BPD Favorite Person Explained (By A Person Who Has BPD)

Learn what a borderline personality disorder favorite person is and some techniques for coping with the emotions that come along with having a favorite person.

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[bottlewaddle]

I was a BPD's favourite person, I suffered a lot of abuse from them, I wish you great healing

[babygirrrl]

My favorite person is my wife as well. I'm so lucky to have her. She is so supportive ❤

[samiishayne]

Thank you, my friend. I am 28 and just diagnosed in August of last year while developing a relationship with my Favorite Person. The connection is so unhealthy because she is the only connection I've made since the diagnosis. Which makes her the only person to not abandon me completely yet. This video is very helpful, so I thank you. This disorder unites all of us and I hope we can all learn to love ourselves like we so easily love others.

[ClearandHealthyBoundaries]

Hey, you sound like you're from the Caribbean. I'm Trinbagonian. Love you too. Your wife is lucky that, as a man, you've taken your mental health into your own hands and are trying to be better for yourself and her.
It's refreshing to see an informative and proactive video on this topic from someone who lives it.
Stay up, Brother.

[KonjikiKonjiki]

Finally some understanding about why that keeps happening for me, and why I haven't been able to change or nullify it. . The thought of them ending it just hurts to no end.

[Feoshyt]

Holy crap, I can't believe I never knew this. It can explain the immediately intense relationships I've gone through. Like move in within a month and it remains intense and often toxic for however many years. I recently developed a crush on someone, and I have all these highs and lows depending on our interactions. I suffer this in silence, I'm an internalizing bpd so it really turns up the anxiety to the point I think I'm having a heartattack.
Damn. Thank you for explaining this!

[catherinewicker]

This helps me somewhat understand the man I love. The sudden anger and mood changes.

[susanmorgan]

"Limit your expectations" good advice!

[forgottensage-oo]

It's good to see you in a better mood. That video where you look so sad just hurts my heart. And I'm a man!

[maadesaade]

i’m watching this almost two months after i broke up with my partner. I think they have undiagnosed BPD. I don’t really know what to say right now but it felt like everything i did hurt them and for my own self preservation and for theirs as well . I ended it with them. I really did love them but i could feel myself creeping back into a shell i thought i’d moved on from years ago. I didn’t know how to love them. It might sound harsh but i thought i could muscle through and work with them but i abandoned alot of my own sensibilities and my emotions were shoved into a corner just to get by every day with them.

[angelshort]

My favorite person turned into my wife . We are married now but it truly has been a world wind fighting my emotions. I feel so intently and express that to her daily . We are also polar opposites her being and extrovert and I being an introvert. I feel so bad for her sometimes because of all of these uncontrollable thoughts . But she has been so genuine and patient . Please continue to teach me how to properly handle sharing my person with other people . We make sure she has her active fun days and allows me to have my stay at home silent days home with her . How do I protect my emotions ?

[ms.q]

My brother’s baby mama is BPD and it feels untreatable. She uses the kids like bargaining chips. While they were together he was her FP which led to a whole bunch of ugly stuff that negatively impacted our whole family. I threw a summer party for her little kids—they were having so much fun. In the middle of it she calls me and accuses me of coordinating the party so that my brother could break up with her. When I refused to engage she accused me of kidnapping her kids (we were a mile from her house and had her permission in writing to throw them the party). When that didn’t work she showed up, ruined the party, and took the poor traunatized kids home. We want to be there for the kids, but dealing with her makes it a hostage situation and nearly impossible. I find it really hard to empathize with her illness because it’s just out there.

[kpeez_]

Finally found some people that understand me . i thought this issue was an unsolvable issue

[babyfawn]

thanks so much for your videos. they’ve been really helpful, i’ve suspected i had BPD for a while now, I also have ADHD among other mental health issues so things overlap so i wasn’t sure. But this specific video has resonated with me so much. I have this with my partner unfortunately, it’s the exact way you describe it and I didn’t even know there was a term for it. Sending you love and healing x

[ATLIEN]

I admire you putting yourself out there to the world about your struggles and only wish you the best. That puts you ahead of most humans on this planet so keep get up and it will impact others.

[gaylelauren]

I wish I had known I had BPD, bc this has been going on most of my life. This is spot on for me.

[badfish]

you dont understand how much this helps, thank you, God bless you

[spearcat]

Love what your doing here, youngest daughter is unofficially diagnosed. Its pretty much the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. All your points are great, but its the whole you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. I present ideas like this all the time but I don't think she's ready to take it. Even advice on how to be better is met hurt feelings and explosive reactions. You guys may have more intense feelings, but the depth of my sorrow for seeing her suffer (mostly needlessly, unfortunately that's kind of BPD's trademark) and not being able to do anything about it, is absolutely soul crushing to a degree i don't think even you guys can understand imo. Generally it seems like people with BPD are super aware of their feelings but almost completely blind to others. The rest of us suffer from our feelings and theirs as well. If someone not answering a phone call or getting a nasty look is enough to ruin their world, even if just for a bit, can they even begin to comprehend sadness and pain on the level of watching your child be tortured in front of you for no reason and with no ability to help? True empathy is where I think they can find salvation. If you point your attention outward positively then its harder to point it negatively inward near as much, and then you start to do good things that you can be proud of and it can build from there. That's my bit of advice. My heart goes out to all who suffer from this but also very much to the people who support/live with/love those people. I honestly don't know which is worse. Good luck to everyone!

[WolfenDay]

I had a favorite person. I still do, but i managed to let go of my obsession for them for the most part we are still friends and i still love them, but its not the same ammount of like...hostile possesive obsession anymore. sadly i also like shutdown completely emotionally from this and it feels like im stuck being this entirely emotionally unavailable and dissasociative person. just empty, asides from occasional bursts of anger or manicly obsessing over something. Been like this for 4-5 years now. It never ends.

[finallyanime]

for the future higher volume on videos would be great. had to turn it all the way up haha
thanks so much for the video