What’s a favorite person? #bpd #favoriteperson #relationship #relationships #mentalhealth

[HOTNSPICY]

I'm 45, isolated to the point where I think my dog will forever be my favorite person. I feel like I can't deal with ppl anymore, because of what you are explaining so I don't hurt and get hurt. You are so right🥺

[RainRedMusic]

It’s almost like the scrutiny is ensuring the FP hasn’t “fallen from Grace” like one is always looking for evidence of future abandonment.

[KatBlack]

Ahh yes, I'm not really the favourite person, I'm the only person. Most of the time I am hated but, thanks to you Dr Fox, I'm learning so much about BPD. I just wish I could get him, to get help, so he can enjoy the rest of his life.

[Martinbeef]

My favourite person is on a pedestal almost all the time. I want immediate reactions when I ask for something and I get upset when they say things that I consider as attacks. They are autistic. It’s an interesting combination.
Thanks for this information. The awareness is important for me.

[BrillPappin]

It really, really sucks being a favourite person to someone who is untreated.

[susannehein]

It's a catastrophy to be imprissoned to be someones favorite Person. To get out of it is troublesome for both Sides but absolutely necessary to survive.

[reginejones]

So im realizing i have bpd...been thinking about it for awhile and it makes sense to me. My favorite person has always been the man im in a relationship with. I will put everything on or into this person so when this person finally needs a break from me i feel rejected and im willing to then throw the whole relationship away. It doesnt matter. Any sense of you dont want me and my world is crushed and i hate you now. 🤦🏾‍♀️ and i hate the fact that i get this way because i end up running back to the person once i calmed down. Making me look flaky and unreliable. I cant make friends i kind of refuse to let anyone get too close because everyone who i let close ends up disappointing me. And simply because im a ppl pleaser and i do things out of the kindness of my heart or so i thought. I can see how doing things for ppl can lead to me looking for them to give back in return. And when they dont i hurt. So i tell myself if i give or do anything dont expect things in return. But when you give and give and it seems like no one says thank you or even think to do anything on another day, the same day or even next week. When ppl dont think to do anything back it makes me think. Well damn whats wrong with me? Im deeply depressed and even calling to get a therapist these ppl take weeks to get back to you. I dont know what to do anymore. Getting tired

[jesuisavie]

The very confusing things to me are idealization and then devaluation and discard .

[bethtaylor]

Jesus being my 'favorite person' is the stability I need. He's been there all these years. He wants to be everyone's 'favorite person' and is the only one I know who can actually do that...permanently.

[ultrasonic]

My favorite person used to be my ex who has NPD. Not a good combination.

[WhitePelicansareReal]

I’ve decided to not a favorite person anymore, it’s not fair to them. I’ll go it alone again.

[Anotherhumanexisting]

Can this happen with a job/workplace too?

[joshuarodriguez]

Honestly I'm not sure if I have bpd or a host of other issues but this feels familiar or similar to limerance that I know I end up doing a lot not sure if these two concepts are connected though.

[ixchellovesrainbows]

I'm a bit scared to comment. I've a lot of diagnoses but it's actually making sense that I have bpd and I have favourite people.

My question is can you have more than 1 favourite? So my rock and my partner was my favourite for years but I'm learning we need to work on a lot of things to improve our relationship and connection and that actually may play a part in the realisation I have a new favourite person we aren't in a relationship as I am loyal but I'm fixated and it's quite obvious that I care about this other person. It's been going on for about 7 months

So is it possible to have more than 1 favourite person? I'll be looking for someone that understands bpd to see if they believe me to have it too

Thanks

[Nuetral]

Dr Fox actually did do a really amazing video here on YouTube with clay figures in the thumbnail, definitely check that out everyone.

Personally, I never trusted anyone to be my favorite person... until I decided to treat my BPD as my companion instead of an affliction. And that actually worked out great for me. In many ways you BPD is more capable of succeeding in that role than anything or anyone else. (IMO)

[ceaseanddesist]

You say object. Are BPDs likely to attach stronger feelings towards objects also? Like I wanna sell some of my cars, but its allmost impossible

[ajhproductions]

Favorite person used to be my wife. It was a very toxic marriage. Then when I had my son, he became the favorite, and he always will be 😊 his mom passed away not too long ago so it’s been a bumpy ride, but if I’ve got him and he’s got me, everything will be okay.

[mac-juot]

In all honesty idont have a🥰😀favorite person. I come from a large family.ive watched thongs play put on several jobs when people do splitting.this happens in live relationships, families ...on the job.its why do started my degree in the field of psychology after being botha receptionist and teacher

[lenore_evermore]

i wish i could unfavorite my favorite person :(