driver the care of the puppy fell to me. You soon began to feel used and overwhelmed. Plus I was expected to give him a big chunk of my income. I paid for my own enslavement.

[elainesmith]

Being married to a Narcissist is likened to having a Weight sitting on your chest. You feel smothered, gasping for air. I realized it was his constantly trying to control me and my every choice. Alanon taught me that I have the right to Choices, plain and simple and that "NO" IS A ONE WORD SENTENCE, WITH NO EXPLAINATION.! ONE AND DONE! MY CHOICES ARE MINE!

[joannahediger]

Why would one wish to waste one’s time trying to communicate thoughtfully with a narcissist? At best, it’s useless but if it’s a person whose narcissistic behavior has hurt you, it’s painful to yourself. Don’t try to teach a toad to fly!

[lyne]

In my experience, there HAS to be a consequence, just like a five-year old. When the yelling starts, just get up and walk out.

[gwenrios]

Whenever I try to discuss something with my narcissistic husband, he never makes any sense. He just talks in circles. I know I'm an intelligent enough person, that I can comprehend logic when I hear it. So whenever he's illogical, I just calmly listen, and never react. But it so disturbs me that we can't communicate on anything. When I married him, I didn't realize what I was getting in to. Every day I have to thank God for my blessings, and ask forgiveness for my decision to get involved with, and then marry this man. It's sad, because he's supposed to be a christian too.

[lisastiller]

it is good to know that a person can hold onto the internal freedoms, but dealing with years of restriction from someone can be distressing

[BaraSchmidt]

The side effects are numerous while experiencing or post-relationship with an individual with a narcissistic personality style. I use the term relationship loosely, because a narc is a solo flyer. Let's call it "relationship-esque" However, the benefits of disengagement are even more plentiful and valuable! Know Healthy. Get Healthy. Stay Healthy!!

[LibraryBP]

The difference between a narcissist and a "rotten person" is the narcissist won't change their ways, while the "rotten person" can change their ways.

[jenzengarden]

Dr C Everytime I ask him a question, he immediately starts getting defensive and within seconds he starts screaming at me, "I work my a$$ off! I've never cheated on you!!" I simply asked, "why didn't you at a minimum text me? You've been gone for 12 hours on a Saturday?" We didn't talk for 3 days cause I asked. I'm exhausted. But I need an answer to why he always screams "I've never cheated on you! " When I never even asked that. 😢

[michelepascoe]

About narcissistic parents having kids they don't love: my mother was young in the 1950s when it was expected that one would marry and have children. She admitted that she had been "obsessed" with having a baby after someone visited her parents' home with a baby, and my young mother became envious - SHE wanted a baby. She wanted to a baby as a living doll that would make her look good. It was never about the baby - only about her. She put her child down a lot because she wasn't good enough, and despised her for "having accomplished nothing". They had opposite values and considered different things important.

[malwads]

I've learned about Narcissism for years & understand it very well at this these midweek discussions are always such a true delight for me because there's still always at least a 💎 or 2 in them, it also helps that Dr.C is such a peaceful & calm presence.Even for those of us that are still very raw from this type of abuse, these videos would likely be soothing & comforting on top of the educational aspect of them🌞👍🏻👍🏻.